There is a famous saying: "People are like hedgehogs in the cold winter, too close will be stinging, too far away will feel cold." ”
In life, if you are too far away, although it is a little cold, it is very comfortable, but this space brings respect, not to get too close to become too entangled.
This shows that the sense of boundaries of marriage is very important, and it is a disaster to master it well, and only by mastering the scale can we make our marriage more fresh.
Now here's the problem! Why do married women have to keep their distance from the opposite sex other than their husbands? Women with three views basically know how important the sense of boundaries in marriage is.
To be honest, in reality, I have seen the most positive wife of the three views:
She is a colleague of mine Xiaomei, she is sweet-looking, gentle personality, although she has been married for two years, but still very popular, there is no lack of contact between the opposite sex.
I remember once, the company arranged to go out on a trip, Xiaomei wore a red dress, it looked very bright, when traveling, met several handsome guys, all came to talk, but Xiaomei politely refused, and even sometimes simply ignored them.
But a few colleagues coaxed next to him, saying: Anyway, your husband is not here, give them a chance, your husband does not know, the result of Xiaomei directly replied with a special sentence: just because my husband is not there, I have to keep a distance from others, plus my husband hurts me so much, I will never do anything to hurt his heart.
Indeed, this is not false at all, she did say it, and the day she established a relationship with her husband, she did not interact on various social software, and even she made it that she was a person with a master of flowers.
This is not showing affection, but just wanting those opposite sexes who are interested in her to retreat.
At the same time, some people are teasing her, you will lose a lot of suitors when you are open like this, Xiaomei smiled and said, Why do I need so many suitors? The quality of women is not determined by the number of men, I have to make my husband feel safe, so you see, the more excellent women, the more they know how to clean themselves, they will actively refuse external temptations.
Will not eat the contents of the bowl, but also look at the contents of the pot, just concentrate on eating the bowl, only people with defects in the heart will feel that it is a very great thing to be sought after, even if it is immoral as the true disposition,
Truly good women also don't touch the boundaries and bottom line of marriage, nor do they chat with other people of the opposite sex very often, nor do they get along alone.
No matter where they go and what they do, they will not hide from their husbands, and they will not disappear without moving, and the news may return late, but they will not return, because they know that men also need a sense of security, and a happy marriage needs a sense of boundaries.
Finally, I would like to say that rejecting the opposite sex is the most basic respect for marriage
When a person asks for help, he is actually ready to be rejected, so, don't be embarrassed to say no, keep boundaries at all times when dealing with the opposite sex, the other person can feel it.
Appropriately reject the kindness of others, maintain a sense of boundaries, do not consume others, do not live up to themselves and their lovers,
Having a sense of boundaries for the opposite sex is the best protection for yourself and the best respect for your lover.