Every parent wants their children to be able to get ahead in the future, so most families will devote everything they can to raising their children. Early education, cultivating talents, and entering good schools, as long as they can improve their children's abilities, all people will spare no effort to do it.
Parents cultivate it so carefully, which also causes the existence of internal volumes. However, many people only focus on IQ cultivation, but ignore how to guide children to have high emotional intelligence.
In fact, compared with high IQ, how to make children's emotional intelligence is more critical, and even directly determine the future development direction. So, how can we judge the level of children's emotional intelligence? How can you raise a child with high emotional intelligence?
Children have these three signals to indicate that emotional intelligence is low, and parents must not be careless
First, be overly sensible
Many parents are very pleased that their children are naturally very sensible, listen to their parents very much, and never cause trouble outside.
This kind of "angelic" child is often ridiculed as coming to repay the favor of their parents. But in fact, if the child is too sensible, too conformist, and well-behaved to lack his own ideas, then it is likely to become a "rigid" and "unchanged" crowd in the future.
Although such children rarely let their parents worry when they are young, they will worry their parents when they grow up, in their academic careers and even in marriage and interpersonal relationships.
Second, I like to look at the face
Although some children are young, they already know how to observe the color, and whether their parents are happy or unhappy, angry or angry, will directly affect their emotions.
Perhaps in the eyes of adults, such a child is a high emotional intelligence, but in fact, such a child has a very passive personality and lacks his own ideas in his heart.
In addition, they often have an unhappy life because they care too much about the evaluations and ideas of others. Growing up in this childhood environment, children will be prone to extremes in the future, and emotional intelligence is more prone to problems.
Third, do not take the initiative to fight
Some children, whether at home or at school, are unwilling to take the initiative to fight for many things, and even have excessive humility.
This kind of child may be very polite and quiet in the eyes of adults, but in fact, it is difficult for children of this character to have great achievements in the future.
In the face of social pressure and competition, such children will also cause problems in career marriages because of personality problems.
How to cultivate children with high emotional intelligence
Many people believe that children's emotional intelligence is innate, and this statement is not entirely true. Innate personality issues do have the potential to determine emotional intelligence, but nurturing is just as important. Let's take a look at how to raise a child with high emotional intelligence.
1. Improve expression ability
People with high emotional intelligence often have an obvious characteristic, that is, they are very eloquent. Some children are not good at expressing themselves from an early age, which also causes their dull personality, and they will suffer losses in the process of social interaction in the future.
Therefore, as a parent, when the child's language outbreak period, we must continue to interact with the child and strive to create a good language environment for the child. Entering the school age stage, you can often expose your child to the outside world and improve communication skills.
Second, read more
The ability to express and understand is not innate, and the most important thing parents should do during the golden age of their children's development is to read. The knowledge in the book can not only improve the child's expression ability, but also help the child improve the ability to interact with others.