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Xiao Lu and Dong Fan have come to this day, their marriage is already in jeopardy, seeing that it is about to collapse, Dong Fan is unwilling to pay attention to Xiao Lu anymore, and she has already told the parents of both sides about their divorce, and at this step, she seems to have an iron heart to leave Xiao Lu.
But in the latest plot, Dong Fan forgave Xiao Lu, the reason for forgiveness is to suddenly understand his difficulties, she learned from Xiao Lu that Xiao Ying, who was next to Hehe, had already found a suitable match, and when everything was ready, the other party suddenly refused to donate, and Xiao Ying's situation was very critical.
After she knew about this matter, she contacted Yinuo to see if she could help anything, took the initiative to interview Xiaoying's mother, wrote a manuscript for publication, and sought help from social caring people.
In this process, she fully understood the child's pity and the anxiety and discomfort of parents facing the child's condition, and then understood Xiao Lu, thinking that he was not easy, and should be more considerate of him.
They reconciled, she moved back from her mother's house, and decided to face difficulties with him, and the crisis of their marriage has since passed. Did you find out, from the beginning Dong Fan's understanding and thoughtfulness, and then suddenly did not want to understand things, and now back around, she has become the sensible and considerate girl again.
If Xiao Lu is better to Dong Fan from now on, and then treats her kindly, then her understanding is worth it, because she has exchanged her understanding and tolerance for the mutual understanding and tolerance of the two people, afraid that in real life, Dong Fan continues to understand things, but what she gets is not the other party's thoughtfulness.
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Dong Fan's fate was actually doomed from the beginning, destined to become a sensible wife, which can be found in her original family.
Her parents are knowledgeable people, both people are very reasonable, parents and parents understand each other, tolerate each other, support each other, she is under the influence of such a family, naturally continue the reasoning of her parents, as well as understanding, not foolish.
She felt that marriage should be like her parents, two people can understand each other, tolerate each other, support each other, and enter their marriage with such expectations, only to find out after marriage that it is not.
In their marriage, she has always been compromising, she is tolerating and forbearing Xiao Lu, Xiao Lu has let her be wronged again and again, and she feels that her understanding and thoughtfulness can influence Xiao Lu.
The same is true of Dong Fan in real life, they are used to being a sensible person, used to being a virtuous wife, being a good wife behind their husbands, and feeling that as long as they are a good wife, their husbands will also become a good husband.
Therefore, when they are bullied by each other again and again and deceived by each other, they choose to swallow their anger and not to worry about each other, showing a very inclusive posture.
However, such a marriage is deformed, Xiao Lu in the play is still a little better, at least he finally grew up, he has realized his mistake, knows that he was not good to Dong Fan before, and said that he will be better for her in the future.
In reality, Xiao Lu will not necessarily be like this, they may become more intense and inch-by-inch.
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So what kind of situation can you choose to forgive the other party and continue?
In fact, it mainly depends on the other party, to see if the other party has really grown, whether it is realized that it is wrong for him to do what he once did, and it should be corrected. Don't just listen to his verbal promises, but also see if he has made any changes to this.
Because only action is the most real, if you only say no, no matter how beautiful it is, it is false.
In the end, we still hope that Dong Fan can stand up, blindly be a sensible person, and continue to pay, not necessarily able to get what they want.
You must learn not to understand things, what you say here is not to say that you have to make trouble, but when you feel unhappy, you don't hold back, don't blindly understand each other, when you feel that there is a problem between you, you have to find a way to solve the problem.
Dong Fan is obviously very unhappy in her heart and feels very unhappy, but she just holds back and shows a very sensible look, afraid that others will say that she does not understand things.
But she was obviously qualified and positioned to show her discomfort and unhappiness, so Xiao Lu would break through her bottom line little by little, and without asking her consent, she decided to have a second child with her ex-wife.
By the time she realized it was time to get angry, it was too late. Because Xiao Lu felt that she should understand and support, because before she would not be angry, she would not be unhappy.
If you say that you don't consider your own feelings, then the other party will not take care of your feelings, this is the true meaning of two people getting along, when you take care of your feelings, the other party will take care of your feelings.
You can be sensible, but don't be unprincipled, bottomless, otherwise you will only be bullied again and again.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Little Child"