If someone does not filial piety to his parents, people around him will look down on him, because filial piety to parents is the most basic moral quality. However, there will be some exceptions, when the parents do not do some things well, the children are not filial piety, but can also be understood and tolerated.
40 years ago, he abandoned his wife and son to help other women raise sons, but now he has to find his own children for the elderly
Uncle Guo, 80 years old, fell into a pension dilemma because he could not afford to pay the cost of the nursing home. He has several children, but he is not willing to take care of the old father's affairs, and there is a reason why the children are not filial piety.
It turned out that when Uncle Guo was young, he had 5 children with his first wife. However, Uncle Guo had an extramarital affair with someone else, abandoned several children and wives, and eloped with others. The family is left with only the wife alone to raise a few children, and the eldest son and the second son died unexpectedly, and the remaining two sons and a daughter have been living without a father, suffering a lot of grievances and heartache, and finally growing up.
Fast forward 40 years, and in the process of growing up with his own children, Uncle Guo never appeared, nor did he give any help to the children. Uncle Guo married the elopees, raised the two sons born to his second wife and ex-husband, and adopted a daughter who also grew up.
There are always many accidents in life, Uncle Guo and his wife had a car accident in a trip, the wife was seriously injured in the car accident, it cost more than 100,000 yuan for treatment, and Uncle Guo's rib fracture also cost more than 20,000 yuan, all of which were from his wife's two sons. However, after the wife was healed, she was taken away by her two sons, and once she went, she had no news.
Uncle Guo first lived with his adopted daughter, but later the adopted daughter's family also had things, so he sent Uncle Guo to a nursing home. However, on the one hand, the adopted daughter is not rich in life, on the other hand, she feels that she is a pensioner alone, and it is not fair, so she wants other children to share the cost of Uncle Guo's nursing home.
Uncle Guo contacted his three children, and he admitted that he had done something wrong before, hoping that the children would help him live his old age regardless of his previous suspicions. However, several children felt very chilled, and neither they nor their father, nor their father had such deep feelings for them.
Therefore, although the amount of money for Uncle Guo's pension is not much, the children just can't let go of the mustard in their hearts and are unwilling to take over the management of their father.
Everything has a cause and effect, and people like Uncle Guo, who didn't teach their children when they were young, it is more difficult to expect their children to be filial to each other when they are old.
Parents want to cultivate a child with filial piety, but also from an early age to correctly educate and guide their children.
First, parents should accompany their children to grow up and fulfill their obligations to raise their children.
Parents are old, and children have an obligation to support their parents. When the child is young, the parents also have the obligation to raise the child. Some families have changed when the child is young, the father or mother has not fulfilled the obligation to raise the child, and the child's reluctance to support the parents in the future is also forgivable.
It is natural for children to support their parents, and there are also laws and regulations to protect them, but people will have feelings. Children's deep affection for parents, filial piety from the heart, and parents who are forced to support them are certainly not the same. Parents want their children to be filial to themselves in the future, so they should accompany their children more and fulfill their obligations to raise their children.
Second, parents should respect their children and establish an equal and democratic parent-child relationship.
Although some children grew up with their parents and fathers, they are also far away from their parents' hearts and have a deep estrangement. When children are young, we educate children, can not often use the means of scolding children, so that although there will be an immediate educational effect, but the child's heart is only afraid of parents, children may be very rebellious when they grow up.
Parents do not respect their children, use the authority of parents to suppress children, it is difficult for a family to unite as one, and children are not willing to be with their parents more, let alone filial piety to their parents. In an equal, democratic, and happy family, children can develop normally, parent-child relationships are more harmonious, and children will be more filial in the future.
Parents should educate their children on the premise of respecting their children, and they can make rules for their children and punish their children, but do not do things that affect the development of children's personality and personality.
Third, parents should use their own words and deeds to guide their children and establish correct values.
There is an old Chinese saying: the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked. Parents want to cultivate their children to be filial to themselves, first of all, they must be filial to their parents and be a kind and upright person.
Children's thoughts, cognitions, words and deeds are learned from their parents. While disciplining our children, we must also regulate our own behavior and become an example for our children. When a child has the right values, filial piety to parents is also a matter of course.
I grew up with you, you accompanied me to the old, the young have nurtured, the old have dependence, is the harmonious society we yearn for.