1. Allow the child to explain
Whether the child is right or wrong, allow the child to explain it himself. Parents should remain neutral and objectively evaluate whether and why their children are doing wrong.
2. Learn to think differently
Parents should think differently, understand the purpose of their children's actions, and find the entry point for criticism. And let the child think in a different position: "If you are that person, how will you feel, and is it right to do this?" ”
3. Self-criticism first
Before criticizing the child, the parents first carry out self-criticism, lower their stature, and quickly close the relationship with the child. Parental self-criticism can also allow children to learn self-reflection.
4, only the right thing is not the right person
If the child does something wrong or does not do a good job, the parent's first reaction is not scolding, but guidance. Talk about things and let your child understand why you can't do this and what the consequences of doing so will be.
5. Teach children to correct mistakes
We should not blindly criticize, but let the child realize the mistake through the scientific method and find a way to correct the mistake.
6. Choose the right time
You can't criticize your child when he gets up, before he goes to bed, when he eats, or when he is sick, which will directly affect his physical and mental health.
7. Adopt a kind attitude
Criticizing children ≠ scolding children, parents can not vent their emotions to their children, they should point out mistakes concisely and concisely, and then educate. Don't turn over old accounts without moving, let the child resist admitting mistakes, and disobey discipline.
8. Respect your child's self-esteem
Don't criticize the child in front of outsiders, and don't beat and scold the child in front of his classmates and teachers.
Not only adults need to be respected, children also need to be respected, and children's hearts are more fragile and sensitive than we think.
Parenting is never easy, and sometimes looking at children from a different perspective can surprise you.
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