Facts have proved that feelings can withstand the wind and rain, but they cannot withstand the blandness, and friendship can withstand the blandness, but it cannot withstand the wind and rain.
In the past, we always worried that the people we loved deeply could not suffer with ourselves, but later we found out that not everyone who is willing to share the hardships with you can enjoy the sweetness with you.
There has never been a shortage of such people in life, especially men, who are extremely firm in their hearts for you when he has nothing, and are willing to go to the soup for you.
But when the days slowly got better, their hearts slowly changed, and they even hated women for being bad and that was bad.
After the temptations on the outside continue to increase, men may even betray each other's feelings and marriages and fall in love with other women.
In the face of this problem, many women are helpless, only countless tears are left, but in fact, there are three stages of men's extramarital love, once to the second stage, the wife does not interfere, he also wants to break up.
Stage 1: Fresh stimulation
For extramarital feelings, many men want to cover up their most primitive desires with sincerity, thinking that in this way, they can forgive their shameless betrayal.
But from the actual situation, although it is not excluded that there will be true love, the vast majority of men's extramarital relationships are out of fresh stimulation.
Maybe the women they meet are indeed very good, but they are no longer the simple teenagers they were, and they will think that love is greater than the sky.
Now that they have a family and a certain amount of experience, they will no longer look at anything so purely, especially feelings.
There may be likes, and there may be good feelings, but love, mostly not to talk about, is more of a fresh thrill of their lust for other women.
After all, life after marriage always has to be flat, and the love that once made everyone surging has gradually blurred the boundary with family affection.
In a life like a pool of stagnant water, the sudden appearance of such a relationship seems to be injected with living water, making it easy for people to fall into it.
The second stage: the period of disgust
All feelings will eventually return to plain, this is the true meaning of life, no one can avoid, even if it is a thrilling extramarital relationship, when two people get along for a long time, the freshness will also pass.
At this time, men will find that in fact, this woman is no different from his wife, or even better than his wife, and then he has a sense of disgust.
Women who are willing to be with married men are basically divided into two kinds, one is out of true love, one is purposeful, if it is a woman who really loves a man, she will definitely want this relationship to blossom, so when it comes to a certain extent, she will mention the requirement to marry a man.
If men really want to marry other women, or completely despair of their wives and do not love her, they will not betray the marriage, because they will choose divorce first, and then look for other feelings, so most men who will have extramarital feelings have never thought of divorcing their wives.
Then when women propose marriage, because men can't give them the results they want and don't want to give them, they most likely propose to break up.
For the latter, the so-called purpose is basically focused on monetary interests, and this relationship will make men feel more relaxed, as long as they ensure the material requirements of the other party.
But people are greedy, and after they can get it easily, they will ask for more, and the insatiable appearance is the most disgusting.
And such a woman is likely to eventually go to the stage of "forcing the palace", and wants to stand by the man's side in a bright and upright way, so that she can completely control the man's economy, so the result is not difficult to imagine.
The third stage: a quick knife to cut the mess
If the man in the second stage has already moved the idea of breaking up, then the man in the third stage is already preparing for the breakup.
With the passage of time, men can also slowly see clearly what extramarital feelings can finally bring him, and who is his ultimate destination, and what he cares about most.
These emotions are like weeds living in the wilderness, without any obstacles, they will grow wildly and unscrupulously until they spread throughout the heart, and eventually the thought of leaving the breakup will flood the brain, and they will not want to stay for a moment.
Extramarital feelings are inherently wrong, and for such feelings that deviate from the formality, how can we hope that it will blossom and bear fruit?
As for whether to choose to forgive men's betrayal, it is everyone's own choice, because no matter how you choose, you can actually understand, after all, the truth will make us hurt for a while, but lies will make us hurt for a lifetime.
If for you, this thing will always be like a throat in the throat, then there is no need to force yourself to swallow it, just spit it out, and let yourself have a new start.
Everyone should understand that the most important thing is themselves, so there is no need to force yourself for the opinions of others, but if you make a choice, don't regret it and try to look forward.