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Black and white, right or wrong, in fact, these things are very subjective, objectively only everyone's position is different, will inevitably immediately stand on the opposite side of each other. Everyone has everyone's difficulties, and the extent to which they can be understood and balanced is important in intimate relationships.
The meaning of this sentence is also to say that while being unashamed, people must also be measured in doing things, always considering the feelings of the other party, and considering the existing state of life.
Remarried family is not easy, there are more obstacles, on the basis of the original marriage, as long as the other party has children, it is not divorced can directly leave the relationship. And because of the child, pull out the problems of money, wealth, relationships, emotions, and family, unless the mother directly ignores the child, but it is not realistic.
Children are always a woman's weakness, thinking of it will hurt, seeing it will be soft-hearted, and constantly giving up.
Therefore, men must be mentally prepared, carefully remarried the choice, if you do not think well to bear, to face these things, it is best not to blindly remarry, and finally it is not good for everyone. Since you have chosen, you can only work hard to bear and trust each other.
In this matter, it is always a very test of men's tolerance, tolerance, and sense of responsibility, of course, women can not use this to morally kidnap men.
You can't force men to bear anything, it is best to cultivate each other's feelings and trust first, without affecting the current life, let the man slowly let down his guard, for a long time, he will naturally take the initiative to do something.
At the same time, you can't ignore the responsibility of marriage, which is not fair to men, after all, marriage is not a tool to facilitate your actions, such as your inability to make up for the guilt of your children, so as to use marriage to satisfy your own selfish desires.
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I saw a post on the Internet: Remarried family, the wife often runs back to her ex-husband to manage the children, feeling that such a marriage has deteriorated, all chaotic, where is their life going?
In fact, what do men care about? Just two points.
First, the focus of the wife's life is not on the family, the mind is on the child; second, it is worried that the wife will rekindle the old feelings because of frequent contact with her ex-husband because of the child management.
So it still depends on the specific situation, the wife manages the children, whether it is completely disregarding the married life, responsibilities, and things, if so, there must be economic pressure on the man, the burden of life, and it is equivalent to just fulfilling the wife and her children.
If not, or she is willing to bear, can bear, but more children's entanglement, and can not fully fulfill the responsibility for the family, after all, the energy is limited, she is also very hard and difficult, then you are husband and wife, you should go forward and retreat together, understand each other, share each other, support each other.
In addition, mentioning the resurgence of old feelings with ex-husbands, there is such a worry is a common sentiment of people, but also a matter of trust, trust needs to be cultivated, if you want to be trusted, this can not be required, only through their own behavior, let the other party slowly produce a special affirmation and belief.
However, it is also necessary to mention a situation, as I have heard before: "Children, it is possible to be more terrible than a third party." ”
For example, the child uses your soft heart, or your ex-husband has the intention of remarriage, but knows that you will not agree, so he uses your soft heart through the child to create an opportunity for remarriage. It is very likely that the woman will gradually shake her firmness because of her heartache for the child.
This is very much needed for women to always maintain their rational side, one yard to one yard, do not let the emotional head, especially in the husband and wife conflict, what is not satisfied with the current family life.
There is not only one way to do anything, sometimes we can change the way, maybe the effect is different, but also more acceptable to the partner, good for everyone. Think more empathetically, as long as the partner is an individual, there must be a human problem, which must also be taken into account.
Therefore, those behaviors that will only blame, insist, and deny will often only backfire, and the most important thing is that husband and wife communicate more, as long as each other is not completely holding their own reason, completely self-centered, and talking more about each other's ideas, you can cultivate special feelings faster.
To some extent, the child is guilty, as long as you remarry, you still have to put family life in the first place, only when family life is smooth and the husband and wife are harmonious, you can better make up for the child and love the child. If there is a problem in your marriage because of your children, it will have a big impact on the matter of managing your children.
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Two families, if they have a sense of boundaries and a sense of proportion, in the case of good character, they can become two special close families, support each other like relatives, accept each other like friends, and wish each other better and better, although at some times, everyone needs to avoid suspicion.
In fact, this matter is the same as the woman's too concerned about the mother's family, after marriage, do not take their own small family as the center, no matter what happens in the small family, they all hold an attitude of not caring about themselves and hanging high, but what happens in the mother's family, it is the first to rush up to bear.
Living that day, of course, will be discouraged, and then from the inner disappointment to anger, resulting in constant conflict between husband and wife.
No matter what you choose, the premise is that you should think about what to bear, choose what to bear, do not want to bear anything, only use, only play their own calculations, if the marriage is also a relationship of interests, it will break down sooner or later.
That is to say, to balance each other's interests, there are benefits for you to enjoy, and at the same time you must also ensure that the other party also has benefits that can be enjoyed.
What the other party brings to you, what you bring to the other party, this is in line with the rationale of the development of things, living a life, not by liking it or not, whether it likes or dislikes it just adds some temperature on the basis of interests, it does not seem that the relationship between husband and wife is so cold, and you do not want to make the relationship between husband and wife too cold, too realistic, rather than what is required, it is better to think about how to let him take the initiative to do something.
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