The writer Sanmao once said:
"The most beautiful relationship between friends is the icing on the cake; the most precious thing is to send charcoal in the snow; the best among friends is like good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not fragrant, slowly wafting, like a long stream of water."
On the road of life, it is always indispensable to accompany friends, resist the wind and rain with us, and feel the cold and warmth of the world together.
The most important thing is what kind of friends we walk with, and what kind of people we will eventually become.
Therefore, some people's attitude towards friends is to dig out their hearts and lungs, treat each other with sincerity, and think that they can also exchange others for such a return. However, the result backfired, and only calculations were encountered, which made people heart-wrenching.
These people always like to do something harmful to others and self-interest in the name of friends, making it difficult to distinguish between true and false at the first time, and do not know how to trust a person.
Yes, if you are deceived and believe in a person again, it will be more difficult, and every time you think about the past of others' calculations, you will feel that your heart is faintly painful.
In fact, if you really want to see a person clearly, you can't just look at how he expresses, but more importantly, look at the specific behavior of the other party.
Through each other's every move, truly see through a person, see a person clearly, and do not grieve for those who are not worthy of traveling, let alone for those who are not worth cherishing.
If someone treats you like this, no matter how long you have known each other, don't contact them again.
Don't try to change each other, it is only in vain, it is better to make friends who treat yourself sincerely, this is the greatest meaning of life.
1 Those who call themselves brothers and brothers in practice only consider the gains and losses of interests
I have seen such a sentence: "There is a strange kind of person who makes friends, gets a little fame and fortune, and all the friends come; a little cough, the friends are all scattered, it is advisable to follow the fate, and do not spend too much energy to pursue." ”
In the real world, some people are good at winning people's hearts, superficially calling you brothers and brothers, like a family, and even caring for you meticulously, the purpose is to hope that you will let down your inner guard and take yourself as a friend.
Once you have given everything and think that you have found a close friend and confidant in life, but when it comes to interest-related matters, the true face of the other party will be revealed, and the two will be judged immediately, making people unbearable to look at them directly.
When you meet such a person, you will make yourself feel a psychological shadow, and every time you think of it, it is like a stone pressed on your heart, which makes people breathless and sigh.
To tell the truth, these people do not really take you as a friend from the heart, but only regard you as their prey, and after getting the desired benefits from you, they immediately run away. If they can still get more benefits from you, they will pretend that nothing has happened, and come to you again, and their amazing acting skills will surprise you.
The writer Zhou Guoping once said: "All those who stand up to the interests of friendship in the name of friendship have not broken in the end, and in the end they accuse each other of not being friends enough, and express their indignation for the fragility of friendship." In fact, what is the matter with friendship, the so-called friendship is false from the beginning, but it is just a mask and tool for interests. ”
When you meet such a person, you don't have to think about it, don't have to think about it, and stay away as soon as possible.
2 People who usually have no contact and will think of you when they have difficulties
The feelings between people are often slowly established through repeated contacts and exchanges, and they are definitely not simply talking.
Some people, perhaps only one side of the relationship, may slowly lose contact, never hear from each other again, and forget each other. Even if two people do not intersect in the circle of friends, you are sure that from now on the two people will never have any contact, and they must have become two types of people in different worlds, when the other person suddenly appeared.
He and you booed and asked for warmth, let you remember the bits and pieces of the past together, you think that the other party is here to reminisce about the past, but the other party's words turn sharply, either looking for you to borrow money, or looking for you to do things, must have encountered difficulties.
You didn't refuse, you sincerely helped, but the other person turned his head and disappeared without a trace, as if he had never appeared.
However, after another period of time, he had difficulties again, so he thought of you again...
In fact, for such a person, there is really no need to continue to give kindness, he did not take you as a friend at all, just treated you as a person to use, remember to stay away.
They will never take you as a true friend, and once they get more from you, they will fuel their own greed, and if you are not satisfied in time, they will bite you without the slightest hesitation.
To stay away from such people is to be the best kind to oneself.
3 People who never know how to empathize and will only blame you
When two people get along, if there is no empathy, it is actually not long-lasting.
This is because when getting along, if you only consider your own feelings, gains and losses and interests, and never care about each other's bits and pieces, this is not only a manifestation of selfishness, but also a specific performance that you do not look at as a true friend.
Acquaintance with people, in order to make the other party feel their sincerity, often the most performance is to empathize, the purpose is to hope that their own good intentions let the other party see, this is the heart really cares about the performance, but also a signal of goodwill.
Only those who really understand will give the same return, and two people will identify with each other from the heart, and the relationship will become deeper and deeper.
However, although some people say that they are friends, no matter what you do, it is impossible to warm his heart, in addition to not thinking about your feelings in a different position, but when he is with you, he will complain about you, always push all kinds of failures on you, and see you as useless.
If you really can't stand it and protest to the other party, the other party continues to blame you: I have an iron relationship with you, I will say this about you, do you see me talking about others?
To tell the truth, it is not that the relationship iron will be like this, but he looks down on you from the heart, no matter how you pay, it is a void after all.
Such a person, don't try to be inspired by time, will only make you less and less confident in the other party's depreciation, and even begin to doubt the value of life.
True friends, encouraging each other to move forward bravely, not to be abandoned, but to grow together.
Time is short, and you can walk with friends who deserve to be cherished;
Time is long, remember to stay away from passers-by who are not worth socializing with.
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