A happy marriage often requires two people to cultivate together and jointly maintain each other's feelings. Only by constantly honing oneself in ordinary life can we achieve the desired results.
Any feeling is like this, from the initial acquaintance to the final stay, which requires a variety of tempering, so that two different hearts gradually in the changes in life, began to have a tacit understanding, such a marriage is the happiest state.
Marriage is the sublimation of love, we must also understand that everyone has shortcomings and advantages, how to tolerate each other's shortcomings, explore each other's advantages, this is the most critical part of marriage.
No matter how big the contradiction between two people is, you must understand from beginning to end, you have realized that it is not easy now, you love each other deeply, what can not be resolved by calming down?
For women, when they choose to enter into marriage with a person from the moment they decide to give themselves to each other, then they will not consider what will happen in the future marriage, in their hearts, they believe that this person is a lifetime.
After marriage, many women have had similar feelings, no matter how much the marriage has changed, it seems that everyone is willing to endure it again and again. Even if you are disappointed in the relationship, you will not easily give up the relationship.
Women are often the one who wants to be happy in marriage the most, as long as her marriage can be happy, no matter what she does, she is willing, and even endures her husband for the sake of marriage.
The ideal is too beautiful, but the reality is not so perfect. Some women have bad luck and will meet a bad man, and after marriage, they will make the marriage full of scars because of the trivial life.
Some women are willing to put up with their husbands for the sake of marriage, for the sake of children and family, and she thinks that as long as she puts up with it a little, she can just live the rest of her life.
There is also a kind of woman who will always tolerate marriage at first, but after experiencing some things, she is completely disappointed in her husband and finally chooses to give up marriage and embark on the road of divorce.
Therefore, in marriage, there is only one reason why a woman can make up her mind to divorce completely, that is, she is completely desperate for her husband, and she has no feelings for this marriage.
If the marriage doesn't have any warmth and affection, it's better not.
During this time, there were many divorced people, and I also had several divorced friends around me, and Gu Xiaoyue was one of them.
She and her ex-husband met after work, because Gu Xiaoyue's work is relatively special and the circle of life is relatively small, so it is difficult to know other people.
Last year, under the introduction of the family, I met my ex-husband, the ex-husband talked about love twice, and he was also about to reach the age of marriage, and he wanted to find a suitable person to start a family together, just gu Xiaoyue's age was almost the same, and the two people hit it off, and they ran to get married and talked about love.
From realizing that they were in love, it took them a month. After falling in love, the ex-husband is very good to Gu Xiaoyue, and the way the two people get along is also very reasonable. They are very tacit in each other's work, and they occasionally go on dates and eat.
While discovering each other's shortcomings, they will deliberately magnify each other's advantages and use their strengths to cover up their shortcomings, so that there will be no quarrels and contradictions. When encountering things, they will also understand each other, especially when arguing, both people will take the initiative to apologize and admit their mistakes.
Six months later, the two received their marriage licenses.
At that time, I was very curious about why Gu Xiaoyue had obtained her license so quickly, and I thought she was pregnant. But she told me that she and her ex-husband married because they both needed each other, and they had identified each other and had already planned their married life.
They plan to have children after two years of marriage, pay off their mortgages together, and run the family well together.
However, less than half a year after their marriage, that is, the beginning of this year, their relationship seems to have reached a freezing point.
The ex-husband works overtime every day in order to work, and he will not take the initiative to explain the situation to her when he travels. As the relationship between the two people slowly develops, there is no longer an endless topic between each other, but has become nothing to say.
Sometimes even if you sit face to face with each other, you are just busy with the things in your hands, or you look at your own mobile phone as if you have a stranger sitting in your own home.
Once, gu Xiaoyue had a cold, and she sent a message to her ex-husband, and waited until the end of work and the other party did not reply to her. The most coincidental thing is that it rained heavily just after work, and many colleagues around me had boyfriends or husbands to pick up, even if no one came to pick up, they would receive calls from each other who cared.
Only Gu Xiaoyue was alone, no one came to pick her up, and no one called or sent a message to care about her. That day she came home in the rain, and coughed vigorously at night, but her ex-husband slept very deeply and did not pay attention to Gu Xiaoyue's situation at all.
Since then, Gu Xiaoyue and her ex-husband have completely lost the topic, and the two of them are no longer cooking at home, and they are working while buying food outside. Just a period before the divorce, Gu Xiaoyue was very afraid to go home, and even when he went downstairs in the community, he would have to linger for a long time before entering the door.
She didn't want to go back to that family without warmth, she always felt that she wasn't the owner of that home, but a guest of that home.
She struggled for days and finally decided to divorce her ex-husband. When she and her ex-husband proposed divorce, she thought that her ex-husband would be surprised, at least to keep it, but she did not expect that her ex-husband did not even think about it, and directly agreed to her request for divorce.
After that, the two people completed all the formalities in a month's time, quickly divorced, and became strangers again.
After the divorce, Gu Xiaoyue felt that her whole person was much more relaxed.
She found that it was the most uncomfortable thing in the world to suffer in an unhappy marriage, and instead of two people living in an unhappy marriage, it was better to let go of each other and start their own lives again.
Marriage is not love, nor is it something that can be lived together casually, but a lifelong thing, and the most important thing is to live together with two people.
The happiest day is when two people have a day to talk, have something to do, have common hobbies, and love each other deeply, which is called living a life.
If there is no affection for each other, let alone a topic, and two people feel the same as strangers together, it is not marriage.
For such a marriage, women will struggle countless times in their hearts, and finally decide to divorce the man and start their own new life again.
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