In order to marry my husband naked, I broke off relations with my parents for 4 years, and now I am angry and return to my mother's house, but my husband is unwilling to come to the door to pick me up and take me home
There is a long-standing saying on the Internet: The person whose parents let you marry, you can not marry, but the person whose parents do not let you marry must not marry.
Elders often like to say: I have eaten more rice than you have eaten salt. As young people, they all have no objection to this sentence, but in the matter of marriage, this sentence is indeed a golden and jade good word.
They have decades more life experience than us, whether a man has responsibility, whether he is upright and kind, whether he lives a life, with their fiery eyes, you can see seven out of ten at once.
However, how many young people do not hit the south wall and do not turn back, do not die until the Yellow River. You have to suffer and suffer in order to understand the good intentions of your parents.
Thirteen years ago, Zhang Li ignored the opposition of her parents and insisted on marrying yu sheng naked, without a wedding and a marriage room, nor a wedding ring or candy, but she was willing to be able to stay with the person she loved for a lifetime.
However, thirteen years later, why would she, who had once been righteous, now regret not being able to divorce her?
01 The husband proposed to let the 12-year-old son sleep in a separate bed, and the wife returned to her mother's house in a huff
Yu Sheng and Zhang Li have been married for 13 years, and their son is 12 years old and has been sleeping in the same bed with them, which has a certain impact on their married life and sleep status.
And Yu Sheng believes that the son should have masculinity and should not stay with his mother for a long time, otherwise he will develop the personality of "Ma Bao Male", which is not conducive to his physical and mental development.
However, when he proposed to his wife Zhang Li that his 12-year-old son sleep in separate beds, Zhang Li was furious and refused, and after he urged him several times, Zhang Li actually went back to her mother's house for a month in anger and still did not return home.
As the mother of her son, Zhang Li should understand the benefits of sleeping in separate beds for children, but why did she react like this? It turned out that in the process of his son's growth, Yu Sheng, as a father, had always been in a state of absence.
Zhang Li said that when she went to the bathhouse to take a bath in winter, other people's families were fathers with sons, only their families were mothers with sons, and every time the sons came out to wait for her to go home together after bathing in the men's bathhouse.
She had offered to let Yu Sheng take her son to the bath, and Yu Sheng always had one excuse or another to shirk it. It can also be seen from this small matter that Yu rarely participates in the growth of children in his life, and even puts the responsibility of educating children on Zhang Li's shoulders.
It is yu sheng's lack of paternal love that makes Zhang Li focus all her attention on the child, and she is even more inseparable from the child.
If only this small thing, there will be no divorce at all, what makes Zhang Li disheartened is that she returned to her mother's house for a month, repeatedly asked Yu Sheng to go to her mother's house to communicate, take her home, and Yu Sheng ignored it, what is the reason for this?
02 The brother-in-law said evil things to my father and did not want to enter the yue family again
When Yu was young, his mother died, and there was only an old father and two older brothers in the family, plus an ignorant and ignorant man. Over the years, my father was a father and a mother, and his income was only enough to maintain food and clothing, and his life was extremely difficult. Therefore, when Zhang Li decided to marry Yu Sheng, she was opposed by the whole family.
However, the love of young people has no reason to talk about, and the more parents block it, the more fiery it becomes. In order to marry Yu Sheng, Zhang Li severed her relationship with her parents for 4 years, until later her parents felt sorry for her suffering, and they were willing to send her back to her mother's house.
It is precisely because of the attitude of his father-in-law and mother-in-law towards life that Yu Sheng's heart is resentful, and when Zhang Li was angry and returned to her mother's house before, her brother-in-law beat Yu Sheng in order to give her sister a blow, and even cursed Yu Sheng's old father who came to stop him.
In Yu Sheng's view, he provoked Zhang Li to be angry and sad, and his brother-in-law was forgivable to scold himself, but he could not forgive his 70-year-old father.
Therefore, when Zhang Li returned to her mother's house again, he was always reluctant to come to the door to apologize and did not want to be inferior. As a result, the relationship between husband and wife became more and more rigid, making Zhang Li disheartened with him and only willing to divorce him quickly.
From Zhang Li's mouth, we know that the truth of the matter is not like this at all. It was yu sheng who, after their quarrel, first insulted his mother, and then called his father at three o'clock in the morning, which caused his brother to be angry and spoke ill of his father.
Could it be that the thirteenth husband and wife are so fragile that they cannot withstand a little wind and rain? In Zhang Li's narration, everyone found that Yu Sheng had done something incomprehensible.
03 Because his wife often meets with divorced friends, he installs a tracker in the car
In the 13 years that Zhang Li and Yu Sheng were married, the first 8 years were full-time mothers, completely attached to the life of sheng. It is not that she does not want to go out to earn money, but that Yu Sheng does not want her to show her face outside, and even prevents her normal dating activities.
What is even more incredible is that in order to grasp her whereabouts, Yu Sheng actually installed a tracker on her electric car, which made Zhang Li really unacceptable.
For making such a move, Yu Sheng gave a reasonable explanation, he said: Once he went to Zhang Liniang's house to get something on the way to work, saw that Zhang Li was not at home, and asked Zhang Li where she went, Zhang Li said that she had returned to her mother's house, and at this time, Yu Sheng, who was at Zhang Li's mother's house, punctured Zhang Li's lies.
As far as he knows, Zhang Li has a divorced friend who often asks Zhang Li to go out to play together. In his view, "people are clustered, things are divided into groups", Zhang Li plays with divorced women, and sooner or later she will have two hearts for him.
But after he stopped him many times, Zhang Li still went her own way and was unwilling to break off relations with her divorced friends, so he would make this kind of device tracker behavior.
Zhang Li is very dissatisfied with this kind of distrust, believing that it violates her privacy and controls her freedom in life.
Because of these several things in succession, Zhang Li was extremely disappointed in Sheng, no longer had confidence in marriage, did not even care about her son's feelings, only wanted to restore her free body, and said to Sheng: It is really you who have broken my heart.
Seeing that there was no hope of coaxing his wife back, Yu Sheng had to call his mother-in-law for help, hoping that she could persuade Zhang Li not to divorce him. The mother-in-law said that she also wants their small family to be harmonious and happy, and will persuade Zhang Li to go home, but Yu Sheng must also learn to tolerate and understand, and do not be red in the face with Zhang Li every time there is a conflict.
I have to say that all parents are for the good of their children, Zhang Li's mother is no exception, from her words, it can be seen that she is a reasonable mother, that is, she does not know whether Yu Sheng can make changes and win back Zhang Li's heart.
epilogue
In fact, in the marriage between Yu Sheng and Zhang Li, there were no major events happening, they were all trivial things, but it was these trivial things that made their marriages on the verge of division.
1, husband and wife quarrel, try not to ask for foreign aid. It is said that "bedside quarrels and bedside and tail", teeth and tongue have bumps and bumps, let alone two people who get along day and night? When there is a contradiction between husband and wife, as long as there is a physical conflict, as well as things that break through the bottom line, try to digest internally, do not make everyone know, otherwise it will not be easy to end, and even cause greater contradictions.
2. The wife marries naked, and the husband has a grateful heart. It is said that "marry a man, dress and eat", a woman is willing to leave her parents, just to start a family with you, it takes great courage, and you not only can not give her good living conditions, but also often argue with her because of insignificant small things, there is really no man to bear.
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