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First, my husband called me a scrooge and demanded a divorce
It is said that it is easy for husband and wife to suffer together, it is difficult to be rich and noble, and my marriage cannot escape this cliché, but many people around me say that I have fallen to this day, that I am to blame myself, and that I deserve this calamity because of my heart and poison. In order to keep him, no, it should be for the common property, I insisted until my son started a family. He put forward the condition that all the large amount of property be classified in the name of his son, he only took three years of living expenses and another woman who had lived for ten years to live with, he grasped the mentality that I was a scrooge, I agreed, and at the age of 50, I gave him the right to let go of himself. After completing the formalities and returning to the village to meet the concubine, she could not suppress her excitement: "Oh, there will be no quarrel in the future!" While saying cool words, he stared at the corners of my eyes and explored my state of mind.
Over the years, I have been the public enemy of my in-laws, because I value money very seriously, I have had the experience of poverty since I was a child, and then I have a hard time living a little better, I don't want to let the money flow to inappropriate places, after getting married, I followed my husband to do small business, saved a little money to open a shop in the town, just a little profit has become a big money in the eyes of relatives and neighbors, they frequently come to borrow money, ask for money, and ask us for donations as soon as they engage in activities. The husband is a face-saving man, and even if he doesn't make money that quarter, he will meet the demands of others. In the end, even the village to build roads also looked for us to help, my husband carried me a large amount of money, was recorded in the village's merit book publicly announced that I knew, when I was angry that it was not our income from drinking for five years!
Second, why do you not give it to the poor when you have money, that is, you should be isolated for the sake of being rich and unkind
The family has been inviting him to dinner for many years, saying that it is actually a Hongmen banquet to thank him, no one does not ask him for money, the little uncle's family is like a group of parasites, building a house, the son opens a shop, the tuition fee of the little daughter........, Lin Lin finally came down The cost is not small, the key is that this family is good and lazy to do and wait for help. For the economic expenses, he said, I have no right to manage, and I can't do business, so I was cleared out by him. The most angry is the sister-in-law, her husband has died, she takes two children alone, neither remarries to find a dependency, nor does she do more work to support the family, leaving us with the burden of raising children. Winter and summer vacation children are sent, school will come to get living expenses, when to pay back, she said that after the child works, it may take more than ten or twenty years. I had a fight with her for this and never spoke when we met.
I am a woman, what is wrong with protecting the property in the family? But my husband said I was strong, and people around me said I was aggressive and stingy. Can it be done without being ruthless? When my brother first started my business, I borrowed money to get married, but I didn't agree because I wanted to use the money to make money as soon as possible, and I couldn't control him, which also angered my parents and me. Later, the conditions at home became better, I went back to help my brother a little, my parents complained that I helped less, and if I wanted to get their approval, I had to give it to me. I just didn't say yes! The relationship with his mother's family is weak, and he has no place to go after divorce.
I want to find my son, but it would be more convenient for him to live in his daughter-in-law's house and work. The big house was empty, I was alone, I had no job, I couldn't find a good job, I just relied on the little money I had secretly saved before to sit and eat the mountain, and I was often panicked in my heart. The first time I was alone for the New Year, the in-laws on the other side closed the door early, and the concubine who lived next door deliberately created the happy atmosphere of the family reunion to the peak, which made me even more lonely and sad.
Third, is good karma concluded with effort?
But since the Dragon Boat Festival this year, I have received frequent packages, it turned out that my sister-in-law's little daughter also went to work, she was admitted to a good university to intern in a large enterprise and successfully turned positive, the first thing to get a regular salary is to mail me daily necessities. She sent a message saying that if it were not for our financial support, she would have dropped out of school, and when I was a child, I often came to disturb her in the winter and summer vacations, and I always worked hard to cook and wash her clothes, in fact, at that time I was very reluctant to refuse and could not bear it, but she was too young to understand that I was just angry with her husband, not because she was unhappy. She also said she would come to see me at the end of the year!
The child who has suffered hardship is more sophisticated than the average child, and every time she talks to me, she will take into account my feelings, which makes me feel warm, and I am ashamed of the inappropriate approach of that year. The in-laws said that if I didn't care so much about money and was willing to share the money with others, I would get a good relationship, and it wouldn't lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife and everyone would see the hilarious ending.
Fourth, money is important, or is love important?
I am 50 years old and have deeply experienced this, but what I have done in the past cannot be changed, and the rest of my life can only be repented. Man, if you have the ability, do more good deeds, and the accumulation of good deeds will one day play a role. I heard that my ex-husband has opened a shop again with the help of friends, and with his ability, he should be able to make a comeback within three years, which is his personality charm, even if he has nothing, someone will lend a helping hand. I remember when I first married him, he said that people can have no money, but they must be sentient and righteous, he is grateful that I am not poor, and swears that if I am always so kind, he will love me for the rest of my life, but unfortunately I am not as good as he expected.
After the divorce, the whole world was an enemy, and there was only one person who was close to me, and she was the junior I had helped. The world is a mirror, I am merciful to show tenderness, I am sharp to show it to reveal thin feelings. Fortunately, I always had a sympathy and love for the young life in my heart, and when she grew up and blossomed, she gave me a fragrance. From now on, I will restrain myself and admit that I have shortcomings as a person. I learned to bow my head, and that's the price of divorce.
[Author: Shameful mud, focus on emotional inspiration, marriage interpretation, may my companionship bring you comfort]