Wen | Zhang Ping
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Most of the regrets in this world are related to feelings.
Some people obviously love each other, but for various reasons, they are finally forced to choose to separate.
But even after separation, even if you later form a family with other people, you will still have a certain kind of thought about the person you have loved before, which is probably what we often call remembrance.
Whether it is a good feeling or a bad feeling, since it has existed, it will definitely leave a seed in our hearts, and then the rest of our lives will continue to live with the regrets of the first half of life, whether unwilling or unwilling.
Sometimes think about it, if you really love someone, even if the road ahead is difficult, I still hope that you can work together to overcome it, rather than giving up easily, because feelings are never easy, especially when you meet a person who loves you and loves yourself at the same time, and can enter marriage with him, go to the whitehead, it is even more difficult to add.
Encounter is a pity, encountered, please cherish.
01。
At the age of 30, when the friends around her got married and had children one after another, Liu Li broke up with Chen Yang.
Liu Li and Chen Yang are university alumni, Chen Yang is one year higher than Liu Li, a talent in the art class, while Liu Li is a music major, with a slim body and a beautiful face.
At that time, they were talented and feminine, and they were a natural pair in the eyes of many people.
Chen Yang went to an advertising agency after graduation, and worked very busy every day, overtime is a common thing, but even so, he would still take time to chat with Liu Li every day, care about her daily life at school, and plan their future.
This made Liu Li feel that although Chen Yang had no money, he was a responsible person and a reliable man. At that time, Liu Li's biggest wish was to graduate quickly and then form a new family with Chen Yang.
After graduation, Liu Li went to work for a while, and then went to a piano shop, relatively speaking, the working time is relatively free, working every afternoon and leaving work around 9 pm.
The first two years of graduation should be their happiest time, the two people live in the same house, although they are too busy to eat together often, but the two can finally stay together.
After Liu Li was 25 years old, her parents began to urge marriage, she herself also wanted to get married early, so she and Chen Yang proposed ideas, but Chen Yang said that she was still young, the money was not enough, and she had not saved enough for the down payment of a house, so she hoped that Liu Li would wait for herself.
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Many boys, when they are young, will feel that money is more important than love, because in their view, only when they have money are they qualified to talk about love and are eligible to marry.
But in fact, if a man truly loves a woman, whether he has money or not, he will desperately want to give the girl a home, if he finds various reasons to shirk, no accidents, is not enough love.
Chen Yang loves Liu Li, but this love has gradually changed as he has gone through the social ladder. After all, they are ordinary people who come out of the small city to work hard, they have seen too many injustices in life, and everyone will envy the kind of people who obviously don't need to work too hard, but the heavens are the people who will treat them preferentially.
Chen Yang is no exception. In the second year of work, the colleague who entered the company with him instantly became a rich man because he married a rich woman, and if he continued to choose to be with Liu Li, then he would have to pay a lot more.
Because of reality, he had withdrawn, but these Liu Li were all kept in the dark. From the first time Liu Li mentioned marriage, Chen Yang was already thinking about how to say break up.
However, this opportunity did not come, and they dragged on for another 3 years. Time flickered to Liu Li's 30 years old, this year her mother gave her an ultimatum, not to marry and break up, and finally Liu Li ended this 8-year relationship.
After falling out of love, she met Wu Guo, who was two years older than herself, under the guidance of her parents. Wu Guo looks very ordinary, but the family is good, and the parents are also very friendly, she said that she did not like but did not hate, thinking that she was not young, so she agreed to continue to get along.
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The marriage was initiated by both parents, and they only met 3 times at that time. Before deciding to get married, she also had a lot of hesitation, but then she thought about it, maybe there was nothing wrong with getting married, anyway, she couldn't marry the person she loved, and who to marry was not a knot.
In this way, 3 months after the breakup, 30-year-old Liu Li married Wu Guo, who had only met 3 times.
There are many such girls around, after talking about a long love, or experiencing an unforgettable love, but will look at marriage very lightly.
Most of the girls who put "don't want to be" on their lips are still lucky, at least they have not really suffered from love, or even if they have suffered, they have long forgotten.
It is precisely because they have expectations in their hearts that they want to seek love wholeheartedly.
But for those girls who have loved, hurt, and no longer have expectations for love, love may be a long time ago, for them, it really doesn't matter who they are with.
Thinking about it is actually quite sad, every girl is the most special existence, they are suitable for a man who is really good to himself to love, but unfortunately some people are still waiting, and some people have given up waiting and resigned themselves to fate.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?