A question for everyone:
If your family is a daughter, you are getting married recently.
As a parent, you have more money in your hands, and you don't have to worry about your own pension, you especially love your daughter and want to prepare a rich dowry for your daughter.
Assuming the budget is half a million, you have three options:
Buy a house, buy a car, give cash.
How would you choose?
My advice is: buy a house, even if it is only enough for a down payment, it is also recommended to buy a house.
If you have different opinions, don't rush to refute it and listen to the story.
I have a distant cousin, married at the age of 26, she is an only child, her father hurts her mother, and she grew up as an eyeball.
After graduating from college and stabilizing his job for a few years, he married his boyfriend in college.
Originally everything went smoothly, that is, when they got married, there was a little conflict between the two parties.
The reason is that her cousin's parents bought a small house before her marriage with a down payment of six hundred thousand, an old and dilapidated child in the city center.
Near the time of marriage, the man's parents said:
In the future, after marriage, the younger two families will have to provide two houses (because the man's parents have also paid a house to the man), which will be more difficult.
And the meaning of the man's words is that the woman's salary is lower than the man's, and the common income after marriage is used to provide two houses, and the man suffers losses.
Then he suggested that the woman's parents sell the woman's house and exchange it for cash as a dowry.
As a result, the cousin's parents, in order to let the cousin have face in front of the in-laws' house, actually agreed!
He sold the house (it seems to be sold at a low price, because he was in a hurry to get married with money), took six hundred thousand, and married a car of two hundred thousand.
Then there were more than 100,000 people, and the house bought by the man was renovated...
My cousin married her with six hundred thousand in cash and a small car, and it was fine at first.
Later, the days went by and on, the more wrong it was:
Let's start with the car.
My cousin has a driver's license, but she is timid and does not dare to drive, usually the brother-in-law is driving.
The key is this brother-in-law, who always controls the car.
Isn't the average car two keys, and he hides the other one from his cousin.
Even my father-in-law occasionally wanted to open it, and he found an excuse not to open it;
Let's talk about the six hundred thousand in cash.
My cousin got pregnant after two years of marriage and quit her job at home because she was not in good health.
After the birth of the child, it is inseparable from people, and the mother-in-law never says to help bring it, only she can bring it herself, and she cannot return to the workplace for a long time.
For more than three years, from pregnancy to the time the child was two years old, she did not have any income, and her brother-in-law tacitly did not give her any household.
The cousin is a person who wants a face, has a strong sense of self-esteem, and does not ask her husband for money, she feels in her heart that she does not earn money, nor should she ask her husband for money.
But does pregnancy and childbirth not require the care and involvement of the husband? Is a child a life, a person?)
During the period when the wife is pregnant and nursing, is it impossible to work and earn money, is it not obliged to provide financial support as a husband?
I said to my cousin:
This is not at all a question of whether you have self-esteem, earning money to support the family is the joint responsibility of husband and wife, otherwise why are you getting married? Can't you live by yourself? huh?
You get pregnant, you take care of the child, and then he doesn't take a penny to the house, so why should he be the father of the child? What is his last name?
The child is the "gold sucking beast", and in the past three years, the cost of taking care of the child and herself has all come from her dowry of six hundred thousand.
I was speechless to her.
And she desperately tries to make excuses for her husband:
"He's still very good to me... Also very good for kids... Usually, when I don't work overtime, I will help me cook a meal and bathe my child..."
……
All I can say is:
Do what you do, right, right, I wish you a hundred years of good union.
Now, back to the question at the beginning of this article:
Your precious daughter is getting married, do you give half a million in cash, or buy a house and a car?
In the case of cash:
Half a million cash dowry, let the daughter take it, is equivalent to giving the daughter and son-in-law half a million living expenses.
If your daughter gives birth to a child and takes maternity leave, this money can be spent more than half, and the follow-up money will be filled into the daily life of a small family.
Now girls have strong self-esteem and do not want to be treated as "parasites", as long as she has money in her hands, she will definitely give priority to spending her own.
Because now girls "earn their own money to spend their own money" is zz correct, if you spend a penny on the man you are a moth, is looking for a "long-term meal ticket", as if the personality has a stain.
In a small family, how much the woman spends on the family and how much money she spends on the child is something that everyone does not realize.
Perhaps, it will also make the man have an illusion:
"It seems that it doesn't cost much to raise a child."
"My wife has bought a bag again, and she can really spend money indiscriminately."
If you are buying a car:
Half a million cars are luxury grades, you can rest assured, after buying your daughter can not drive a few times, it is her husband is driving.
Don't ask, ask is "women are not safe to drive".
Therefore, as a woman's parent, the matter of saving the dowry for the child must be carefully considered and cautious.
You give her three hundred thousand, half a million, a million, and many times, you don't even hear a ring and spend it.
If the girl is smart, she will most likely ask her parents to help her exchange this money for a house.
Even if she sacrifices some quality of life and has to pay back her own salary, she will thank her parents in the future.
Parents, if they really love their daughter, they must stand in the position of their daughter to help her make a correct choice.
The house is the survival guarantee of an ordinary person in the current society.
Even if you have no job and no marriage, as long as you have a house, you have a place to go, and you will not be desolate and homeless.
There is no need to consider whether the house will fall or rise in the future, which has nothing to do with the value, but has a lot to do with a person's confidence.
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If you had half a million, would your daughter marry for cash, buy a house, or buy a car?
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