The bully couple gave birth to a "prodigy"
The Xueba couple gave birth to a "prodigy" daughter, and when they were 2 years old, they knew a lot of Chinese characters, which made the couple proud.
But just when they took the child for examination, the doctor found the problem and told them worriedly: "You should quickly take the child to the mental hospital to see!" ”
Since he is a "child prodigy", why is he still advised to go to a mental hospital?
How did this child fare afterwards?
Hard-won daughter
Giving birth to a "child prodigy" daughter was originally a very enviable thing, but Du Jialin and her husband Xia Yuefeng, who gave birth to this "child prodigy", were not happy.
Both of them are hunan people, and when they were young, they were also academic bullies, known each other for many years, and later they were both admitted to Beijing for development. Xia Yuefeng was a student at Beijing University of Posts and Telecommunications, while Du Jialin was assigned to the Beijing Information Science and Technology University as a teacher.
On June 16, 1999, Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng returned to their hometown for a wedding.
At that time, there were many people attending the wedding, because there were not many people who could enter the university at that time, not to mention the university in Beijing, and relatives and friends were willing to get closer to them.
After entering the palace of marriage, the couple returned to Beijing, and they were ready to take root here and live here.
The life after marriage is very sweet and happy, and in the second year, Du Jialin checked out that she was pregnant, and the two people who suddenly upgraded to parents were excited, especially Du Jialin, who endured painful pregnancy reactions every day and looked forward to the birth of this child.
However, only three months later, the accident occurred.
Du Jialin, who had done the obstetric examination on time, was suddenly told that the fetus in her abdomen had no heartbeat. This means that the child has died before he was born, and he has not really met with his parents.
The doctor helped analyze the reason, which may be that some time ago, Du Jialin was pregnant and gave the students a lesson, dragging her body, which led to this sad result.
And Du Jialin could hardly withstand this blow, and was really depressed for a while, washing his face with tears every day. Fortunately, she also has her husband Xia Yuefeng, who loves her deeply, who takes good care of his wife every day and slowly accompanies her out of the shadow of losing her child.
Du Jialin, who has returned to a normal life, decides to try again, and this time she will definitely become a qualified mother.
In 2001, Du Jialin, who had taken care of her body, became pregnant again. After learning the news, Du Jialin applied for maternity leave as soon as possible and concentrated on preparing for the birth at home.
Xia Yuefeng also took care of his wife more carefully than last time, and the two of them went through these months with a nervous mood, fortunately, everything went well, Du Jialin gave birth to a healthy and beautiful daughter on January 3, 2002, and the couple finally breathed a sigh of relief.
Unable to bring the love of the first child, the couple poured out to the second child, and gave her a name that symbolized warmth and brightness- XuanXuan, hoping that the future of this child would also be bright and peaceful.
Du Jialin and her husband made perfect preparations, did their best in terms of diet and living, and carefully cared for the child. And Xuan Xuan did not disappoint them, since childhood they showed excellent intelligence, learning everything quickly.
Du Jialin tried to teach Xuan Xuan to learn Chinese characters, and as a result, when she was 2 years old, the reserve of Chinese characters had far exceeded that of her peers, making their neighbors marvel and envy Du Jialin's wife for having such a smart daughter.
However, just when the couple was proud of their daughter, the words of a doctor broke the happy life of their family: "I suggest you take your children to the mental hospital to see it." ”
"Autism tendencies"
These words were like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and almost crushed Du Jialin, who was a mother, on the spot.
Not long ago, her husband Xia Yuefeng had just become a doctor at Tsinghua University, and Du Jialin had also been rated with a title, and the family was happily imagining a blueprint for their future life, but suddenly received a notice that they had been selected by the city and needed to take their children to the hospital to check their children's mental health.
At that time, the couple felt that Xuan Xuan was so smart, learning everything quickly, and there would be no psychological problems at all. As a result, when I went to the hospital for a check-up, I learned from the doctor that the child may have mental problems.
During the examination, Xuan Xuan did not cooperate with the doctor. The doctor asked Xuan Xuan to build blocks, but Xuan Xuan did not even lift her eyelids, and immersed herself intently in her own world, no matter what the doctor asked her, she was not moved, as if she did not hear. Even when the doctor asked what his parents' names were, Xuan Xuan did not respond.
In fact, Du Jialin and his wife were also aware of it in advance. Sometimes, when they play with Xuan Xuan, Xuan Xuan will be as unresponsive as when he faces a doctor. At first, they thought that they had caught up with their daughter's tantrums, so they ignored them.
The doctor asked them if they usually rarely cried and seemed to be much quieter than other peers, and the couple nodded and said yes. They were also proud of such a quiet pursy, thinking that she was sensible and never caused them trouble.
When doctors advised them to take their children to a psychiatric hospital, the couple simply could not accept this fact. In the morning, before going out, Xuan Xuan is still a genius child who is the envy of relatives and friends, how can he become a child with mental illness during the time of seeing a disease?
The unacceptable Du Jialin took the child back to his hometown for two months, and then under the persuasion of his mother, returned to Beijing to take Xuan Xuan to do a professional psychiatric examination, and finally learned that Xuan Xuan was diagnosed with "autism tendency", which is commonly known as "autism".
This is a very terrible disease, although the patient is in good health and has no defects, it is likely that they will not be able to take care of themselves for life, will show symptoms such as social interaction defects, and there is no effective medicine to treat this disease in this world.
Sometimes people who suffer from this disease can also show extraordinary skills in some fields, but this situation is very rare. This may be the case with Xuan Xuan.
Parents with a super high IQ, giving birth to a child with mental problems, such a reality hit Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng, a bully couple.
They even felt that the sky was falling, and they didn't know what to do. Du Jialin was even more bedridden.
At this moment, Xuan Xuan, who was diagnosed and treated as autism, still paid attention to her mother at all times, and seeing her mother so sad, Xuan Xuan still held her hand tightly although she did not understand why.
Xuan Xuan's actions made Du Jialin feel a warm current rushing into her heart, she did not believe that her daughter had no possibility of healing, but before curing her daughter, the first thing she should do was to raise her spirits.
Love always touches everything
The battered mother, Du Jialin, found that her daughter Xuanxuan still cared about her, which made Du Jialin cheer up again, determined to cure her daughter's illness.
The wife's cheering also led to Xia Yuefeng, who was a husband. The shadows and pains of the past, they have all walked hand in hand, and the difficulties of the future are not to mention.
After making up their minds, Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng both took action, looking for cases of autism cure separately, and as long as they heard that there were relevant lectures, they would listen to them.
They also gave full play to their advantages as university bullies, consulting a large number of literature and papers, trying to seize the sporadic hopes.
Their efforts paid off. Xia Yuefeng learned that in fact, there have been cases of autism rehabilitation abroad, and there are also summarized treatment plans. They decided to learn from this scheme.
Because Xuan Xuan couldn't recognize the expressions of others, she couldn't even see whether she was simply happy or angry. To this end, Du Jialin made some cards with different expressions written on them, and taught Xuan Xuan to distinguish between these different expressions in the form of play.
For example, if three people play a card draw game together, what kind of cards are drawn, they must make corresponding expressions. After this kind of training lasted for a long time, Du Jialin found that Xuanxuan's expression became more and more natural. This made the couple very happy.
Du Jialin quit her job and concentrated on staying at home with her daughter, taking her to training every day. After Xia Yuefeng finished his postdoctoral studies, he gave up a higher-paying job and entered a relatively stable state-owned enterprise, so that he had more time to accompany Xuan Xuan.
In order to help his wife decompose the pressure, Xia Yuefeng also learned a good cooking skill, cooking for her family every day.
By the time Xuan Xuan was five years old, although the illness was still serious, she was no longer as repulsive to external communication as in the past, and she also had a certain ability to take care of herself.
Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng's life and work have become more and more smooth, and the two have another daughter Yingying.
After experiencing the death of one child and the mental illness of the second child, Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng's third child were physically and mentally healthy, and when she grew up, she also became her sister's best playmate.
Xia Yuefeng quit his job at a state-owned enterprise. He and his wife already had extensive experience caring for people with autism, and they decided to share it with other families.
To this end, Xia Yuefeng set up a rehabilitation training institution for autistic patients, Beijing Star Hope Autism Rehabilitation Center, to teach professional rehabilitation training to other parents, and provide free technical training, as well as psychological support.
With the joint efforts of the couple, the living conditions of many families have also improved, and many children with autism have re-emerged with smiles.
And Xuan Xuan's situation is also very gratifying, she has grown up to become no different from normal people, but also learned to dance and practice, can naturally express her emotions, and later she was even admitted to a good university, embarked on a similar path to her parents.
She is no longer alone, because love always touches everything. It is the patience and love of the parents that makes this child who was born "lonely" grow up healthy and have unlimited possibilities, and sincerely wishes that her life can always be safe and smooth.