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Zhou Guoping said: "The stability of marriage depends not so much on love as on the harmony of daily life." ”
Marriage comes from love, but marriage is by no means a good thing that only love can live well. A person's life, the smell of fireworks in marriage, is maintained by the trivialities of life.
You enter into marriage because you love someone, and in the days that follow, you have to deal with his family and family affairs. Taken together, it is the skin of a place.
Some people will deal with things, and will make chicken feather dusters to clean up the dust in the day; while some people will not deal with it, and the chicken feathers in a place will still be chicken feathers after all.
Maybe when the life after marriage is not harmonious, women will be sad and angry, and they will cry bitterly. I feel that I have married the wrong person, and if I had married someone who was who, this is definitely not the case now.
In fact, whoever you live with is living with yourself. Many times, the other party's dependence, laziness, and lack of self-reliance are all caused by the woman herself.
In marriage, women are too virtuous, which is often a "disaster".
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You are too virtuous to play the role of "savior" and will only force your husband away
Many women are self-righteous and play the role of "savior" in marriage. A person who bears everything, is willing to pay for her husband's life, likes to educate her husband, manages to go, and manages her husband away.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia is a strong woman who grasps things outside the home with one hand, but her husband Xu Huanshan feels angry in front of her.
The reason is that Gu Jia controls Xu Huanshan, not only is three meals a day arranged by Gu Jia, but even gu Jia has to decide on the clothes that are changed every day.
The big and small things of the company are all taken care of by Gu Jia alone. Because Xu Huanshan could not reach out, Gu Jia was too strong, and as his name suggested, Gu Jia was Gu Jia's "home".
Later, the same forced Xu Huanshan to complain, and finally divorced.
Women, by nature, should show weakness in front of men to win men's love. But in life, many women have made themselves the "savior" of men, as if only she supports the men's world.
In fact, you are acting smart, and doing so will only make men more vulnerable in front of you. It didn't mean anything to his life and ended up forcing him into a "giant baby".
Just like Xu Huanshan, he felt that he was not even as good as a child in front of Gu Jia.
Women are not saviors, and no man needs you to save. Don't live yourself like a virgin, as if there were boundless love.
You yourself think it is love, but it is a serious insult to your husband's self-esteem. He doesn't want to live the kind of mode you want, he has his own way of living.
It is said that changing others is mental illness, and changing oneself is God. For the sake of family happiness, those women who are too "virtuous" should change it!
As long as you are gentle in your voice and lose your temper less, you are the most virtuous wife and the best feng shui for men.
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Woman, the more "virtuous" you are, the easier it is to hurt the marriage
At any time, marriage is a matter of two people, and you are the virtuous person alone, and you cannot live the life of two people.
Marriage is not to buy vegetables, just make up a little to buy some can be fried under the pot. Marriage is a life in which two people live in agreement, and they need to reach a consensus of emotions and concepts in order to live happily.
However, in real life, many women take the initiative to take on the responsibility of the family and suppress themselves breathlessly. The man, on the other hand, was indifferent, as if the world had nothing to do with him.
In fact, home is the home of two people, and only happy and hard work is called home. The reason why women are tired is that many times women themselves force themselves to be tired.
It is said that a good woman can complete a good man. However, you start out with a big package and tend to indulge a man in silence.
In the TV series "Guanzhong Bandits", Xi Feng and Dunzi were originally a couple, but they were separated by Xu Yunlong, Xu Yunqing's son.
The Xu family has a big business, and some of them are money. Xi Feng was chased by Xu Wanglong and finally married Xu Wanglong.
Xi Feng is diligent and hardworking in the Xu family and carefully takes care of housework. However, after Xu Wanglong returned from studying abroad, he fell in love with Zhao Yanan, the daughter of his boss.
In order to be with Zhao Yanan, he did not hesitate to poison Xi Feng, who was 5 months pregnant. In the end, he was mistakenly hit by Zhao Yanan, and Xu Wanglong did not succeed.
After Xi Feng knew, she was devastated, and finally she left the Xu family and went to Rabbit Ridge alone. Married Liu Thirteen, lived his own wonderful life.
It is said that husband and wife can share the same suffering, but they may not be able to share happiness, because he will choose others when his career is good.
Marriage is a matter of two people, and women must lay a good foundation for love before marriage. Love is like a skyscraper, the foundation is good, it will be built higher and higher. If there is no foundation, it is just a castle in the air.
Women should not forget themselves for love, and have an independent personality. Regardless of the responsibilities and obligations of the family, it must bear the responsibility with the old public, so that they will not be resentful in their future lives.
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Only if a woman is truly virtuous will she let her life peak turn around and blossom in spring
It is said that marriage is a practice, the sour, sweet, bitter, spicy and salty in life, and the hundreds of turns on the road of life are all experienced in marriage.
There is a sister Li in the unit, who is close to retirement. She was so nice that we chatted with her when we were okay.
According to Sister Li, when she was young, because she married early and did not experience the world at a young age, she divorced twice.
In fact, the fault of the two divorces is not in her, but she has met people twice. The first husband did not do the right thing, the second husband gambled, and now she has a drunkard.
Sister Li said that sometimes she feels that her life is not good, but seeing that the children are sensible and worry-free, they can't bear to leave them.
She also said that if you want to open, you have to live the same life as anyone, you have to fight for your own anger to live happily. Husband and wife, there will be someone to support on the road of life, it is better than a lonely person to end up alone.
Now, because of her age, coupled with Sister Li's supervision for many years, her husband has also changed the bad problem of loving to drink, and he cares more about her, and Sister Li is very content.
Life is an endless mountain to climb, an endless road, and an endless river. As long as you have confidence in your life, you can win the end.
The virtuousness of a woman will eventually usher in life for herself.
Women are always loyal to their husbands and attached to their husbands, which is a fact that cannot be changed.
In the Bible, Eve tempted Adam to eat the fruit of the tree of good and evil, so God sent sin to the woman, leaving her to depend on men and suffer from childbirth for the rest of her life.
It is not easy for people in this life, especially women. When you are sad, think about the children, think about the days, think about the beautiful future. Wake up tomorrow and it's a whole new world.
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The star never knew it would shine because it really didn't have any light. It shines because it flickers by the light of the sun.
The same is true of marriage, and the reason why some men have a prosperous career after marriage is because they have a virtuous wife behind them. Because of her virtuousness, men shine.
The days are their own, and if they are good, they are wonderful.
May every virtuous woman be able to grasp the right balance, be virtuous but not excessive, but have the best life.