advise
Case: Quarrel with a companion, snatch a toy...
Method: First put down the work at hand, and walk to the child's side, let the child know that you are paying attention and attention; then ask the child the reason for the dispute, quarrel, and patiently listen to the child's thoughts; instill the child to hit people, robbery is not the correct behavior and concept, and ask the child to learn to say "please, thank you, sorry."
Advice: Do not suppress or threaten the child with a loud voice; do not directly pull the child away and then reprimand the child loudly; avoid hurting the child's self-esteem between words.
Hit the palm of your hand
Cases: Fights, littering...
Method: Make a paper stick from newspaper, the appearance can be wrapped in a layer of wrapping paper; give it a name, such as vigilance stick, Chen Jia stick... Placed in a fixed place as a warning.
Suggestion: When you are in a good mood, you can discuss with your child the reason for making a vigilance stick; when punishing your child, first let him say what he is wrong; remind the reason for the punishment; pay attention to safety issues, the part of the beating is mainly the palm of the hand, the buttocks, and other parts should be avoided.
Penalty sitting
Case: Noisy, quarrelsome...
Method: Put a cushion or a chair on the penalty area, you can take a name; prepare an alarm clock or clock to time the penalty time.
Suggestion: The place of punishment is not directly opposite the gate, not too obvious; limit the time of punishment, or let the child say how long the punishment will be; after the punishment, let the child say the reason for the punishment today.
Help with housework
Cases: Scribbles, littering, toys...
Method: Prepare a rag, broom, basin and other cleaning utensils, so that children can learn to clean and develop neat habits.
Advice: Parents should always pay attention to their children's safety; smaller children can be led by their parents to do housework; train children to develop the habit of returning things to their original places; and ask children what they learn when they help with housework.
Paintings
Case: Like to scold, scratch, kick, bite and other small actions.
Method: According to the family's situation, place a small table in a fixed place (the punishment table is best not to be the usual desk, dining table, guest table, etc., so as not to cause fear and fear when the child uses these tables in the future); prepare a picture book and brushes of different colors, so that the child can draw and write out the thoughts in his heart.
Suggestion: When the child is injured, first deal with the injured part and then punish; let the child draw down the time that occurred and the things that were wrong; adults should first control their emotions, and can learn from the child's paintings that the child's psychological thoughts of making mistakes; this is an art therapy method, which will not hurt the child's self-esteem.
Penalty station
Case: Deliberately jumping from a high place, running and jumping in the car.
Method: Plan a punishment area in the home, you can take a name, the location is mainly against the wall, not facing the door; the floor is covered with soft cushions; prepare a clock or alarm clock to time the child's punishment time.
Suggestions: The place of punishment should not be too obvious or facing the door, so as not to hurt the child's self-esteem; talk to the child about the punishment time should not be too long, otherwise it will cause the child to be more naughty counter-effect; depending on the height of the child to determine the height of the mat; after the punishment, ask the child the reason for being punished, let the child know the reason for the mistake.
Read and write
Cases: Violent tendencies, lying, taking the sheep by the hand...
Method: Choose a fixed punishment area to lay a cushion or place a small table; put pencils, drawing paper, colored pens, story books, colored paper in the punishment area... Let the child write or read a book by himself first to dissolve the child's angry emotions.
Suggestion: When you can't put down the work immediately, you can first ask the child to go to the punishment area to reflect; don't angrily rebuke the child's no, isolate with the child first, ease each other's emotions; and after the emotions calm down, ask the child's motivation for making a mistake.
Confiscate beloved things
Case: Noisy, littering, not receiving toys...
Method: Confiscate the child's littered items as punishment.
Suggestion: First put down the work at hand and walk to the child's side, let the child know that the mother is paying attention and attention; tell the child to put away the littered items, stop the noise, otherwise there will be a punishment; let the child say why he made a mistake and why the mother is angry.
Row of beans
Case: For lack of patience, littering, etc.
Method: Prepare a box, plate, with red, green and other colored beads, a few plastic jars; let the child on the punishment table, put the beads of various colors in the correct position.
Suggestion: If the child himself is very rebellious, according to the situation for the child to modify the treatment, you can first punish the standing, punishment and then do the punishment; this purpose is to train the child to develop the habit of returning to the original place; can train the hand-eye coordination, discernment ability; after completion, let the child know the reason for the punishment.
Certain rights and demands are prohibited
Case: Don't like to brush your teeth, picky eaters, litter...
Method: Temporarily prohibit touching the things that children love to eat and play as punishment.
Tip: Don't speak out loud to your child in a threatening, angry manner; let your child know why these rights are prohibited, and restore your rights when your child performs well in the future.
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