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Jane Eyre: "Even if the whole world hates you and believes you're bad, as long as you have a clear conscience and know that you're innocent, you won't be without friends." ”
In fact, as long as you are unashamed, decent, and not sorry for anyone, it is impossible to make the whole world hate you, and it is impossible to make everyone believe that you are bad.
Normal people are hated by others, not by normal people, but only by abnormal people. For normal people, in life will encounter some rotten sweet potato stinky bird eggs, hate you for no reason, and can't get along with you in the name of qiaoli, such people are either stupid or bad.
We must not be soft on such people who are either stupid or bad. If you're fine if you dodge them, stay away from them. If you have to face it, then a big ear scraper to smoke it. Whoever calls it the height of the sky, who calls it to take pleasure in disgusting others, and whoever wants to find a beating will fulfill it.
The reason why the following woman is not kind to her sister-in-law is because her sister-in-law is the kind of person mentioned above.
Hello Mr. Donglin:
My husband can't come back from out of town and has been home alone lately.
One day when I got home from work, I found the gate open, I thought it was a thief, and hurriedly called the people at the property and asked them to send someone over. As a result, it was found that the "thief" who had sneaked into my house was my sister-in-law.
After I sent the people at the property away in anger, I went home and asked her what she wanted to do: "Do you know that you are behaving badly?" Where did you get the keys to my house? Why run over without saying hello? ”
She said she didn't have a key, she was looking for someone to open the lock, and then she gave me a blank look: "I came to my brother's house, why do I have to greet you, who do you think you are?" Don't forget that this house was bought by our family, and it is not too much to say that it is mine. What's wrong with me going back to my own house? What qualifications do you have to teach me a lesson? ”
She provoked me so much that I couldn't stand it and demanded that she leave immediately, or else I would be rude to her.
She was even more energetic: "It's you who should roll, if you talk to me in this tone again, I'll tell my mother..."
I didn't wait for her to finish speaking, I hurt her a big ear scraper, I really can't get used to her cynical ugliness, she is bent on finding a beating, why should I be soft on her?
She was about to pounce and fight back, but I hit her again. Then, she called my mother-in-law: "Mom, you come soon, my sister-in-law beat me, you beat her up for me!" ”
The mother-in-law did not say much on the phone, only said that she would arrive in a short time.
I had a hunch that a storm was coming, and if the two of them joined forces to bully me, I wasn't sure I could beat them. I only hate that my husband is not at home, my mother's family is far away, and I have no way to ask for help.
After my mother-in-law arrived, I was ready to fight, and what my mother-in-law said to my sister-in-law surprised me.
She first asked her sister-in-law, "You said your sister-in-law beat you?" How did you play? Where's the fight? Why hit you? ”
When the sister-in-law saw the rescuers coming, she began to get carried away, adding oil and vinegar to her whole body, saying that she was beaten and hurt all over her body. As for the reason, she did not lie, it was still the same set she had told me before.
I thought my mother-in-law would turn against me, but who knew she said, "Well played!" You should have fought! Even if your sister-in-law doesn't hit you, I'll hit you!" Who taught you to break into someone else's house? Why don't you break through the door without saying a word to your sister-in-law? I never taught you to be a thief, and you really let me down! ”
The sister-in-law was not convinced, and said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, don't be afraid of her, she doesn't dare to tell us both!" You don't always count her down at home don't you? Don't you have a big opinion of her? How did you see her like a mouse meets a cat? ”
The mother-in-law said: "Yes, I do have opinions about your sister-in-law, I think all the mothers-in-law under the heavens have more or less opinions about the daughter-in-law, but I never thought of bullying her, and I don't necessarily have to bully her if I have opinions, just like she has opinions about me and does not bully me. You only remember that I had an opinion about your sister-in-law, but never listened carefully to the turning point after I said these words. It's that I have an opinion about her, but it doesn't mean that she's bad, it's possible that I misunderstood. When you get married and become a daughter-in-law in the future, or become a mother-in-law for a long time, you will naturally understand these truths. ”
For the first time since I got married, I have heard my mother-in-law say so much. I was deeply impressed by her words, and indeed, she never bullied me, just as I never bullied her.
At the request of my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law apologized to me, and I accepted. I have no reason not to accept, even if the sister-in-law only apologized falsely, and then still deliberately disgusted me, as long as there is a mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence to protect me, I have nothing to fear. It's just that I have a question, can I believe what my mother-in-law said?
Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:
I think she can confidently and boldly believe what her mother-in-law says, because those words cannot be said in disguise if they are not from the heart.
Indeed, as her mother-in-law said, it is impossible for all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be completely harmonious with each other, and there will be more or less dissatisfaction between each other. As long as the dissatisfaction between each other is not a particularly serious problem, it is much better to digest each other in their hearts than to turn into "bullying each other's behavior".
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law first maintain a state of harmony, maintain the balance of each other's relationship, and then argue on this basis, and then make demands on each other, so that they are more likely to be accepted by each other, because there is "mutual trust" as the basis.
If you don't, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be very tense.
For example, some mothers-in-law, but whenever there is a slight lack of satisfaction, they will make a big fuss, either aggressively accusing the daughter-in-law, or engaging in some small actions behind their backs to bully the daughter-in-law. In this way, the daughter-in-law cannot have a good feeling for her mother-in-law, cannot trust her, and will only resist, so that you will come and go, and you will make a lot of trouble.
I hope that other mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can learn like that mother-in-law, be a cultivated person, hold your breath, shoot again when you should shoot, and don't do anything wrong when you shouldn't shoot. Only when you can be a person can you know how to interact with people; you will not be a person, you will only be taught.