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It is said that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult problem in the world to solve, and it seems that when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mentioned, everyone's heart is a picture of a dispute.
Sometimes it is quite helpless to think about, because a man insists on making some kind of connection between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law, who can't be hit together, and it is also the kind of person who is going to become a relative when they first meet, and who is afraid that there will be some estrangement in their hearts, right?
After all, decades of time is not just a number, even if many relatives spend decades getting along, there is no way to understand each other, how can it be required that the daughter-in-law understand the mother-in-law as soon as she enters the door, and have no complaints about the mother-in-law?
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like buying lottery tickets, a good relationship is like winning the jackpot, and a bad relationship is actually the norm for most people, so understand this, no matter how the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, everyone must try to open it.
However, after listening to the story of the evil mother-in-law, will it be gratifying to suddenly appear a good mother-in-law? I think how many people must know.
Is there a good mother-in-law in this world?
01。
A while ago, a friend Lulu, who had not been in touch for a long time, asked me on WeChat for a little consultation, and talked about her current situation between small talks.
Lulu is 35 years old, has had a failed marriage, just remarried last year, the second husband has a little money in the family, the focus is that her husband is obedient to her, and her in-laws have nothing to say about her.
It turned out that the in-laws' house was requisitioned, according to the way of head compensation, their family suddenly had a lot of suites, plus the in-laws also saved a lot of money over the years, so Lulu was also very generous when she got married, not only bought a car of 400,000 yuan for her in full, but also bought a small house for their little couple with hundreds of thousands of dollars.
I was particularly surprised after listening to it, because in my memory, there are good in-laws, but they don't bring such good ones.
After all, this is to ask them to take money before marriage, not to mention that it is not bought for their sons, it is bought for their daughter-in-law, are they not worried about their daughter-in-law's divorce, and this money will eventually be taken away?
Many people may say that this mother-in-law is stupid, but in fact, I think this mother-in-law is particularly smart. Although people can live for decades in this life, they can't actually take anything away when you go, so smart people understand one thing, that is, when they are alive, they are as good as possible to the people around them.
02。
Lulu's mother-in-law is also because she knows this truth well, so she will give the woman protection before marriage, and their idea is very simple, that is, to be good to the daughter-in-law within their own ability, so that the daughter-in-law will be good to her son.
Anyway, they themselves are not bad money, holding so much money in their hands is actually not interesting, it is better to use this money to do a person, so that they can make each other grateful, why not a good way?
It is precisely because the in-laws pay first, so Lulu is also particularly friendly to her in-laws, and even some of the things she did not want to do before, she is willing to work hard to improve in order to be filial to the in-laws.
Take the matter of having a baby, for example. Lulu herself is particularly dislike of children, and has never thought of having children, but the husband wants to have a child of her own, and the in-laws also expressed the hope that she can have one, one is good, and after giving birth to the child, they will be responsible for carrying, including the cost of the child, they will bear.
In other words, Lulu just needs to have a belly and bear the pain of giving birth, but they will make up for it as much as possible in the future. Seeing this, do you also think that some people's lives are very good, and they easily get what we dream of?
To say that people have their own lives, sometimes it is really impossible not to believe.
If the fate is good, the luck will be better, of course, if you think that there is all the ingredient of luck here, it may not be right, because three points depend on life, and the other seven points still have to rely on their own efforts.
If you just rely on fate and don't work hard at all, the result will still be less than satisfactory.
In addition, I think that the main source of a person's happiness is because of this: contentment.
Whether you have more or less, first of all you have to have a sense of contentment, once you start to be greedy, then even if you have more, you will still feel that it is not enough.
Feelings are the same, you want others to be nice to you, then first of all you have to learn to pay, if everything is always demanding of others, not demanding yourself, then even if you get it at the beginning, you will slowly be consumed by yourself later.
In fact, there is no absolute in everything, good mother-in-law or evil mother-in-law, the key also depends on how you look at this matter, or what standards you use to look at it, are your standards all right?
All in all, forgive more in all things, insist on good places, improve more bad places, I believe that if you can do this, your life will always get better and better, because such a person's luck will not be too bad.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?