From Panbi show off wealth to Menkolo, after graduation of the class reunion, why is the bully unwilling to go?
Think about the days when you buried your head in hard reading in your third year of high school, and talk about the good news of job promotions and salary increases. The class reunion was supposed to be a good opportunity to remember the student era and contact classmates and friends, but because of the competition of a few people to show off their wealth, it became a "vanity fair" that compared, showed off and complimented.
As a result, the originally easy classmate friendship gradually changed its taste.
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The friendship that fought together in the middle school era was the most simple and did not mix any interests with the feelings of classmates.
Friends I met at that time often kept in touch for a long time, even after graduating from college. Even if the two places have long been separated, studying in universities in different cities, seeking employment, they will definitely text each other, make phone calls, or leave a message for each other in the circle of friends. Or visit each other's college campuses, work environments, and life around each other, occasionally skewering, barbecue, or dinner together, and reminisce about the old days of middle school.
The initiators of high school reunions are generally students or class leaders who are well-known in the class at that time.
Today's life pressure is so great, have the heart and spare energy to bring the students together, dare to face the curious, wondering or bystanding eyes of the former classmates, it is conceivable that they are often people who studied well and are popular in the past, and now they can mix well in society.
Of course, the purpose is not simple, either there is money and leisure, simply to contact the friendship of classmates, or it is a business need, and it is urgent to gather new wealth and develop projects among students.
Anyway, it's possible to bring together old classmates you haven't seen in years, look back on the good times of high school, and share funny or embarrassing things that happened when you were young.
Whether it is the nourishment of personal feelings or the consolidation of classmate friendship, it is a very meaningful thing.
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But why, in addition to the initiators, the high-scoring students who used to be favored by their parents and teachers have gradually disappeared from the occasions of classmates' gatherings, and even become reluctant to participate?
Some students will say: These students, admitted to top schools such as Tsinghua Peking University and 985 University, can easily get high-paying employment after graduation, and naturally some "look down" on these old classmates who used to have ordinary families, average grades, and tired work.
But in fact, students who study well and have good academic qualifications may not be able to mix well and eat well in the workplace and society after graduation.
If everything goes well, the good guys can show off in front of their high school classmates, if it is difficult to find a job, fail to start a business or financially sloppy, but all those who are witnessed by their old classmates in the past are an embarrassing, painful and helpless embarrassment.
Moreover, in today's ever-changing and opportunity-filled Internet era, it is not necessary that you have good grades in primary and secondary schools, high scores in the college entrance examination, and hot careers, you can sit on millions of high salaries and have good prospects.
In life, we are more common in the fact that there are many people with low education, no mines at home, just by virtue of their boldness and high knowledge, they choose the right outlet for industry opportunities, and they "get rich" overnight to start a business, accumulating wealth that many people can't have in their lifetime.
In such a situation, Xueba students naturally become more and more reluctant to participate in class reunions.
If the old classmates mix well, the original outstanding self, it is inevitable that they will feel some envy and jealousy;
If the old classmates are mixed badly, they who originally have excellent grades will feel taken for granted and not happy enough.
What's more, between the class reunions, it is inevitable to encounter students who are attracting business, harboring ghosts and seeking benefits, and once they are contacted and met, they will inevitably add a lot of troubles.
Since most class reunions, in addition to comparison, showing off wealth and compliments, are only troublesome, why bother to meet with great trouble and effort?
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And to be honest, there are a lot of class reunions now, and they have indeed changed their taste.
Successful gatherings are often the first party, when the friendship between classmates is still relatively strong, eating some small dishes, drinking some wine, singing two songs, in the interlacing of chips, reviewing feelings, crying red eyes, imagining life, no matter how bad life is, how bad life is, good villains can use so many old classmates in front of them to comfort themselves.
And the unsuccessful gathering is often after the year-after-year class reunion, and many people will wake up:
Anyway, if you can't borrow money and don't help the business, what can this person and me have in life?
Every time we meet, we say hello, reminisce, or drink or eat, what is the use of spending money?
The luxury car he drives, the mansion he lives in, the company he drives, no matter how much money he makes, does it have a half-cent relationship with me?
Therefore, many students will certainly not be willing to participate in class reunions.
Everyone is an expert in their respective subdivisions, who puts you in the industry and position can not do better than you, everyone earns their own money, each does their own thing, what is the need to show off in front of these old classmates?
The alumni association is so fragile, acquaintance for more than ten years, decades, but never known each other to accompany the old students, in the end can not withstand the time, space and years to bring us the sense of alienation, strangeness, even if everyone is calm and respectful as a guest, but anyone jumps out, holding the evil gas of "not easy to get ahead", hiding the selfish heart of "I want to see who can use it", it is enough to transform the superficial and peaceful classmate gathering into a "Vanity Fair" with no intention of fighting and showing off.
So later, the real poor students, because of hurting self-esteem, no time and no mood, are unwilling to participate in the class reunion, and the real rich, academic bully and successful people, because they are afraid of trouble, right and wrong, are not willing to participate in the class reunion.
After all, in a person's life, the best relationship is always those two or three people, as for the old classmates who hardly speak or contact when they are students, they can occasionally have a meal to contact each other and contact feelings.
Today's Topic:
Do you think it's necessary for high school classmates to meet again after 5 or 10 years of graduation? Please tell everyone in the comments section.