Recently, 42-year-old Ms. Shen went to Xiaoshan Hospital in Zhejiang Province alone to give birth to a healthy baby boy and left the hospital the next day, and the medical staff worried about her postpartum depression and called the police.
The police found Ms. Shen in the rental house and found that her emotions were almost broken, and she once wanted to give up.
She said, it's so hard! Still at work on the first day of giving birth, "what woman would be so open-minded". She cried and complained: "Eating is a problem, I ate two pieces of bread on the day of delivery, or the nurse gave it to me." According to Ms. Shen, ten years ago, she came to Hangzhou to work, and her sick husband raised a pair of children in his hometown, and life was very difficult. Knowing her situation, the relevant local departments have reached out to Ms. Shen.
Some people say that Ms. Shen does not consider the actual situation in the family, her husband is ill, has a pair of children, and now she has to fight for 3 children at an advanced age, and she has not thought about the family's economic resources in the future? Some people also say that Ms. Shen has a newborn baby waiting to be fed, and there are 2 big babies in the family that need counseling, and what Ms. Shen needs most now is to do psychological counseling.
Mother Yu only feels sad, it is not easy to be a parent, and Ms. Shen already belongs to the elderly mother...
A reporter once interviewed a mother who did not realize that her postpartum anxiety and depression may be related to postpartum depression until 4 years after the birth of her child.
Due to the significant changes in hormone levels in the body after childbirth, the occurrence of various serious life events and the incompatibility of new roles, women will become more sensitive to depression after childbirth.
If you want to say who is the most vulnerable person in the world, it is definitely not the postpartum mother. Postpartum depression is not like some of our common depressions, a person without any reason suddenly in a bad state, people around him can easily perceive his abnormality. You know, at this time, Bao Mom not only has to endure physical pain and torture, but also the psychological pressure is not easy at all; many Bao Moms have left messages to Their Mothers saying that they are entangled in "postpartum depression".
The mother needs to go through a period of psychological adaptation after childbirth to cope with the change of postpartum status and the shift of family attention center, during which she shows symptoms such as low mood and poor sleep, similar to the symptoms of postpartum depression. Based on this, many people mistake postpartum depression for this period of adaptation and miss the best time for diagnosis and treatment.
Some time ago, a very popular TV series "I Really Love You", Chen Jiaorui is a clear example of "postpartum depression".
Chen Jiaorui is a very motivated working mother, from pregnancy to childbirth, emotional control, fluctuating, easy to provoke... It has become a "mental illness" in the eyes of her mother-in-law. After resuming the workplace, she was snubbed and excluded, and many netizens "complained" that she was "blackened" after giving birth. But she ignored the anxiety that accompanied her birth, Zhang Huang's confusion, and even self-denial, and the extra mother-in-law's rebuke made her feel dark.
After giving birth, Chen Jiaorui felt that she had fallen into another world. Everything she had was occupied by a doll waiting to be fed, and she had to look at him all the time, feed him, bathe him, and coax him to sleep.
As she circled around her children, milk powder, and diapers, the rapid changes in the outside world added to her anxiety. She began to worry about whether she would have a position left for her when she returned, whether she would be pulled down by her colleagues, and whether she would be able to keep up with the pace of work after her maternity leave.
"Everybody else is moving forward, but all of a sudden you're going the other way, and it's so hard that you can't help but worry about a lot of things happening."
These will make the postpartum mother more and more depressed, become less and less talkative, do not want to go out to meet people, and do not want friends to come to the house. The family attributed all the emotions revealed by the postpartum mother to poor sleep. People take it for granted that you should be a good mom, and it feels like you've suddenly taken over a very important project, completely inexperienced, and people around you say you can only do it, and you have to do it well.
Little nagging
Postpartum depression, it's really not a pretense! In addition to their own reasons, the family around them also has responsibilities, in the face of depression, no one can say that they are innocent!