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Worthy of the big S! Less than 4 months after the divorce, she flashed marriage again!
Today, South Korean singer Koo Joon-yeol officially announced his marriage to Big S. Subsequently, Big S forwarded the news and officially announced his remarriage.
Big S admits that the marriage is her first love, and the two met 20 years ago. After the divorce, the two people walked together by chance: they had missed too much in the past, and they would cherish the happiness of the present in the future.
Apparently, she has come out of the haze of divorce and embraced life again.
Not long ago, Xiao S also revealed that "my sister is on the road to pursuing happiness", but many people did not take it seriously, and now it seems that the people who eat melon are careless.
Big S remarried, netizens have blessed.
On the other hand, Wang Xiaofei's Weibo comments are a scolding. After all, within a few days of the divorce, he spent the night with his lover and was accused of cheating in marriage.
People realized that the big S, who was once envied by the public because "shrimp is to be peeled by men", may not be as happy as it seems.
Looking at it now, Big S's temperament in the show, Wang Xiaofei's domineering wife protection, may just be a dream woven for the audience.
Everyone was still envious of their model couple model a second ago, and it was naturally unbelievable to suddenly see the news of divorce.
However, if you think about it carefully, over the years, there are not many examples of people like Big S and Wang Xiaofei, who are known for their love but eventually overturned:
Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu, once a notoriously loving couple, ended up cheating on Li Xiaolu;
Yu Xiaoguang and Qiu Porcelain Xuan, with countless fans in the daily circle of love, Yu Xiaoguang has been repeatedly exposed to intimate photos with beautiful women;
Fukuhara Ai and Jiang Hongjie, the scene of you and me in the show is still vividly remembered, and when the divorce is blinked, the scene of tearing each other up is not ugly...
In fact, not only the entertainment industry, but also in reality.
Perhaps everyone has heard, "Xiu'en loves to die quickly", I used to think it was a joke, but the bigger I am, the more I feel that this sentence is not unreasonable.
I often feel now that true happiness is silent, soaked like a stream, as harmonious as a spring breeze. Not so vigorous, but comfortable.
However, in reality, there are still many people who do not understand: happiness is not shown to others, but to show to themselves.
How many people
Show your marriage to someone else?
My second uncle and aunt are a loving couple in the eyes of others, in front of outsiders, my uncle is a warm male husband: he will take the initiative to do housework, pour tea and water for his aunt, hold hands everywhere he goes, and talk sweetly in front of outsiders...
The aunt was also very cooperative, always telling others how much the uncle hurt her.
Privately, my aunt confided in my mother that she was too tired to be happy at all.
The uncle had a particularly bad temper, and the two of them basically quarreled with their mouths open; for so many years, as small as a meal, as large as teaching children, they were all handled by the aunt alone...
I asked my mother: Is she not tired like this?
"How not to be tired? Your aunt is just too worried about too much and face is so tired.
She saw that the people around her were getting better and better, how could she show the wounds to others and make others laugh?
Pretending to be happy, at least can give her a decent life that she does not have. ”
My aunt's experience reminds me of my girlfriend Xuanxuan.
After graduation, she married into Beijing, and her husband is a Beijing native with a car and a house. After marriage, Xuan Xuan had a Beijing hukou, and the child was born to win at the starting line of the college entrance examination.
Her circle of friends, either visiting the Forbidden City with her husband, eating candlelight dinner, or dressing up exquisitely to drink afternoon tea, as if the wind and rain after marriage have avoided her.
There is leisure and wealth, life is leisurely and rich, and XuanXuan is called "life winner" by many people.
Some time ago, on a business trip to Beijing to see her, I heard another version from her mouth.
She said that her husband has more than one little three, when she first found out, she would cry, and then found that his nature was difficult to move, so he simply turned a blind eye, anyway, he did not love, and it was good to be safe.
She said, "I will not divorce, and I can't afford to buy a house in Beijing in my lifetime."
However, love still has to be shown, after all, amplifying the husband's goodness, at least can maintain the appearance of happiness and a decent life.
More importantly, the child is still young, and maintaining a masked couple may allow the child to grow up healthy and happy. ”
It's just that in the dead of night, the loneliness in her heart reminds her that marriage has long been in ruins.
After visiting Xuan Xuan that day, on the high-speed train on the way back, I repeatedly remembered Zhang Ailing's words: Life is a gorgeous robe, which is full of lice.
Some say there are three things in the world that can't be disguised: cough, poverty, and happiness.
Why are so many people pretending to be happy?
Some people live for face, some people for Lizi, some people live for partners... More people may be for children.
After all, the beauty on the surface is also a kind of beauty.
What happened to those who pretended to be in love?
Every year after the college entrance examination, "queuing up in front of the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce" will become a hot topic.
Not long ago, I saw a news on the Internet.
After a test taker in Anhui province inquired about the college entrance examination results, the first thing he said to his mother was to persuade her to divorce her.
The mother was surprised and asked the child, "Mom and Dad are doing well, what marriage is divorced?" ”
The child said: Don't pretend that you are doing well, you are not happy together, I know better than anyone. You have been at odds with each other for a long time, and if it weren't for me, you wouldn't have had to aggrieved yourself like this.
After hearing these words, the mother burst into tears. She can fool others, but she can't deceive the children.
Just before the college entrance examination, she and her husband also quarreled, and she told her husband in a low voice that she would divorce when the children were finished."
After listening to the child's words, she had no worries in her heart, and that night, she and her husband filed for divorce.
I was relieved that she had a good ending, after all, most people who pretended to be happy didn't have a good time.
Some time ago, my cousin and her husband got into a fight, and when I went to visit her, she still had bruises on the corners of her mouth.
I couldn't have imagined that the couple would tear each other apart one day.
In my impression, my cousin has always been very happy. Her husband is a company executive, her son is smart and lovely, and at the last family gathering, she also gave her husband a lot of food to eat.
Her cousin said that she had been a stay-at-home mom for several years, concentrating on taking care of her children at home. But her husband's career is rising, making her more and more anxious, always trying to grasp something.
Therefore, in front of others, she asked her husband to cooperate with her to show her love, which words should be said and what should not be said, she told in advance.
She will also let her children learn calligraphy and painting, piano, swimming every day... Display the learning results in the circle of friends. Whenever others praise her for her marital love and godson, she will feel very satisfied.
Until yesterday, the couple quarreled over the time of the child's practice, and the husband said to her:
I've had enough of you! Let me cooperate with your show, even if the child does not even have time to play, don't you find that the child is not willing to talk to you?
At this time, she suddenly realized:
"I care too much about other people's opinions and my own feelings, but I ignore his feelings; children are also under great pressure because of my comparison psychology, maybe I am really wrong." 」
After so many years away from the workplace, I have not grown at all, and I don't even have the courage to defend myself."
Trying to weave happiness in the eyes of others will eventually be like a bubble, bursting with a poke, so why bother?
How much enviable love, in the blink of an eye, turned into a vendetta? How many couples are still showing affection today, and tomorrow they will be exposed to one party cheating for many years?
Love is not superficial to others, not to pursue gorgeous romance in the eyes of others, but two people in marriage, in a plain and ordinary day, can also feel happy.
Huang Lei has been in love with his wife for twenty years, and he rarely says how happy he is and how good he is to his wife... But love runs out of the details. Take cooking:
Sun Li needs ingredients for Huang Lei to buy, and Huang Lei never shirks.
After Sun Li cooked, she made a mess of the kitchen, and Huang Lei would take the initiative to clean it up;
When Huang Lei cooks, she will also help to lay hands.
You see, the most mundane details can make people happy.
There is no magic in marriage, and the days after all the fading of the aura are the most real appearance.
Instead of thinking about how to show it, feel it carefully
A reader friend left a message telling me her story:
"I never show affection, and I rarely talk about my married life with others, so much so that friends ask me if I am divorced?"
In fact, I can feel the simple happiness every day.
Something I was reluctant to buy, he would secretly buy me back;
In life, I have always tried to care about and understand me;
He never makes up his own mind, and when he encounters things, he will consult with me before making a decision;
He will take the initiative to take the baby after work, help the child to write homework, and do his best to share the pressure;
Although we both occasionally get into an emotional rage, I point out his mistakes and he will reflect hard and apologize to me...
I rarely talk about this to others, because I am not happy myself, and no one will know better than me that I don't need to get others to approve of my marriage."
What kind of person is a person who does not love Xiu'en love?
Some netizens said: Ta must be doing well, because the people who want to share are probably around.
I think this phrase could not be more appropriate to describe this reader.
Cai Kangyong was also asked the same question in the interview, he replied:
I'd rather believe that they're putting most of their energy into real life, and I congratulate them on finding the center of gravity of life.
It's actually hard to do this, because the biggest weakness of human nature is that it cares too much about how others see it.
The purpose of this article is not to oppose everyone's show of love, but to tell everyone -
You don't have to live in the eyes of others, you will have more time to find the center of gravity of life, to feel the happy moments in marriage.
Good times, instead of thinking about how to show it, it is better to feel it and engrave it in your heart.
Don't forget, no matter what the marriage is, you are your protagonist.