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Zizhi Tongjian series of stories
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The most is the benefit of spring of the year
In the Spring and Autumn Warring States, the princes were divided, and these princes did not dare to be called kings, and the supreme leaders of the princely states were all called monarchs.
In order to consolidate their power, these princely states would marry each other and marry each other's daughters, and some would marry two or three daughters at the same time to the same monarch at a time.
Just like I wrote before about princess Wai Jiang of the State of Qi, she married the Duke of Luzhuang with her sister Shu Jiang, because she was prejudiced against the Duke of Luzhuang and often did not have a good face for the Duke of Luzhuang, so although she was the authentic lady of the monarch, she did not have a sister Shu Jiang to be favored.
These women who bear the fate of the country are lucky, and they have been favored by the monarch for a few years or more than a decade, and perhaps the bad luck may be a general side, and the monarch has already left it behind.
Some princesses who are the daughters of heaven will marry twice or three times for the benefit of the country, whether they like it or not.
These are commonplace things in the historical environment of the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States.
Does this mean that the people of that era were all wooden people? No need for affection?
Of course not, it should be said that not only two thousand years ago, or two thousand years later, human nature will never change, it is all in need of love and warmth.
So this is also why until now, people still have a love story similar to "Liangshan Po and Zhu Yingtai", because such a story expresses true feelings.
What truth does this way of marriage between the rich and aristocratic in history tell us?
It's that love and expensive bread are basically hard to coexist.
However, the life of poor and lowly couples is not good, especially now many couples are because of their poor families, they have children, and their daughters-in-law will run out to work, and there are not a few who have never been seen since.
What this means is that love is really particularly fragile, too rich to work, too poor to do, the material foundation must be just right, but also carefully maintained, this so-called small flame of love can tremble and barely extinguish.
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The most is the benefit of spring of the year
I think the ancients have long seen this truth, so we look at the attitude of the ancient people to the marriage relationship, it seems that they do not think much about whether two people will fall in love together, the ancients understand the laws of life, generally find objects for their children, more will take into account each other's family style, will inquire about how the other party's parents are, is it a harmonious family, how is the reputation of the ancestors?
These are the more important places, and whether two people love each other or not is basically not considered.
Secondly, those who are slightly inferior, in order to be safe, will find a family with the right door to marry.
These two aspects basically include a large part of the marriage phenomenon in ancient times.
After getting married, there is a family with upbringing and rules, adhering to the instruction that couples should respect each other as guests, the husband and wife will respect each other very much, and will bear all kinds of marriage together, and the marriage of the ancients is basically from strangers directly to the state of relatives who share happiness and suffering.
As for love, there is, there is no harm, and it is harmless, anyway, the days can be lived.
In the past, when I was young, I could not understand this kind of life without feelings, thinking that people could not live together without feelings.
Now that people are middle-aged, they find that people have feelings and can't live, especially those who have deep feelings at the beginning, married life is more likely to experience various tribulations, and even a little bit of wind and grass can brew an uproar.
Now the so-called love is basically based on selfish self-interested love, and once it is found that the other party is no longer willing to benefit itself, it will immediately fall apart.
It can also be seen from this that people's feelings are actually very easy to change, saying that love is love, saying that if you don't love, you don't love.
People's feelings change flexibly to this extent, so do you say that this so-called love is true or false?
There is only one feeling in this world that is true about love, and that is compassion.
This kind of compassion is the meticulous care of parents for their children, and if this love is extended and others are included in their own compassion, it is truly love that will not deteriorate and can always be altruistic.
If you have such a compassionate heart, you can live well even without love, but without this compassion, the days with love are terrible, and the days without love will not be good.
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