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There are thousands of husbands and wives in the world, and the family's way of life is not ordinary.
The most taboo between relatives is to make no distinction between near and far, and to arbitrarily take measure.
It is precisely because of that layer of relationship that the relatives around me are given the opportunity to ask for it.
The hero in the next case, just when his mother-in-law arrived, triggered a series of embarrassing things in the family.
Xiao Heng was very happy recently, and he was happy to name his daughter Xiao Lanxin, hoping that her daughter Lanxin would be fertile.
It's just that his wife Fluttershy has just finished giving birth, and he is busy with work, so he has to arrange for someone to take care of their mother and daughter.
At first, Xiao Heng wanted his mother to take care of his wife, after all, it was also a matter of course for her mother-in-law to take care of her daughter-in-law.
Helplessly, two months ago, Xiao Heng's mother found gallstones, and after a while of surgery and cultivation, she could not take care of it.
Therefore, Xiao Heng could only try to call his mother-in-law, but fortunately, just after saying the difficulties, the mother-in-law volunteered to come.
In order to welcome the arrival of his mother-in-law, Xiao Heng waited at the station early.
After waiting for more than an hour, he saw his mother-in-law come out with a big bag.
The two talked and laughed along the way, and Xiao Heng was very relaxed.
When she got home, Fluttershy was very happy to see her mother coming, and she took the baby out to show the old lady.
The old lady could not stop praising when she saw it, one would say that the granddaughter's skin was white, and the other would say that the earlobes were blessed.
The family's meeting this time was very harmonious and full of joy.
The next day was Exactly Monday, Xiao Heng was going to officially go to work, and everything in the family was counting on his mother-in-law.
He and his wife have discussed in advance, in addition to the monthly living expenses, after the end of the month, he will give his mother-in-law a big red envelope to thank.
I just didn't expect the old lady's next behavior, so that Xiao Heng was unexpected.
Since Xiao Heng went to work, he would put five hundred yuan on the table every day as food expenses.
At first, the family's meals were all good, and his wife Fluttershy's milk was also plentiful.
But in less than half a month, he sensed something was wrong.
Although the daily food cost of five hundred is not much, it is enough to ensure the nutrition and supply of the family.
But recent meals have obviously not been as good as before, with vegetables on the table accounting for the majority, and meat dishes at most two.
Although it may be speculated that the mother-in-law withheld the vegetable gold, he is not easy to say.
It's just that he is a little worried about his wife's nutrition, so he privately and carefully said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, Fluttershy nutrition can keep up, I think sometimes there are some meat dishes." ”
Having said that, anyone with the slightest eye will understand the meaning.
But Na Cheng wanted the mother-in-law to say with a big grin: "Enough, enough, I am set every day, you don't have to worry." Besides, confinement can not eat too much oil, to be healthy. ”
Xiao Heng heard that it was not good to continue to compete with his mother-in-law here, so he echoed a few words and went to the bedroom.
In the room, Xiao Heng also asked about his wife's food, but Fluttershy's answer was ambiguous, and the overall meaning was enough to eat.
Since then, Xiao Heng's heart has had a knot. When I put five hundred dollars every morning, I was inexplicably a little irritable.
Even sometimes, the mother-in-law would let Xiao Heng give hundreds more money to buy vegetables, saying that she would buy some good dishes and fruits to come back.
But when I got home in the evening, there was chicken soup and some cherries on the table.
In more than a month, the expenditure on food alone has reached more than 10,000.
What Xiao Heng is embarrassed about is not the high cost of food, but the disproportionate proportion of expenditure and what he gets.
Just as he was bothering about it, he found a new situation in his home.
It turned out that his newly bought wireless headphones could not be found, because it was a well-known brand, so the price was not cheap when buying.
He searched for two days at home without moving, and after asking around, he said that no one saw it.
The mother-in-law said intentionally or unintentionally: "Oh, it is estimated that it is lost for the baby, and the children are like this." ”
Xiao Heng also felt that it made sense for a while, so it didn't take long to forget about it.
But soon, he found that his designer wallet and belt could not be found.
Obviously I remember putting it in the closet, but I didn't move for three days, and I didn't see it after asking around.
It wasn't until a few days later, when one of his wife's gold necklaces was gone, that Xiao Heng realized that there was something wrong.
In order to "solve the case" as soon as possible, he secretly bought several invisible cameras on the Internet and placed them in the bedroom and living room.
Sure enough, when observing the surveillance a few days later, it was found that the culprit was the mother-in-law.
He watched as his mother-in-law took advantage of his wife's visit to the bathroom to turn over her jewelry box, as if she had taken another gold ring.
Although this was not what he expected, his heart was still sullen.
After all, this matter is disgraceful, the other party is still his mother-in-law, think about it or temporarily stand still.
He knew that the mother-in-law was actually not a bad person, and he withheld vegetable money to take things from the family, presumably for the sake of the little uncle of the family.
Speaking of Fluttershy's brother, that's a real headache. Thirty-year-old people, do not work or fall in love every day. Therefore, forcing an elderly mother-in-law to find a way to get money.
Xiao Heng revealed the matter of placing a camera at home, saying that it was convenient to observe the baby's situation, but in fact it was to wake up the mother-in-law.
I thought that things would be settled like this, but I thought that half a month later, the family lost a watch.
At this time, Xiao Heng could no longer sit still, he roughly calculated that from the vegetable gold to the things that went along, there were probably tens of thousands of pieces of loss.
In just three months, Xiao Heng saw through his mother-in-law's greed. In order to make the big thing small, he didn't point out anything, just found an excuse to send away his mother-in-law.
Maybe the old lady was also weak-minded, and on the day she left, she didn't mention anything, so she left sharply.
After returning from the station, Xiao Heng returned home and put away all the invisible cameras, and he did not mention anything with his wife.
In the end, he just complained to his mother: "Mom, you help me inquire about where there is a suitable nanny, the baby is still young and can't do without people." ”
The mother said very strangely: "Hengzi, isn't your mother-in-law coming, the nanny is strange and expensive." ”
Xiao Heng paused for a few seconds and said, "Oh don't mention it, her mother came to sweep the money and leave, it is better to spend 10,000 a month to hire a nanny." Mom, don't tell anyone else, Fluttershy heard it badly. ”
The mother suddenly nodded her head, and while promising to help him inquire more about the nanny, she asked him not to worry about the elders...
The hero in the case is still reasonable, and there is no investigation into the fault of the mother-in-law.
This tells us that relatives should not only respect each other, but also remember the following two requirements.
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One: Between relatives, we must maintain a certain distance on the issue of money.
As the saying goes: This brother, you have to settle the account.
Therefore, since ancient times, on the issue of money, there is no distinction between the elderly and the young, the inferior, nor the internal and external aliens.
Because human nature is inherently fragile, it is even more difficult to accept the test of interests.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we must take advantage of the measure of money.
Even between relatives, keep a good distance on the issue of money.
Don't be like the mother-in-law in the case, who eats and drinks at the son-in-law's house without scruples.
If you can't meet a sensible son-in-law, it is not your own face that you have lost.
Money is hard to beat, but its allure is hard to resist.
However, once the distance is crossed, the price may be even greater.
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Second: Don't use family affection as a tool for profit.
In fact, in the vast world, it is not easy for us to get to know each other.
If there is a fate of being a relative, it is even more impossible to ask for.
Unfortunately, this hard-won relationship is sometimes used as a tool for profit by people with ulterior motives.
Because moral kidnapping is the easiest, because reaching out to relatives is also the most convenient.
But this kind of person ignores the problem, that is, everyone is not as stupid as they think.
The so-called trick, many times is just the other party to see through and not to say broken.
It's not silly and pedantic, it's about respect and understanding of you.
So cherish your family and loved ones, and don't use family affection as a tool to satisfy selfish desires.
Because when you look back, you'll find out how asshole you were.
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In every family, the weight of loved ones is irreplaceable.
And the best way to get along, that is, you understand me, I help you.
In such a harmonious environment, the family can flourish and be full of positive energy.
Don't hurt the trust of your loved ones, and don't live up to your responsibilities.
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