Knowing how to perfect others is actually achieving oneself.
As the saying goes: "The beauty of a gentleman's adulthood is the evil of an adult." ”
Between people, there is a coming and going is the best state. To complete others is to accomplish oneself.
Long-term relationship is to know how to complete each other and achieve each other.
Everyone grows up in a different environment, the way of thinking, personal preferences are not the same, if you think that your preferences are right, it is inevitable that some are too one-sided.
Gentlemen are harmonious and different.
A long-term relationship should be tolerant of each other, I stick to my preferences, and respect your differences.
Just like in this world, there are no two leaves that are the same, and there must be differences between people.
Not forcing each other to correct and knowing how to respect each other is the best criterion for interacting with people.
A cultivated person will not forcibly instill his own views on others, not one-sidedly measure the right and wrong of others, and not use his own standards to judge the rights and wrongs of others.
The wider the horizon, the more you know how to respect the "difference" of others. Only in this way can we get along more harmoniously with each other.
I have read a sentence: "I respect any independent soul, and although some of them I do not approve of, I can understand as much as possible." ”
Gallery of Masters | Wu Guanzhong
Between people, the most important thing is the word "measure".
If you have a measure in your heart, you will not evaluate it easily; if you know how to advance and retreat, you will not hurt arbitrarily.
The ancients said: "Everything that is too much is a loss, and it is necessary to grasp the measure." ”
With a measure, we know that there is a degree of progress and retreat, and we understand that it is appropriate to stop, and the relationship between each other will be more stable and the relationship will be more harmonious.
Getting along with people and not crossing each other's boundaries at will is an ability and a truth for people to live in the world.
Such a person knows how to move forward and backward, and knows how to speak in proportion.
They know that too much time will only lead to regurgitation, and only by grasping the measure of it can we make each other easy and pleasant, and the relationship is harmonious and appropriate.
A sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, which knows how to observe the necessary distance between people in interpersonal communication.
Really powerful people know how to grasp the measure in getting along, and have a degree of progress and retreat.
Because only in this way is the best way to maintain a relationship in the long run.
Different locations, the perspective of the world, will be different.
Learn to think differently and see things from the perspective of others, and only then will you have different answers.
Many times, there is no so-called right and wrong, just because the position is different, the angle is different, so there are different views and opinions.
To be a person, you must know how to think in empathy. Because in this world, there are many differences.
Everyone has their own way of life and principles, and no one is qualified to judge the right and wrong of others, and it is impossible to force others to be consistent with themselves.
Some people say: "Know how to think differently, can really stand in the position of others to see problems, consider problems, and can effectively help others solve problems, the world is yours." ”
Gallery of Masters | Wu Guanzhong
In life, it is inevitable to have conflicts with others.
Finding the reason from yourself first can not only solve the problem faster, but also the embodiment of a person's high cultivation.
Everyone has shortcomings, and treating the people and things around them with a tolerant heart is the greatest kindness to get along with people.
Measure people first measure themselves, and blame people first ask themselves.
When encountering people and encountering things, only by calmly introspecting can we understand ourselves more correctly.
A single line does not become silk, and a single tree does not become a forest.
Between people, the most important thing is to complete each other and achieve each other. A truly long-lasting relationship is not just about being yourself, but about becoming one of each other.
When you know how to work with others, you are one step closer to success.
Get along with people, respect the differences of others, be moderate, know how to reflect on yourself, and understand empathy.