As the saying goes, "It is difficult to draw a tiger and paint a skin, but it is difficult to draw a bone.
Knowing the face knows the face and does not know the heart. ”
What is said is, just look at the surface,
It is impossible to really understand a person.
But the great things of the world will be done in detail,
And words are the voice of the heart, and the words of the heart are the words of the heart,
In fact, daily speech and behavior,
It has already exposed the truest appearance of a person.
The simplest,
Look at how a man speaks,
You can know what kind of person the other person is,
Especially the way of speaking that has long been established.
People who have no mouth, who are rude and rude,
Gentle-talking people, kind and amiable,
And the people who often put thank you on their lips,
Often these 3 kinds, it is worth deep friendship!
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Cultured, comfortable people
A girl asked:
"What's the mindset of someone who never says thank you?"
It turns out that the girl's roommate never says thank you,
Lend her things, give her food, help her bring food,
Whatever she did, she wouldn't say.
I can understand the helplessness of the girl,
It's like giving up a seat on a bus,
Some old people have no expression on their faces, and they sit down as soon as they are on their butts.
Some elderly people will smile and reply with a "thank you".
Give up your child's seat, and you will often receive a sentence
Milky "thank you".
A very small detail,
A simple "thank you",
Not only did it speak out of a person's politeness,
It also shows a good family style and upbringing.
Chinese nature is implicit,
The older generation of parents are not good at saying thank you,
But they teach us "thanks" in another way.
For example, grateful smiles, food given between neighbors.
True upbringing,
It has nothing to do with knowledge, appearance, money,
Nor can it be learned overnight,
It is the accumulation of bits and pieces, the self-consciousness rooted in the heart.
A cultured man,
Words and deeds are measured, and the soul has depth,
And never hesitate to express gratitude to others,
Getting along with them is often as comfortable as the spring breeze.
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A person who is gentle at heart and knows how to think empathetically
Mr. Lu Xun said:
"Human sorrow and joy are not connected."
But people with gentle hearts know how to think in empathy,
Give the utmost respect and understanding to others.
I like Li Jian,
Because he has a strong ability to empathize.
On a music variety show,
Contestant Hao Yaqing tearfully introduced himself:
"I'm an activist singer."
A mentor asked, "What is an active singer?" ”
Another mentor explained, "Just go when the building opens..."
Before he finished speaking, Li Jian said lightly:
"Oh, it's pretty much the same as us."
In a short sentence, it is respect, it is understanding,
Gentleness that is not embarrassing.
YiShu once said this:
"A sign of a person's true maturity,
It is to find that there are fewer and fewer people who can blame,
The reason is simple, everyone has their own difficulties,
And you don't necessarily understand their lives. ”
Because of kindness, so understanding,
Because I understand, I am gentle.
Gentle-hearted man,
There are always others in my heart,
Not proud in the top, not humble in the bottom,
Always sincerely express gratitude to everyone,
After asking a stranger for directions,
When getting help from a colleague or friend,
When taking the meal from the sweaty takeaway guy,
A gentle thank you, heartwarming.
The best kindness of a person,
It's empathy.
A man who often puts his thanks on his lips,
Be considerate of everything, always be merciful, and compare your heart to your heart,
Not only is it popular, but it can win people's hearts and minds for a long time.
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Grateful, sincere and generous people
Writer Zhang Xiaofeng said:
"Whoever refuses to say 'thank you',
Is a proud and indifferent person,
He felt in this world
It was a day of "silver and silver". ”
When more and more people,
When the efforts of others are taken for granted,
There are still some people who can always remember the good of others,
Be grateful, content and blessed.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber",
Grandma Liu asked for help from Jia Fu for survival,
I got 20 taels of silver from Wang Xifeng and thanked him in every way.
Later, Jia Fu fell, and others avoided it in time,
She first went to visit in prison,
Later, he sold his property to redeem the sister who was sold.
Although Grandma Liu is only a peasant woman, she is simple and generous,
The fountain of dripping water is reciprocated.
A man who knows how to be grateful,
Understand that no one in this world owes anyone anything,
To those who help themselves, kindness is always in the heart,
Zhi En Tu Bao is not an empty word.
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People who like to put thank you on their lips deserve deep friendship
Cai Kangyong said:
"Talking is something we use on our own with a little heart,
Things that can be constantly improved.
How you speak determines who you are. ”
The more you can talk, the happier others will be,
The happier others are, the more they like you.
A person who likes to put "thank you" on his lips,
Humble and polite, kind and educated,
Gratitude and gratitude, heavy affection and righteousness,
Not selfish, know how to think empathetically.
With such a person,
Don't bother, comfortable, comfortable,
Such a person is also the most worthy of deep friendship.
"Thank you" makes people in the desert world
Suddenly I felt a kind of "grace of knowing",
For the rest of your life, be a sincere and warm person,
Also cherish the friends who like to say "thank you".