Author | Erhe
Have you ever experienced such helplessness:
The child is sick and refuses to drink medicine;
When sending kindergarten, Hum and Chick refuse to go;
Obviously, there are already a lot of the same models at home, but when you get to the toy store, the children are still rolling around looking for you...
The following dad's approach may open your eyes.
He is not anxious, the second is not moving, laughing and hehe a few words, he can turn the problem into invisible, and the two of them get along easily and happily.
How?
After a closer count, this high-quality dad mainly did these three things:
The way to communicate with children is humorous and interesting, and it is easy for children to accept;
Understand the child's emotions and be super patient with the child;
Praise and encourage children without reservation;
Most importantly, it is particularly distressing for the wife.
Solve problems with games
After being a parent, you know that no one can avoid the problem of taking medicine.
In order to let the child obediently drink medicine, how many fathers and sons turned against each other as "enemies".
How does this dad (TikTok @ Don't Choke) do it?
He first took a glass of water, raised a glass to his son, and opened the scene happily:
"You are also an old medicine drinker, does the process still use me to say more?"
The son held the medicine cup and understood in seconds: "No need, deep feelings, a mouthful!" ”
TikTok @ don't choke
Does the opening sound familiar? The tense atmosphere of drinking medicine dissipated and became the scene of the liquor bureau, and this small atmosphere made the grandfather and grandfather pinch to death.
Then Dad began an impassioned "toast":
"Come, big brother, first two sentences." It is also my honor to know your little brother through Ma Ma, and we will see you later, okay? ”
"Okay!"
After the toast is not counted, this father also made up the scene of rushing to check out after eating: "Don't rob me for a while, I will settle the account." "I please."
After the two grandfathers decided who would "invite guests", the father was still trying to add a few more words, and the son was anxious: "Brother Qiang, don't talk about it, I am thirsty." ”
There is no need to urge and shout at all, and a cup of medicine is drunk.
This drinking medicine scene, there is no trace of nervousness, this father does not spend a soldier, open the game mode, just drink the medicine this matter becomes easy and happy.
If you change to someone else, you may be impatient: "Isn't it just a drink of medicine?" Why are you struggling so hard? ”
But this father did not, he understood the child's nervousness, but also knew the child's natural fear of medicine. That's why he uses humor and game mode to help children counteract fears.
The more tolerant the parents, the happier the children.
See the child's emotions, be the child's "good buddy"
Once, when I arrived at the door of the kindergarten, my son began to hum and chirp, but he did not want to go to the kindergarten.
Dad didn't get a little impatient, but he joked: "When you get to kindergarten, I won't keep you."
Son pleaded: "Stay~"
Dad said, "There is no feast under the heavens, so go ahead." ”
But no matter how much persuasion, the son still refused to get off, and the father felt that something was wrong and began to do psychological construction:
"That's slow with you." You still have something to worry about, you have said it, come, Daddy did it for you today. ”
The son muttered a small mouth, a face of entanglement, and finally said what he said in his heart: "Dad, I just want to watch TV and eat lollipops." ”
Dad immediately expressed his determination: "Son, you are responsible for playing the world in the kindergarten, Dad guarantees that you will come home from school and eat hot, the cartoons are cached, and the lollipop paper will be pickpocketed for you." ”
Hearing this, my son also began to smile on his face.
Dad continued to ask, "Is it okay to slow down?" ”
The son nodded decisively: "Slow down! Also laughed out loud.
Finally, the father and son stretched out their fists and said in unison, "Good buddy for a lifetime!" Go out! With a ceremonial farewell, my son happily went to kindergarten.
Who says that when you reject a child, you have to be serious? It can also be gentle and clever, taking full care of the child's face and emotions, and achieving the goal faster.
Psychologists point out that the amygdala, which is responsible for expressing stressful emotions, does not mature until the child is about 15 years old.
That is to say, before the age of 15, the child may not recognize or express this pressure and emotion, so all of this needs to be actively seen by parents.
Many times, we will complain that children are unwilling to take the initiative to open their mouths, but they ignore that it may be our strength and carelessness that block the way to communicate.
Dad loves Mom and is the best tutor
When you have time, your father will call out to your son, and educate him bitterly, son, you are not too old, your father taught you to learn all your life, do you want to learn?
The son was full of anticipation: "I want to learn!" ”
Dad looked proud: "Dad taught you this knowledge, you are likely to use it in the future." Man, as long as he occupies the kitchen, it will be good for us to talk at home later. ”
Then the grandfather and grandfather looked at the camera and began to shout to their mother: "You have to eat whatever I do!" You say nothing is bad, eat it and you're done! ”
Say the harshest things, do the most provocative things.
The next second, the two grandfathers sat together in the kitchen, the father was responsible for cutting the potatoes, the son took it and put it in the basin, and the father and son matched seamlessly.
Then, the son stood on a small stool, crossed his feet, washed the dishes with his father, poured it into the pot, wiped the table, and then pressed the button and waited for a pot of fragrant rib rice to be ready.
Then, carrying a small rice pocket in his left hand and a toy car in his right hand, the father and son went to deliver the hot meal to their mother's unit.
Father loves mother, is the best family education class for children.
This is the best state of the family, the father invisibly teaches the son, the mother is particularly important, the grandfather and the grandfather must protect the mother together.
In the family where parents love each other, children know that there is love hidden in every tea and meal.
Praise the child unreservedly
From time to time, the father would praise his son:
"Son, people say that excellent people love to play with excellent people, I love to play with you, what do you say?"
Before the son could react, his father immediately added, "Because we are both excellent." ”
The son immediately smiled and squinted, and proudly repeated: "We are both excellent!" ”
Dad quickly continued to encourage: "When I look at you young man, you are old and industrious." ”
The son also nodded his head, especially beautiful: "I am old and industrious, and I always love to work." ”
Before the little guy could react, he took the teapot that his father had stuffed into his hand and started making tea for his father.
From practicing pouring tea for dad to laying out the quilts of father and son, there are all kinds of looks.
Don't forget, children initially rely on their parents' evaluations to know themselves.
When you express your affirmation to your child from the bottom of your heart, he will also recognize himself more and more.
Too many people have left messages saying that such a cute and sensible son, such a gentle and loving father, such a father-son combination, is really rare.
This father broke the truth in one word: "I am also a father for the first time, and companionship is the best experience." It is to encourage each other and to complete each other. ”
Yes, father and son, encouraging each other and completing each other, is the best choice.
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Author: Erhe, journalist, pastry chef, likes fresh and interesting text, prefers sweet and rich cream. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.