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In the process of growing up, many parents will find that getting along with their children is actually a process of slowly letting go.
When children grow up, parents are no longer suitable for taking good care of them as before, after all, in adolescence, children will have their own privacy.
But letting go is not as easy as parents think, in real life, when children have reached adulthood, or even have a family, many parents still take care of them as young children.
Recently, in the hit drama "Xiao MinJia", there was a plot that triggered heated discussion among the majority of netizens.
In the play, Liu Xiaomin, played by Zhou Xun, is a mother, and in the face of her adult son, she has a confusion, that is, whether she should help her son wash his underwear.
Falling in love with Liu Xiaomin is Chen Zhuo, played by Huang Lei, who also has a daughter in his twenties and is also a single-parent family.
In a conversation, Xiao Min asked Chen Zhuo: Can you still help Jia Jia (Chen Zhuo's daughter) wash her underwear?
Xiao Min's words successfully made Chen Zhuo fall into embarrassment, and he replied: What is your problem? She's such a big girl, how can I wash her panties?
Then, Chen Zhuo also gave Xiao Min an analogy, if the mother washes her son's underwear and hangs them up, the reaction of the son after he comes back to see it must be to suspect that the mother is a pervert.
Chen Zhuo's joke amused many viewers, but it also set off a wave of discussion on the Internet about whether parents should wash the underwear of adolescent children.
Most netizens believe that since the child has grown up, then the intimate clothing also belongs to their privacy, parents should cultivate the child's self-care ability from an early age and let go in time, otherwise the parents' behavior will make the child feel uncomfortable and embarrassed.
But some netizens feel that as parents, it is nothing to help their children wash intimate clothes.
Many times after the shower, when you see the clothes thrown aside, you will wash them yourself, but for girls who grow up, it is obviously not suitable for their fathers to wash intimate clothes.
"I am a mother, as long as my daughter is at home, I wash my underwear and underwear, and I have been used to it for so many years, but if it is a son, I will not help him wash it."
"Don't say that the child is an adult, after my son goes to primary school, I will not wash his underwear, and the child's self-care ability must be cultivated from an early age." Parents do everything in a big way, and will only raise a child who depends on their parents for everything. ”
"Logically, you shouldn't wash your children, but most parents in China love their children very much, and even if they are adults, they still can't help but help."
In the comment area, some netizens said that their husbands are already in their 30s, but the mother-in-law still washes his son's underwear.
Of course, many people see a good mother-in-law who will also wash her daughter-in-law's underwear together.
When a child enters puberty, should parents also help their child wash their underwear?
The answer, of course, is no.
No matter what the reason, and no matter how much parents love their children, they should understand that when the children grow up, they need to maintain a certain distance between parents and children, especially those of the opposite sex.
Fathers can care about their daughters in words and actions, but when it comes to their daughters' privacy, fathers should take the initiative to avoid, otherwise it is easy to blur the child's gender cognition, which is very unfavorable for the growth of girls.
In the same way, many mothers have deep feelings for their sons, even if their sons are admitted to college, get married and have children, mothers are still willing to provide thoughtful services for their sons.
However, in the long run, it will not only be not conducive to family harmony, but also cultivate children into a "mother treasure" with poor self-care ability and no sense of responsibility.
Mom's message
In life, when children enter puberty, when it comes to privacy, it is inevitable that the relationship between parents and children will become somewhat awkward.
How to resolve the embarrassment of adolescence?
The answer is actually very simple, as long as parents are willing to let go, and cultivate the child's independent consciousness and independent personality as soon as possible, treat the child as an adult like themselves, and give the child full respect, then the adolescent relationship will not be embarrassing, but can increase the feelings between each other.
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