Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
Recently, due to special circumstances, my son, who is in the third grade, has taken online classes at home.
Once the online class, the son is like a small wild horse who has been happy, usually getting up in the morning to rub and rub, the online class is not active, and the after-school homework left by the teacher is also procrastinating.
In response to this situation, I have recently tried many methods, and I always think that good education is not carried out in scolding and urging, but in parent-child education and getting along, there must be better choices.
In my continuous experiments, I did find a learning method that makes children learn very efficiently, and after practice, using this method, the child's interest in learning is higher, and it effectively improves the small habits of procrastination and rubbing, even the first two days of small exams, the son's score has also improved significantly.
So today, I will share it with you, parents may wish to try.
01. Aidma's Law
This is a theory I saw in a book, and when I saw it, I wanted to apply it to the education of children.
The so-called AIDMA law has nothing to do with education, it refers to the entire psychological process of consumer purchase.
There are five steps in total: attract attention, arouse interest, arouse craving, leave memories, and buy actions.
So how to apply this law to children's education and learning?
In fact, the method I use is very simple, and I will use the online lesson as an example here.
Tell him 3 sentences:
First: Tomorrow morning at eight o'clock in the morning you will have an online class, which is your favorite teacher Zhang's class. (Get noticed, and set an alarm for your child, remind you, and repeat this sentence when the alarm clock rings, if your child doesn't get up in time.) ）
Second: I heard that The class taught by Teacher Zhang today is very interesting, my mother specially prepared you with your favorite IPAD, after the class, remember to share it with your mother. (Arouse interest and hint at my needs.) With the triple blessing, the child will be more serious. ）
Third: Teacher Zhang said that today you listen to the lectures super seriously, if you can continue to maintain, the small red flowers at the end of this semester are yours. (Praise the child, evoke the desire, and make a memory for the careful listening to the lesson).
Repeat this process a few more times, the child will like this feeling, he has a huge motivation and interest in learning, over time, will form a very self-disciplined learning habits, and harvest a sense of achievement.
Of course, in ordinary life, we want our children to be able to continue to do one thing, and this method can also be adopted.
Instead of getting angry, complaining, and criticizing, it is better to use this method that stimulates the child's emotions and senses to enhance his own internal drive.
At the same time, he will feel valued, loved, respected, and self-existent.
02. What should we do when we can't personally tutor our children with homework?
Nowadays, many children's homework is tutored by parents, but parents cannot stay by their children's side all the time.
Therefore, many parents are particularly worried that when they are in front of them, their children are learning to bully, and once they leave, their children will be happy.
So what to do about this situation?
Today I'm going to share with you a little skill of mine, and of course, I was inspired by an experiment by Harvard social psychologist Elen Lange.
He asked the experimenters to run to the library and ask the people waiting in line to cut in line and copy the 5-page material.
Before the experiment, they prepared a total of 3 kinds of speech techniques, namely:
1): Sorry, I have 5 pages to copy, can you let me copy it first?
2) Sorry, I have 5 pages to copy, can you let me copy first, because I have an urgent matter.
3) Sorry, I have 5 pages to copy, can you let me copy it first? Because I'm going to make a few copies of paper.
After experiments, it was found that 60% of people would agree to the request using the first method of talking.
Those who used the second and third techniques agreed with 94% and 93%.
In fact, everyone carefully studied these three kinds of words, in fact, the third kind is completely nonsense, the only difference is that there are two words that are particularly important, that is, "because".
So come to the conclusion that we like to make a reason for what we do.
Therefore, in the process of educating children, if the word "because" can be added, the effect will often be much better.
Therefore, I generally if I can't correct and tutor the child in time, I will tell the child a word: because the mother has to work overtime today, I am afraid it will be very late, so the homework needs to be completed by yourself, but the mother believes that you can complete it very well.
Tell your child why and recognize your child's abilities.
This small method can also be applied to other places, such as the child is more naughty, often jumping up and down noisy, you can tell the child: don't jump around, because there is an old grandmother living downstairs, his health is not good.
If you can learn this little method, then the child will seriously consider your request, and the probability of agreeing to your request and doing it will be greatly increased.
03. The best education is who we work harder than we do
The last one, to share with you is also a small method of mine, after my own actual measurement, the effect is very good, the child in learning and doing homework, etc., will appear to be very efficient.
This method is also very simple to say.
In short, while children are studying hard, parents must also work hard to do one thing.
For example, the child is learning, the parent is reading, or the parent is cleaning.
We can tell the child: Let's compare and see, do you finish your homework first, or I read the book first, and the loser cleans up.
The advantage of this method is that everyone has a competitive spirit, and children are no exception, in order to win, children will complete what they are doing with extreme concentration.
Of course, parents should not be clever, when we first adopt this method, we must let the child win, and use the appearance of bad luck to clean up, declare the child a victor, and deepen the memory of this efficient learning.
Over time, children will enjoy this struggle with each other, and this learning comparison will be made with other children in school.
Therefore, I have always believed that a really good education is actually just a sentence: parents and children, than who to work harder.
Mother Themi's message:
I am a mother of two children, in this marathon of educating my children, I hope to use correct and positive education methods to convey an optimistic attitude towards life to my children.
Therefore, we can't stubbornly rely on our own temperament, but should continue to learn and work hard with our children, so that we can move forward side by side and never fall behind.
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