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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
In life, there are always some young girls who like to find middle-aged uncles, thinking that they can get happiness, but most of the results are not good.
In fact, the marriage of old husbands and young wives is mostly not happy, and it is not worth the risk of young girls.
If young girls don't understand this, they may lose their lives, and one day they will be let down, their bodies and minds will be hurt, and it will be too late.
The old man often says: Marriage pays attention to the door to the door.
When girls are looking for a marriage partner, they still have to find a relative match with their age, conditions, family, etc. If they become blind in love, they will basically not be happy.
After all, girls marry an uncle who is much older than themselves, it is impossible to achieve the same frequency resonance with each other, may not even have a common language, and what happiness is there to talk about?
Just like the daughter of a colleague, Xiaomin, she is 24 years old this year, and she has talked about an object before, which is a 40-year-old middle-aged uncle.
Two people fell in love for a year and got married at the request of the man, but less than a year after the marriage, the two sides divorced for practical reasons.
At that time, Xiao Min had just joined the work force and was working as an assistant in a company, and her boss was the future husband.
Soon after working, men will pursue her, take special care of her, whether it is work or life, will pay special attention to her.
Xiao Min had never been in love before, and when she met such a man who cared for herself in an instant, she couldn't help but be moved.
Therefore, under his pursuit, Xiao Min tried to communicate, and the two people officially began to fall in love.
The man accommodates her in everything, is willing to spend money, takes her to a high-end restaurant for dinner on every date, and often buys her clothes and bags.
In this way, Xiao Min loved him more and more, and the two of them lived together after three months of love and lived like a small couple.
After a year of love, the man proposed to get married, xiaomin was a little hesitant, after all, he was too old to worry about his parents not agreeing.
However, the man behaved very sincerely, personally going to her house with Xiaomin to see her parents.
At that time, the man said that he would get married to buy a house for Xiaomin and give a dowry of 200,000 yuan, and the wedding would be very grand.
Seeing that the man was so sincere, plus Xiao Min also loved him, Xiao Min's parents reluctantly agreed.
In this way, the two people held a wedding as scheduled, and after the marriage, Xiaomin lived in a new house and also received a dowry of 200,000 yuan.
After marriage, life is still relatively calm, but the husband has gradually changed, no longer loves her as much as before, many times will excuse himself from going home, and he is often ambiguous outside.
Moreover, the husband never cares about the affairs of the family, and Xiao Min takes care of him every day.
However, Xiao Min still had hope for him, and although she was dissatisfied, she did not argue with him directly.
Just when Xiao Min thought that life would always be calm, a sudden thing broke the tranquility.
One day, a well-dressed woman came to the house with a child behind her.
Xiao Min knew that her husband had been married once before, and this woman was his ex-wife, and they had a child, which was the one in front of them.
For a moment, Xiao Min was extremely cold, and she didn't expect that her husband had been lying to her and had never told him about these things.
Although her husband explained that he did not mean to hide her, Xiao Min could not accept it in his heart. She was such a young and beautiful girl, how could she not accept a second-married man, not to mention that his current feelings had changed.
In this way, the marriage barely lasted for a year, and finally the two parties divorced peacefully.
Xiao Min said that he was really blind at the beginning, and thought that her husband was very honest, but he did not expect that he deliberately concealed the past, everything was a lie.
Since then, Xiao Min no longer dares to associate with middle-aged men, she feels that the marriage of old husbands and young wives really has many problems, these men have bad intentions and are not worth marrying.
Therefore, young girls must not be lost in love, and must keep a clear head at all times.
When a middle-aged man comes to pursue you, you must pay attention to it, most of these men have a lot of emotional experience, and their minds are not simple.
If you think he really loves you because of some small favors, the end result may disappoint you.
In fact, a man who is over middle age, they have basically been married, and if he comes after you, he is probably trying to find a free babysitter in his old age.
They may also have sincerity, but they must be rewarded, either coveting your beauty or getting benefits from you.
Girls should not be too naïve, instead of marrying a middle-aged man, taking care of them, and meeting their needs, it is better to find a man with the same frequency resonance and create a happy life together.
The marriage of old husbands and young wives is really not so simple, and the happiness you think is actually very difficult to get. After all, no amount of material can bring a real sense of security.
In fact, many men after middle age, when they first started, will love you and accommodate you.
However, over time, when they get married, they will soon change.
At this time, they will not care too much about you, will ignore you in life, and the love you want cannot be given at all.
They don't argue with you, they don't love you, they don't tolerate you, but they don't bother to think about you and don't want to pay attention to you anymore.
This kind of man, often very realistic, will not cherish once he has it. They would rather eat and drink outside with friends and have an affair with other members of the opposite sex than go home.
He will only come to you when they need you and want you to take care of them.
Therefore, girls should not be too obsessed with this kind of older man, their love, may not be able to afford. Moreover, such a man has rich emotional experience and has many routines that will make you invincible.
Girls are best not to accept their pursuit, let alone rush to get married, and for some of the sweetness they give you, you must also resolutely refuse.
Only when girls grasp the principles and bottom lines in love, do not easily accept other people's money and materials, and know how to distinguish between men's good and bad, can they avoid encountering unladylike people.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
To sum up, the marriage of old husbands and young wives may have only one ending, and it is not worth the risk of young girls.
Basically, this kind of marriage will end in divorce, different frequencies from each other, the age gap is too large, the thinking is inconsistent, the pursuit of happiness is different, and it is impossible to get along for a long time.
I advise young girls, don't underestimate the heart of middle-aged men, this kind of man's city government is very deep, the mind is not simple, you are not their opponent at all.
If you easily fall in love with them or get married, most of them will be very wronged, and eventually they will not be able to go on and divorce.
However, you are so young, but you are physically and mentally hurt, and it will have a profound impact on future love and marriage, and it is not worth it.
Therefore, girls should not marry men after middle age, after all, it is really difficult to get happiness in the marriage of old husbands and young wives.
Girls try to find a boy of the same age as themselves to fall in love and marry, the two people's ideological level, the pursuit of things, the desire for happiness, can achieve a certain degree of consistency, the feelings will be harmonious.
I hope that girls do not overdraft their lives in advance, otherwise, the ending will often be very tragic.
Just like the heroine Jiang Xibao in Yishu's novel "Xibao", after selling her youth by beauty, although she got material things, she could never get real happiness.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.