There are five differences between "love" and "marriage", and the sooner you know it, the better

The relationship between love and marriage is sometimes really a little bit wonderful. Some would argue that this is a sequence of love first, then marriage.

Some argue that there is no connection between the two. He can skip the relationship and go straight into marriage. Others expect love, but are afraid of marriage.

When you get married, you will find that love and marriage have a certain relationship, but it is really not the same.

Marriage does not have the excitement of love, but it has its own unique taste.

There are five differences between "love" and "marriage". The sooner you know, the better!

Feelings and responsibilities

Being in love can be said to be a feeling. If two people feel right, they can fall in love. We don't need to think too much about each other, eat and drink together, and have no worries.

We often say that love at first sight is actually a feeling.

We don't know enough about the person in front of us. It's just because we look at each other, or after a few minutes of contact, that we immediately fall in love with each other.

But true love can only be called true love on the basis of full understanding.

The good part of being in love is fantasy. You may feel like he loves you. But in fact, he doesn't love you as much as you think.

Sometimes, if you don't have any feelings, you can choose to break up and start a new relationship with another person right away.

Marriage is real, not just together.

You need to face many difficulties together. Yesterday you have to think about mortgages and car loans, today you have to think about chai rice oil and salt, tomorrow you have to think about your children's education.

Marriage requires not only feelings, but also responsibility. Otherwise, once the freshness has passed, the feelings will fade and the family will be gone.

I once heard a girl talk about her marriage.

My husband fell in love with other women. He doesn't come home all day, doesn't care about the kids, and doesn't give the family a penny, but men just don't divorce.

She had to work alone until two or three in the morning, and get up at seven or eight o'clock the next day to take care of the children.

Not only is there not enough time to sleep, sometimes there is not even time to eat.

Responsibility is especially important in marriage.

If you marry someone who has no sense of responsibility, you will become very tired because the other person does not care about home or how you feel.

Pros and cons

Love can really blow a person's mind, and we'll look at the other half with a filter. Even if he has a lot of flaws, or is a bit of a "scum", you may not be able to see it.

We'll disguise ourselves a little bit and show the other person a more perfect side, and the same will happen to the other person.

We're all hiding our flaws and unleashing our strengths on each other.

At this time, what we see in the eyes of the other party is not necessarily the most real self.

If you are in love, you can only see the advantages of the other party, indicating that you have not yet seen the most real person.

If you see the other person's shortcomings and can't accept it, it means that you need more running-in.

Of course, camouflage can only be for a while. Two people have been together for a long time, and the most authentic self will be revealed.

Two people in a marriage will gradually make each other see more and more clearly.

Sometimes it's not that it changes after marriage, but that it becomes more real after marriage. What you see is the most real person.

You will find that your partner will have a very messy side at home.

I accumulated a bunch of stinky socks. I haven't washed my hair for days...

The goddess in your heart seems to have changed overnight.

When you're in love, you'll see more of the good. After marriage, you will see more shortcomings.

In order to have a good marriage, we need to accept the flawed other, work together, and understand each other. Of course, you also need to change yourself appropriately.

Give and reward

Some people are willing not to ask for anything in return when they are in love. Desperate to give, only for the other half to be happy. But after entering marriage, this situation will become less frequent.

Masno's theory of needs tells us that when your emotional and belonging needs are met, there is a need for respect.

A good marriage should have a relatively balanced payoff and reward. When there is too much deviation between giving and rewarding, the relationship often breaks down.

Don't expect you to find a partner who is willing to give silly for you without asking for anything in return. It may exist, but it really is rare.

Please don't wait until you lose it to regret not treating him well.

Fresh and bland

For lovers in love, one very simple thing will make you feel full of freshness. You may call each other regularly every day to send messages.

You have a good relationship, and you even cling to each other, which makes your friends around you envious.

After getting married, you will find that life is really dull. But you can still feel each other's warmth from ordinary life.

Although love is not expressed clearly, you all know in your hearts that you are really important to him.

Blandness does not mean there is no love.

In the midst of blandness, the pair that can still maintain feelings is probably a more enviable pair.

Of course, these differences are not absolute. Every couple has their own way of getting along.

In the process of falling in love, some modes of getting along will gradually move closer to marriage and life. And some of the mode of getting along, still maintain the mode of love, better maintain feelings.

If both parties know enough about marriage, the difference between love and marriage won't be particularly obvious.

Because between you, you have long been accustomed to the marriage-oriented way of getting along. This just shows that you are ready to enter the marriage hall together.

What do you think is the difference between love and marriage? What has changed since we got married?