"Mom and Dad, come and chase me!"
One day in August 2004, Xia Yuefeng and Du Jialin, a couple, took their daughter out to play. Looking at the cheerful and lively daughter in front of them, the two couples looked at each other, and they both saw some helplessness in each other's eyes.
Their daughter was a child prodigy who was able to memorize thousands of Chinese words at the age of one. It was such a genius daughter who was diagnosed with mental illness.
Du Jialin and daughter
And this disease, there is no possibility of cure.
What mental illness does the child suffer from? Where is her way forward with the disease?
The Kochi family rejoiced
Du Jialin and her husband Xia Yuefeng are a pair of high intellectuals. On June 16, 1999, the two formed a sweet family in Hunan.
After marriage, the couple did not delay their academic pursuits. Soon after the marriage, Xia Yuefeng was admitted to Beijing University of Posts and Telecommunications and wanted to study for a doctorate in Beijing, and the family moved to Beijing.
After coming to Beijing, his wife Du Jialin found a job as a foreign language teacher at the University of Information Technology in Beijing, and her family career was a double harvest, and her life was bright.
Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng were young
But an accident in 2000 cast a haze over the otherwise happy family.
Around the Spring Festival in 2000, when the family, including Du Jialin's parents, was gathering lively and lively to discuss what new year goods needed to be prepared for the Spring Festival, Du Jialin suddenly began to vomit violently.
When the mother-in-law saw this, she said with some surprise, "It should not be pregnant!" ”
Du Mu also said, "Oh, after being married for so long, it's time to get pregnant!" ”
Xia Yuefeng XuanXuan Yingying Du Jialin
Is this home about to usher in new life? Xia Yuefeng's eyes lit up suddenly, and he looked at his wife's stomach with expectant eyes.
So, the family gathered around Du Jialin to the hospital and did a check-up. And the results of the examination made all the family members smile, yes, Du Jialin was pregnant!
After the family paid the cost of the examination, they escorted Du Jialin back home, discussing the name of the newborn in their mouths, planning which milk powder to eat and what materials to use to make clothes, and the atmosphere was happy and harmonious. And Xia Yuefeng and Du Jialin were also extremely looking forward to the arrival of this child.
But no one imagined that a tragedy was about to happen.
Xuan Xuan was a child
In February 2000, Du Jialin and her husband came to the hospital for examination. Knowing that the two newcomers were pregnant, the nurse smiled and congratulated Du Jialin and her husband, while letting Du Jialin lie on the B-ultrasound bed to check the fetal condition.
Who knows, after the picture came out, the nurse frowned, and the smile at the corner of her mouth completely disappeared.
Seeing this scene, Du Jialin sighed in his heart and hurriedly asked the nurse what was going on.
The nurse said, "It's stillborn." ”
stillbirth?! The child she and her husband had been waiting for so long was stillborn?
The nurse's words made Du Jialin's nose sour, and she immediately burst into tears.
The death of the child undoubtedly caused her a serious psychological burden. After a series of inspections, Du Jialin was stunned. Despite her husband's comfort, she could not easily get out of the grief of the death of her child.
It turned out that because she was still young at that time, Du Jialin did not take a vacation at home, but dragged her pregnant body to give lessons to the students.
She felt that her inattention had caused the child's death.
Fortunately, Heaven did not cruelly take back the mother's reproductive rights. Upon examination, the cause of stillbirth is not genetic inheritance. Accompanied by her husband Xia Yuefeng, Du Jialin has stabilized her mood a lot after several months.
What completely brought the mother out of the grief of losing her child was the good news: she was pregnant again!
This time, she took maternity leave as soon as she confirmed her pregnancy, like a bird of fright. Treat your children with caution. On January 3, 2002, Du Jialin's daughter Xuan Xuan was born. At the moment when the child landed on the ground, Du Jialin was relieved.
After that, the couple's lives were back on track again.
Whistling
Du Jialin took care of her lovely daughter with all her heart, and Xia Yuefeng always brought all kinds of toys to her daughter who was still swaddling...
In this way, Xuan Xuan grew up day after day in the love of the couple.
The first time I climbed on the ground, the first time I called my mother, the first time I could read... Many precious moments remained in the hearts of Du Jialin and Xia Yuefeng. At the age of one, Xia Yuefeng taught Xuan Xuan to read and tell various fables to Xuan Xuan in his spare time.
Whistling
And Xuan Xuan's reaction also made the parents feel very happy.
How can a one-year-old child, who has just learned to speak, understand the meaning of a fable?
But it's okay to do it.
The story that Xia Yuefeng told to Xuan Xuan would be used by this child in his life the next day, and when he was literate, Xuan Xuan's learning speed surprised Xia Yuefeng. Just by reading the text once, Xuan Xuan can remember it for a long time.
Summer Moon Peak
And such excellent memory has undoubtedly made Xuan Xuan a prodigy in the eyes of relatives and friends.
But at the same time, Du Jialin found that the child was very "introverted"; the family sat at the table to eat, Xuan Xuan never took the initiative to pick up the chopsticks, and was urged to start eating over and over again; if she was doing something, she must finish it to give others a reaction.
At this time, the couple did not expect that superior wisdom was actually a sign of mental illness! Then something happened that completely plunged the couple into the endless abyss!
The genius prodigy turned out to be mentally ill
Xuan Xuan's talent surprised the couple, and the two imagined many pictures, and Du Jialin said that Xuan Xuan might become a teacher or professor like us in the future!
Xia Yuefeng said, that is not necessarily, maybe it will become a scientist! The couple talked about it for a long time around the snoozing in their sleep. In the end, the couple reached a consensus: she can do whatever she wants, as long as the child is happy and happy, then everything is worth it!
A family of three
In the process of Xuan Xuan's growth, his father Xia Yuefeng's studies have also been improved again. He was admitted to Tsinghua's postdoctoral program, which undoubtedly became the top priority of the family, and Du Jialin immediately took a day off and took Xuan Xuan and her husband out to relax.
With the growth of teacher qualifications, Du Jialin's salary has also increased, and her husband has also entered the postdoctoral study, and he is about to usher in a better life.
The couple did not expect that their lives would once again be shattered by reality.
In 2004, Xuan Xuan was two and a half years old. At this time, she successfully entered the kindergarten study, because of her excellent performance, she was often praised by the teacher, and even her classmates secretly called her "prodigy" because of her intelligence.
A child health census in June completely exposed the truth behind the "prodigy".
When he saw the community doctor in the white coat, Xuan Xuan, who was usually well-behaved and sensible, unusually hid behind Xia Yuefeng, tightly grasped his father's sleeve, and pursed his lips without saying a word.
Xia Yuefeng saw that her daughter was so resistant, and only thought that the child was shy, so she softly communicated with her daughter.
Therefore, Xuan Xuan agreed to do the examination.
Seeing that Xuan Xuan began to cooperate, the community doctor asked Xuan Xuan to build a tall building, and Xuan Xuan nodded and then silently set it up. And just when Xuan Xuan was halfway through, the community doctor suddenly stopped and told Xuan Xuan not to build a tall building now, to build a water bottle.
However, the xuanxuan move made the couple a little embarrassed.
I saw that Xuan Xuan was just constantly building tall buildings, ignoring the doctor's words.
Xuan Xuan and Du Jialin
The doctor also seemed to realize that something was wrong, and he first confirmed whether the child was angry - let Xia Yuefeng and his daughter have a normal conversation. After confirming that the child was not angry, the doctor immediately squatted down and tried to make a kind appearance and asked Xuan Xuan, what is your father's name? What about your mother?
As a result, Xuan Xuan did not answer his question at all.
The doctor raised his head, Chong Xia Yuefeng and Du Jialin shook their heads, and the words spoken made Du Jialin almost collapse, "The child has some congenital disorders, and there may be psychological diseases." ”
Congenital mental illness! This bad news completely crushed Du Jialin, was it because she was too nervous when she was pregnant, and her daughter suffered from this disease?
Under the emotion of extreme sadness and self-blame, Du Jialin took Xuan Xuan to a famous psychological counseling hospital in Beijing, and after examination, Xuan Xuan did have a mental illness.
This disease has a profound impact on people and cannot be cured.
Its scientific name is called autism, also known as autism, the main feature is disregard for feelings, refusal to communicate with others, is a congenital developmental disorder disease, and therefore, there is no possibility of complete cure.
This plunged the entire family into silence and grief.
Such a cute little angel as Xuan Xuan may be bitter and lonely inside. This made Du Jialin feel very desperate, but in countless late nights, she lost her voice and cried bitterly.
The daughter Xuanxuan, despite her expressionless face, still pays attention to her mother's movements, and when her mother is sad, she often runs to her mother's bedroom to hold her mother's hand tightly.
Xuan Xuan's actions made Du Jialin feel a glimmer of healing.
With Xuan Xuan's encouragement, Du Jialin quickly adjusted and found her husband to express her determination not to give up her daughter's treatment, and her husband also expressed support for this.
In the years that followed, they began to actively seek a cure for the disease.
To this end, Du Jialin gave up the doctoral degree that she had been preparing for, because in this mother's heart, no matter what achievements and honors, it was not as important as her daughter's health!
In this way, Du Jialin and her husband Xia Yuefeng began to constantly search for cases where autism was cured.
And with the efforts of the two, they really found a faint hope.
On the road A hopeful road
The couple found that an American professor had done an experiment on autistic children.
In the experiment, 1/3 of the 19 children recovered a few years later. 1/3 chance! This rekindled hope for the couple, and since then, Du Jialin has begun rehabilitation training with her daughter.
By consulting a large number of literature and papers, Du Jiayi has created a new treatment method, that is, MUST Autism Syndrome Therapy, which is comprehensively treated from four aspects: motivation, understanding and rationality, skills, and training.
Because the daughter could not recognize the expression of the person, did not know whether the other party was sad or happy, so Du Jialin used the expression card to teach the daughter. First, write a variety of expressions on the card, and then, whoever draws what kind of emoji card will make that emoticon.
After the daughter makes an expression, Du Jialin will also comment on her daughter's performance. Through this continuous improvement and improvement, the expression of Xuan Xuan is more and more natural.
Du Jialin has to train with her daughter for at least six hours a day.
Husband Xia Yuefeng in order to accompany her daughter more, so that her daughter can recover as soon as possible, but also rejected the high-paying work of private enterprises, chose a more stable state-owned enterprise, in order to allow his wife to be more focused on the rehabilitation of her daughter, took over the work of the family, and also learned a good cooking skill after work.
Xia Yuefeng and his wife
A few years later, Du Jialin's second daughter Yingying was born. After having Yingying, Xuan Xuan interacted with her sister. The state of xuanxuan has gradually improved.
In the company of the family, Xuan Xuan's recovery progress has greatly improved, first he is able to make his own requests, and then gradually his smile is no different from that of normal people.
Corresponding to autism, Xuan Xuan's IQ also seems to be far beyond ordinary people.
Whistling
With six hours of intense training a day, her studies were not delayed in the slightest.
After ten years of study, in 2010, Xuan Xuan was admitted to a key middle school with a super high score, on the surface, Xuan Xuan was no different from ordinary children, but Xuan Xuan's occasional pauses and reactions still made Du Jia Shu tremble with fear.
Du Jialin was interviewed
In 2011, Du Jialin founded a rehabilitation center, she named the center "Beijing Star Hope", Du Jialin said that all the children selected by autism are the children of the stars, only by giving them hope, can they get a bright tomorrow.
In the days that followed, Du Jialin continued to carry out countless rehabilitation trainings with Xuanxuan, and while she continued to serve as a teacher, she also did a better and better job of hope for autistic children.
As of July 27, 2017, 13 years have passed since Xuan Xuan was found to have autism.
Du Jialin posted on the Internet to share her daughter's situation: When eating the buffet, Xuanxuan behaved as cute as a normal child. Finally, she said, "In a trance I forgot about my despair when I was diagnosed, the hardships and anxieties of every training session." ”
"If you're all right, it's sunny."
In the short eight words, thirteen years of bitterness and suffering are hidden. How lucky it is to meet such a mother and such a family!
Du Jialin
Fortunately, they have survived, and I believe that in the future, Xuan Xuan will be more cheerful and move towards a glorious road!
For children with autism, the world is dark, emotionless, and inorganic, but through long periods of scientific rehabilitation, most children can be cured.
So after discovering the child's illness, do not give up the child, as long as you give enough companionship, then parents and relatives are a bright light for the child in the dark world, under the guidance of the lamp, they will gradually walk out of the world that only has themselves and return to normal life!
So far, Xuan Xuan has recovered most of her functions and can communicate with people normally, and in a key middle school in Beijing, she has excellent grades and superiority. He also serves as a squad leader, helping teachers in various subjects to collect homework.
Presumably, in the future, she can also have her own skills and live a better life!