Strong woman big sister blind date strong big brother, the other side of a mouth to ask for money, the big sister refuses to show high emotional intelligence

Everyone needs two homes, one for the body and one for the mind.

When the material conditions are abundant, people have more needs for inner emotions.

As a result, some elderly people with good living conditions began to go on blind dates, they do not desire romance, only want to live a solid and life, some netizens said that watching the elderly blind date, can give people a more realistic consideration.

They have experience, but also have a certain ability to distinguish between right and wrong, in front of them, can not be half hidden, Jiang Dajie is like this, she met an inappropriate man, the way of refusal shows high emotional intelligence, how does she do it?

01. Afraid of loneliness and wanting to find a place to rely on

Sister Jiang is 54 years old, has a pension of more than 3,000, and she partners with friends to open a store, and is also responsible for the operation of the store.

Speaking of her career, Jiang Dajie said that she had gone through many detours, sold paint, wholesale paint, and later saw the overall kitchen, and suddenly liked it.

But do the overall kitchen, there are many trivial things, from design to installation is a one-stop service, she needs to design and supervise the construction progress, a color of the deployment, it takes a lot of thought, Jiang Dajie has always been hands-on, from design to delivery as far as possible to make customers satisfied, proper strong woman.

She had a failed marriage, and the most regrettable thing was that she could not have had children of her own in this life.

Speaking of this, Jiang Dajie's eyes became dim, she was very introverted when she was young, in addition to work there is no social circle, has been dragged until the age of 30 and has not been in love, her parents are very anxious, they entrust people to introduce her to the object, meet a man who knows how to coax her mother to be happy, often buy vegetables and run to see the elderly.

So, her mother urged to get married, Ms. Jiang said that she did not feel, nor did she like each other, but her mother is a stubborn woman, as long as she is accurate, no one in the family opposes it is useless, at the age of 33, Ms. Jiang got married, and after marriage, she found that men have a family genetic history, and there is no way to have children.

Ms. Jiang is also a person who wants face, since she is married, let's live a good life, there is no child to adopt one, the result is that the man is very grumpy, the gentleness in front of outsiders is an illusion, a drink home on the tantrum, Ms. Huang is often a piece of blue and purple.

The days really can't go on, she proposed a divorce, made trouble for several years, didn't take anything to get out of the house, Ms. Jiang said that she was very hurt, that kind of day can not go on, after the divorce single for more than ten years, Ben has no intention of remarrying, until she saw her girlfriend sick, she changed her mind.

02. Middle-aged people's feelings, do not like will be

Like her, her girlfriend is also single and alone.

The two walked very close, often cooking and chatting together, the girlfriend found out that the uterine fibroids needed surgery, and in the few days of hospitalization, she did not tell her parents, and there was no one around to take care of, only Ms. Jiang ran around, fed her, and helped her change her clothes.

Girlfriend told her that lying on the operating table is very afraid, suddenly there is a need for the family, if there is a lover to take care of, there should be a lot less regret, Ms. Jiang also seriously thought about life, think that the girlfriend's feelings are right, living alone is very comfortable, but can not avoid loneliness.

If you can live to more than 70 years old, there are 20 years of time, this life has not really encountered love, why not bravely try it, when you are young, the marriage is decided by your parents, you can also pursue love, at least hard, life will not leave regrets.

So she paid attention to the blind date program, called the TV, just saw the man Jin Big Brother marriage, age and conditions are in line with her own needs, she took the initiative to contact the red bride, want to meet.

Because of the busy work, she proposed to meet in the store, Brother Jin is 57 years old, earning more than 3,000, has a son who has a family, he is divorced for more than a year, and wants to find an old partner to spend his old age with.

As soon as the two met, Brother Jin talked about money and asked bluntly: "How much do you have pension?" How much savings do you have? How is your pension arranged? ”

Sister Jiang has considered these problems, but so direct or let her can not bear, very embarrassing, she found an excuse to go out for a turn, calm her mood, in this case, how to deal with the appropriate?

03. Be generous and decent, and win the respect of the other party

Back in the reception room, Ms. Jiang smiled and said to Brother Jin: "I have a pension, and I also have a savings that is enough for the elderly, but my money belongs only to me. ”

Big Brother Jin was immediately unwilling, saying that after remarriage, the living expenses must be AA system, so that the man can bear the living expenses, which is a very old idea, and now people are economically independent, and the money must be spent together.

Madam Jiang smiled and said nothing, and the Red Lady was very strange, quietly pulled her aside and asked, "Didn't you say that you were willing to bear the living expenses together?" How did you change your mind again? ”

Ms. Jiang replied: "I just want the other party to reject me, we are not suitable, but the other party comes to my shop for a blind date, if I reject him, he will be very faceless, let him refuse more appropriate." ”

This is the high emotional intelligence, obviously they are not willing, still will think in a different position, give each other a step down, from this point can be seen, Ms. Jiang has a gentle personality, there is an opinion in her heart.

Sure enough, Big Brother Jin also saw it, he swept away the arrogance of just entering the door, and felt that Ms. Jiang was a person worth interacting with, but unfortunately, he was unstable at the beginning, he had cut off his own way, and he wanted to continue to interact with Ms. Jiang, and he needed more efforts to let the other party see sincerity.

After watching their blind date, some people think that they are over fifty years old, there is no need to remarry, if they are really lonely, they can spend more time with their girlfriends, and a person's life is less contradictory and very comfortable.

Some people also think that no amount of money can alleviate loneliness, especially when you are sick, you will feel the importance of home, blind date failure is not terrible, as long as you believe in love, sooner or later you will meet the right person.

In fact, people's feelings pay attention to fate, if the heart really desires love, it does not hurt to pursue it, because a person's spirit feels happy, which is more conducive to the health of the old age.

But people are half a life, there is really no need to be on the line, meet people who do not like to learn to refuse, just like Ms. Jiang, do not drag mud and water, and think appropriately for each other, both sides have not torn their faces, leaving a good impression on each other.

The same is true for business feelings, when you meet a heartwarming person, there is no need to rush to be with each other, get to know each other more through exchanges, and when the conditions are ripe in all aspects, it is not too late to start a family.

Give it a thumbs up and go! Do you think it is necessary to fall in love and get married again when you are over fifty?