Text/Wei Chen
Zhang Ailing wrote in "Red Roses and White Roses": "Married to a red rose, over time, the red became a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, the white is still 'the bright moonlight in front of the bed'; married to the white rose, the white is a grain of rice sticky on the clothes, but the red is the cinnabar mole on the heart." ”
Men are always like this, they don't know how to cherish after they have it, and their eyes are always focused on what they can't get.
So if a woman wants to have happiness, she must learn to reject men.
All happy marriages will not be one-sided payment, and the feelings that run in both directions are the most beautiful feelings.
However, in the relationship, women are prone to sink deeper and deeper, and men will slowly calm down.
If you want to make this relationship run in both directions for a long time, you need women to control their own steps and leave more room for each other to move forward.
There is never fairness in love. There is no right or wrong in love, only depth; love has no intensity, only willingness or unwillingness.
Whether it's already married, or during a relationship. If women are always very active, the gain will only be men's absent-mindedness.
If a woman wants to harvest a happy marriage, she must learn to refuse.
You know, when one person is obedient to another person, the other party will slowly begin to be unscrupulous.
From ancient times to the present, things are rare and expensive.
Smart women know how to make their love "rare", only in this way, this relationship will be more "valuable" in the other person's mind.
If a woman rejects a man in the following three aspects, although it is a rejection, it can make the other party more and more attentive.
Refuse to be "clingy"
The more simple-minded a woman is, the easier it is to lose herself in love.
For them, it is as if love is everything in life, so from the moment the relationship is confirmed, they make themselves into each other's little followers.
Clingy women are usually sweet, and at the beginning of the relationship, this behavior will indeed be liked by men.
But if you eat too much candy, anyone will get tired of it. Therefore, clingy behavior will gradually be hated by the other party.
Women should not be too fond of sacrifice in love, especially their own energy and time.
Being too clingy will give the other party a sense of psychological cheapness, even if you are very good, after a long time of contact, you also look very flat in his eyes.
Refusing to be "clingy" is a manifestation of women's intelligence.
Refuse to spend each other's money
Maybe you often hear the idea that where a man's heart is, his money is there.
So some women desperately spend each other's money in order to prove that the other party loves themselves.
In fact, people who are willing to spend money for you are not necessarily sincere, some people have other things to ask for, and some people just want to be facetious. One day those things that were asked for will be returned.
As the old saying goes, "Eat people with a short mouth, and take people's hands softly." ”
If a person wants to live with confidence, he cannot take advantage of others too much.
Only women who refuse to be raised by men can have independent freedom.
If you have great strength, you can take care of yourself, and at the same time, you have the courage to walk away. The other party will be careful and especially cherished.
After all, a woman's independence will bring pressure to men to fear of loss.
Refusal to live together before marriage
With the opening of people's minds, cohabitation before marriage has gradually become a very normal topic.
In fact, in every man's heart, he will be very concerned about his wife's past.
Refusing to live together before marriage is on the one hand to protect yourself, on the other hand, you can also test whether the other party is sincere or not.
No man would want his future wife to live casually.
So boldly rejecting not only won't hurt the real feelings, but it can even add points to the relationship.
Know that anything, from the time you get it, will slowly depreciate. Love is even more so.
At the beginning of love, we talk about the heartbeat, and the long-term relationship depends on character.
Only by making herself upright enough can women not be slighted in their feelings.
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About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
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