I advise the bachelors that the essence of marriage is not love, but property

Beijing Brother Zhang, 20 years in the real estate industry, familiar with the industry doorway, I do not do the so-called "expert", only use twenty years of practical experience to help you answer questions.

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I consulted the house, but occasionally came to counsel the feelings. Most of the young men, most of them are complaining, what mother-in-law let buy a house, girlfriend let buy a house, and they really can't afford to buy anything. Then sigh, now women are too materialistic, not as women in the past more focused on love.

There have also been several girls, all of whom complained about their mothers to buy a house, and the boyfriend really can't afford to buy it, and he can't add enough money. It is best to sigh twice, I and my boyfriend were originally combined because of love, and as a result, I was forced to the material road by my parents and society.

Every time I don't know what to say, so I only talk about the house, regardless of feelings. How much money to do, can't buy big ones, buy small ones, buy suburbs if you can't buy urban areas, it's really not okay to say that you are out of town, but then I don't understand.

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However, there is always a bunch of words in the stomach, and sometimes I really want to persuade these young people to believe that love is okay, but human marriage has always been built on an economic basis. In other words, love and marriage are actually two different things, one is the spiritual level, the other is the material level, don't confuse them.

If you really believe in love, it doesn't matter if you marry or not, love is stronger than gold, why be disturbed by worldly procedures? Of course, gold is not hard, soft, because it is easy to process and divide to have a monetary function. The so-called "strong" actually refers to the preservation of value, which can maintain this feeling for a long time. This also shows that the Chinese ancestors unconsciously compared love and material wealth subconsciously.

Even in ancient China, there were no words such as love and love, which was a whim of Liang Qichao and others when translating Love, and really could not find the corresponding meaning in the Chinese and pieced together the invention. In fact, in English, this is not the love of men and women, and those who have learned English understand it.

Love was originally French, otherwise the Germanic barbarians at that time did not have such delicate feelings, and killing was the cultural tradition. At that time, the so-called love was originally a game between the nobles and the knightly class, looking for lovers to mess with each other, but it had nothing to do with marriage. Marriage is a combination of power and property exchange, the reason why Romeo and Juliet's love is touching, because the person who loves each other cannot marry, and the door can be right.

Of course, the French people also have Latin ancestry, but although Rome has a love statement, it has nothing to do with marriage. In ancient Greece and Rome, if any man married because of love, it must have been ridiculed. Because marriage is a combination of property and power, it has nothing to do with love.

Therefore, marriage in ancient Greece was legally stipulated as a form of transaction, and only transaction required a sense of ritual of contract, so that others could witness and supervise, and at the same time declared private property inviolable. Therefore, the marriage must be ceremonial, how much dowry the man has to promise, how much dowry the woman has to promise, this is marriage.

Love, on the other hand, is a man looking for a woman to steal affection, the law can not control, but can not let the illegitimate child infringe on the property of others, that is a capital crime. Therefore, a real marriage is a simple property transaction relationship, and love is unconstrained.

Rome inherited Greek culture, and Rome influenced franks. The commoners in England were Germanic and Celtic, while the nobles were Viking Normandy and also from the Franks, so they continued the French rogue and aristocratic styles, and marriage and love were separated. Or that the European aristocracy is a family, and it has long been chaotic and unclear, but it is a beating in the concept of marriage and love.

In fact, the same is true in China, marriage is "living a life" according to the old saying, there is no love. Old Beijing dialect called marrying a girlfriend "give", but can not give in vain, you need to take the bride price in exchange for a dowry, you have to be the fate of your parents, the word of the matchmaker, the door is the marriage.

Marriage is also called "Qin and Jin's Good", that is, the nobles of the two countries form an alliance through marriage, and like Europe, who cares about your love. If you want to find love, then steal, the wife is not as good as a concubine, the concubine is not as good as stealing, stealing is better than stealing. The ancient Qinglou was the place to talk about love, and family marriage only talked about honor and inferiority etiquette and property continuation.

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Going back further, ancient humans lived in groups, where is there any love? Whether there was a matriarchal society is uncertain, but clan tribes are bound to arise. This is the extended family, the collective upbringing of children, is the continuation of the family, public ownership. Marriage, on the other hand, is the product of private property, and with surplus food and property, women can provide for themselves to bear children, and they can continue their genes and property.

The reason why human beings can reproduce and grow is because women are free from heavy labor and only professionally have children. A clear division of labor can promote efficiency, and it can continue to have children more than one year. Other animal populations can't do this, so large animals can only have a child in a few years, otherwise they can't feed it, and they consume resources in vain.

There are always people who say that monogamous marriage is a product of human civilization, nonsense, other animal kingdoms are more monogamous, what civilization do they have? Civilization is a byproduct of human reproduction, and the only instinct as an animal is to survive and reproduce. The reason why marriage and monogamy are chosen is because it can be conducive to reproduction and can make property and genes better continue.

The reason for monogamy is that most men can only support one woman in productivity, and they can't afford to support more. Therefore, the gender distribution of human beings is only about half of the side, and there are too many women, which is useless, and it is easy to starve to death. And which man has more property, then naturally will raise more women, so that his genes continue more. And women are willing because they are willing to let their children continue to have stronger genes, and the ability to provide for them represents the excellence of genes.

The reason why women are material is because of human characteristics. All babies are born prematurely, have no viability at all until the age of five or six, and have to be raised by their mothers, which consumes a lot of energy. And if there is not enough food in this period, even the big and small will not survive.

Therefore, in the ancient society before entering the agricultural civilization, the woman had to pursue material things, had to find long-term meal tickets, and who could provide materials to give birth to monkeys. This is nature's survival of the fittest, monkeys who cannot provide basic security for women must cut off their children and grandchildren, and are not worthy of breeding inferior genes. It is precisely because of this system of natural selection that there is a later human society.

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After human beings entered the agrarian civilization, the dominant society was truly born, that is, civilization. Farming brought more food surpluses that could be stored, and property increased. So the poor can afford to marry, which promotes a rapid increase in population. However, in the inefficient ancient society, 20% of men still could not afford to marry a wife, and it was normal to cut off their children and grandchildren. Because of their share of fertility, they were robbed by the class with more assets.

Marry a man, dress and eat. China's ancestors never said that love can be eaten as a meal, and without food, it cannot let genes continue, so women must be decided by their parents and find long-term meal tickets for little girls with no social experience.

Tradition is culture, and the bottom of any culture is survival. In order to survive, in order to better continue the genes, women have to choose substances. At least on the basis of ensuring material things, we can talk about love again. Love is a byproduct of human reproduction, a game, a game that promotes union and fertility in the short term. It doesn't matter how long it lasts, it just has been had.

Marriage is different, it is a contract, a contract in which the man promises sufficient support and the woman promises to pass on the blood lineage exclusively. The reason for the sense of ceremony is to announce to the outside world that our union must not be infringed upon, and that private property is the most sacred.

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Men and women who are intoxicated with love are advised to have time to read the Marriage Law. There is no mention of love throughout, and all the clauses deal with only two words, "property." So the marriage law is a property distribution law, just for more rules, more efficient distribution of property, has nothing to do with love.

Whether it is the court or the society, it does not care about your love at all, only cares about not letting the wealth be damaged because of feelings, and try not to cause greater disputes, that is a waste of social resources.

Human beings are animals driven by instinct, Confucius said "eating color also", eating and reproduction is instinct, and everything else is a by-product, not important. Love is a by-product, lord, does not care at all whether Adam and Eve have love or not.

Young people are advised to marry if they really believe in love, because marriage is the graveyard of love. Marriage is a contractual relationship, and love does not need the shackles of contract. Marriage is a commitment, an alliance to live together and raise children, and is only related to property. It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, animals are only in nature to survive.

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