The wife gives birth in the delivery room, but the husband is absent; the mother-in-law holds the child and smiles, the mother-in-law who has just given birth wants to drink a cup of water but ignores it; the mother of the newborn is busy taking care of the child day and night, but the father seems to be outside the responsibility, hiding outside drinking, hiding in the company overtime, or directly sleeping...
Even more hateful is that it cheated.
"Dear Child" has been broadcast, and the couple played by Ren Suxi and Qin Hao is simply a portrayal of the world.
In fact, even without the "blessing" of the mother-in-law, the first year after giving birth to a child, no matter how loving the couple, they will experience a "great catastrophe".
My husband and I from love to marriage, to raising three children, the emotional foundation is definitely solid, even if it is such a solid foundation, in the first year of the birth of the three children, we have to go through a great "catastrophe".
He didn't cheat, he did his best to help with the children, he tried his best to mediate between me and my in-laws, and he said good things at both ends.
But, the first year, we were like brothers, I was a bit depressed after childbirth, and he was mentally and physically exhausted.
I had no job, no income, and he was on the move, even skyrocketing. I was happy for him while worrying about myself.
Six weeks after giving birth, the woman's body will basically return to the state of infertility. If you are lucky enough to fully recover in all aspects, it is also possible.
But compared with the recovery of the body, the recovery of the mind is often ignored by many people. The most serious of these problems is postpartum depression.
The birth of a child is a good thing, but many new mothers will feel depressed, can't eat and sleep well, feel that nothing is interesting, and even do things that hurt their children and themselves.
These mothers do not understand, and they will blame themselves and feel that they are not normal. In fact, postpartum depression is not uncommon at all.
Statistically, about one in seven women who have given birth to a child experience postpartum depression.
And postpartum depression is not only for mothers, but also for fathers. In the first 3 months after childbirth, the incidence of "father's postpartum depression" is about 8%.
Many people don't take it seriously when postpartum depression occurs, thinking that it is not used to it, and it will be fine after a while.
In fact, once postpartum depression occurs, it will not be good for itself, as long as the symptoms of depression exceed two weeks, you should need to seek professional help.
To combat postpartum depression, in addition to the necessary professional help, the care and help of the family is also very important. In my opinion, the most important thing is to deal with these three layers of relationships:
The first level is the mother-child relationship. Newborn babies usually eat and drink lazar upside down day and night, so in the first month after childbirth, mutual adaptation between mother and child is a very important task for new mothers, and if they can't adapt, they will bring great trouble.
The second level is the relationship between husband and wife. Having a baby is basically a matter for the mother alone, and when it comes to bringing the child, two people have to come together. Two people share responsibilities and grow together.
The third layer is the relationship with both parents. In terms of confinement and childbirth after giving birth, it is inevitable that there will be various views and practices between the young couple and the previous generation, and their parents are good to say that the most difficult thing is the contradiction with the other parent, which is not handled well, and will aggravate the postpartum depression.
In general, postpartum recovery can not only focus on the body, psychological recovery must also be taken seriously, the companionship, communication and support between husband and wife is the best medicine.