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Is there really a hatred between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law that can be remembered for a lifetime? If your husband's character is OKAY, your mother-in-law may not be bad, and the contradictions between you are misunderstandings caused by past prejudices.
Some things are not worth mentioning, there is no need to take them to heart, and there is no need to live a lifetime with so-called hatred.
Chunxiao did not expect that her mother-in-law would take the initiative to come to the door, as soon as she entered the door, her mother-in-law took Chunxiao's hand: "In fact, for so many years, I can't stand you." Man, the old fool, will also do some stupid things. Now that you have been married to Junhui for almost ten years, your mother also knows who you are, so you are relieved. Mom did those things before, don't you worry about it? ”
The mother-in-law said, and the tears still flowed out.
Chun Xiao saw the situation, quickly took a tissue to wipe the tears of the mother-in-law, she did not know whether the mother-in-law's tears were crocodile tears, nor did she have the kung fu to think about this, at the moment, since the old people were so low, how could she continue to pinch it. Chun Xiao smiled and said, "Mom, what you said is all in the past, let's not mention it, I have long forgotten those things." ”
Once the relationship between the two people was so tense, now the two people look at each other, two tears, Chun Xiao and her mother-in-law to this step is really not easy. In a sentence from Chunxiao: The mother-in-law who once bullied me and looked down on me came to apologize to me today, and she had to spare people and spare people, and the past things are not worth paying attention to.
The contradiction between Chunxiao and her mother-in-law has to start from her love affair with Junhui.
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bias
Chun Xiao's family is rural, she and Junhui are high school classmates, the two people had a very good relationship in the third year of high school, and said that they would go to the same university. Their early love was known to Junhui's mother, and Junhui's mother was furious: They are all in high school, what love, you want to harm my son.
The seeds of "Junhui's mother's opposition" have been planted since their early love.
Later, Junhui's college entrance examination was not particularly ideal, and he reluctantly went to one or two colleges and universities; Chunxiao played well and was admitted to an institution in another province. Junhui's mother was even more angry when she learned about it, and she attributed the reason why her son did not enter a good university to Chunxiao, in her opinion, if it were not for Chunxiao, how could her son play abnormally, and she felt that Chunxiao harmed her son's future and future.
Chunxiao and Junhui study in different cities, but the two are stunned and not separated.
Chunxiao likes Junhui's cheerfulness, carefulness, gentleness, and thoughtfulness, and she has never seen a boy as good as Junhui's temper. Even if I went to college and met more male classmates, Chunxiao still liked Junhui. It is not easy to fall in love for four years in college, but they still try to maintain the original beauty. Junhui likes Chunxiao's intelligence, understanding, and beauty, he feels that this girl is the kind of woman he wants to marry, and there is an endless energy in her, and with her, you will be particularly happy.
That's what it means.
They graduated from college in 2008, and the first thing Chunxiao did after graduation was to return to their hometown of the provincial city to find a job, and there was only one reason to go back, because Junhui was there. Junhui's mother always thought they were separated, but who expected that they were not only not separated, but also in love for four years and still together.
When Junhui's mother learned the truth, she was very angry, and she scolded Chunxiao as a "fox spirit", which caused some ecstasy to charm her son. Junhui has been persuading his mother, he said"I and Chunxiao are true love, we all like each other very much, Chunxiao and I are not what to do", but the mother does not listen to him, the mother said: How do you know that she does not map, their family is rural, our family is urban, what do you say she wants? The picture is to marry you to become a city person and have everything.
"Mom, even if Chunxiao doesn't marry me, she still has the ability to make a home in the city, you don't always look down on people." What's wrong with the countryside, you are not still a rural person, how can you look down on the rural people. Isn't my grandmother a rural man? People have a good university and a good job in the spring, and she herself is very strong. I still feel that I don't deserve her, but you still look down on her. ”
It was also through many obstacles, Junhui did not listen to his mother, or with Chunxiao.
But Junhui's mother has one condition: you two want to get married, but I will not pay a penny, you do a wedding to buy a house, including with children in the future, you expect me to pay a penny. You are adults, solve the problem of marriage by yourself, if you want me to pay for it, you can choose a daughter-in-law I like, otherwise there is no need to talk.
Junhui did not compromise, Chunxiao listened to Junhui and said: Let's get married ourselves, I still marry you, I still marry you with nothing, I just like you as a person.
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marry
In 2010, Junhui and Chunxiao got married with a license.
They used the money they had saved to set up two tables of banquets, inviting Chunxiao's parents and some classmates and friends, but Junhui's parents refused to attend. Junhui's mother is still very stubborn, and her only son is going to get married, and she will not participate.
There was no bride price, a very simple wedding, a particularly ordinary wedding ring, a rented wedding dress, and Chunxiao simply married herself. Her parents are reasonable people, and listening to her daughter is not the kind of person who is arrogant and unreasonable. If this were put in other parents, who would agree to their daughter's foolishness. But they don't think their daughter is a fool, they believe in their daughter's decision, after all, their daughter Chunxiao has always been very assertive, and they don't care about the jokes of the neighbors in the village, Chunxiao's mother said: "People live to see for themselves, not to live to see others, face is virtual, and their own life is the most down-to-earth." ”
After getting married, Chunxiao and Junhui rented a house in the provincial city, with two bedrooms and one living room, and the decoration was very warm.
Chunxiao once followed Junhui back to her in-laws' house and brought gifts, but she was bombarded by her mother-in-law's sneer. Chun Xiao didn't rush to go later, saving himself the hot face from rubbing his cold ass. Junhui is a reasonable man, he is very towards Chunxiao, and feels that Chunxiao has been wronged by following him.
They bought a car in the first year of marriage, and in the third year of marriage, Chunxiao became pregnant, and they finally had some savings in their hands. Regarding who will take the child, Chunxiao did not think of letting her mother-in-law come, her relationship with her mother-in-law continued to be deadlocked, and during her pregnancy, her mother-in-law did not call to care. Chun Xiao never had any expectations for her mother-in-law, Chun Xiao wanted to let her mother help take care of her, just when her sister-in-law was not pregnant, her mother could pull out.
In this way, pregnant and child-giving birth with a baby, Chunxiao's mother-in-law did not worry about anything.
Junhui also sent the child's photo to his mother to see, he also reported to Chunxiao in advance, Chunxiao did not remember revenge, said: After all, it is the child's grandmother, how can you really not let the old man look at the child? Just look at it, it's not a big deal.
It is also from the birth of the child that Junhui will occasionally take home some things that his parents bought for the child.
Chun Xiao gladly accepted that she did not refuse that her mother-in-law was good to the child, after all, she was their own grandson, and it was up to them to go.
In the sixth year of marriage, they bought a house and their children were about to enter kindergarten. Chunxiao knew that they had a difference of 200,000 yuan in buying a house, but she didn't know how this 200,000 was solved by her husband Junhui, anyway, the house was bought, and the life of their family of three was getting better and better.
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Breaking the ice
It is also a recent event, Junhui is getting busier and busier, the time to go home is getting late, Chunxiao asked him what is wrong, Junhui only told him that his mother had committed cholecystitis, and these days in the hospital to get anti-inflammatory injections. Junhui has to go to work and has to take care of his mother, and his father's health is not too good, and he is really busy.
After Chunxiao listened, she took the initiative to ask for the information of her mother-in-law's hospital, and then went to help take care of it. On that day, their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law met again, and both of them were very embarrassed, and Chunxiao accompanied her mother-in-law out to sneak around, feed her food, and scrub her. The mother-in-law did not reach the point where she could not take care of herself, so many times she still came by herself. They got along quite peacefully, but they didn't talk much, and they all had a tacit understanding, and they didn't mention the events of that year.
Chunxiao stayed with her for a week, and her mother-in-law was later discharged from the hospital when her health improved.
Because of the hospitalization, the relationship between the two of them "broke the ice".
In fact, Chunxiao knew that the 200,000 they bought a house was from the mother-in-law, but she never said it, she hated the mother-in-law in her heart, but on second thought, it was she herself who wanted to be with Junhui, and no one forced her, how sincere the feelings at that time were, she and Junhui did not flinch. Chun Xiao said that she even thanked her mother-in-law a little, if it were not for her mother-in-law being so cold-blooded and ruthless, she might not have the happiness she has today, and everything today is that she and Junhui fight on their own, very down-to-earth.
Junhui also explained to her: In fact, my mother is not bad, this person sometimes magnifies a person's shortcomings, she is biased against you, naturally can not see your good, but I can see how good you are. My mom she will always see, over time to see people's hearts, she will understand what a good person you are, how worthy.
The mother-in-law who used to bully me and look down on me came to apologize to me today.
Chun Xiao said, "I will not live my whole life with hatred, nor will I have to do so." After all, my mother-in-law is my husband's mother, and after so many years of marriage, my husband has been very good to me, so I am very grateful that she educated such a good husband and gave it to me. The unpleasantness between us has passed, since the mother-in-law bowed her head and apologized to me, I will not take her what to do, and I will treat her well in the future. ”
Also, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have nothing to do with each other, because of a man and a connection, there is no need to become an enemy.
Some unpleasantness can be let go, some misunderstandings can be eliminated, and the past is over.
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