The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a barrier after marriage, and there is no way to avoid it, after all, the three views and living habits of the two people are different, but because the same man only gets along under the same roof, for a long time, if there is a lack of tolerance and understanding, there will be friction between each other sooner or later, and the man as a bridge of communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if there is no timely dredging of estrangement and resolves contradictions, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only become more and more intense, and eventually affect the marriage.
Tu Lei once said: What brings a woman hope is not love, but the responsibility of men; what brings a man a sense of security is not love, but women's dedication to the family. The most test of the feelings of husband and wife is in the handling of the problem of children, the wife from October pregnancy to the birth of the child, follow-up also need to confinement and take care of the child, the body and mind will face a huge challenge, if at this time also face the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband does not know how to maintain and mediate, it will undoubtedly make the wife chill.
Yang Hao was born in an ordinary family, met Xinya in college, after graduation the two people did not run their own things, but stayed in the same city to work hard, and later smoothly entered the palace of marriage, Yang Hao knew that his mother's personality was too strong, the voice was loud, afraid that there would be friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so he decided to buy a house near the company, although he had to pay off the mortgage every month, but according to the salary of two people, the little life was still quite good.
Until later, Xinya was pregnant, and the reaction was very large and had to resign, less than a person's income, coupled with the arrival of the child, Yang Hao's life pressure on his shoulders was also greater, and then after the birth of the child, Yang Hao thought of letting his mother come to help take care of it, but after the phone rang, the mother said: The mother-in-law is not obliged to serve the daughter-in-law to sit in confinement, and there is no provision to take the child, besides, I have worked hard for most of my life, how much suffering have I brought up your two brothers, it is not easy to retire, and I have not enjoyed a few good days. Just want me to take the baby, I don't have that kung fu.
The mother refused to help, Yang Hao also had no way, after a long silence, he gave the salary card to Xinya and said: Wife, the child we bring ourselves, these years you don't have to go to work, just at home to raise the body, how much money should be spent to spend, do not save me money, wait for the child to go to school is easy, then you want to go to work and then go to school. Looking at her husband's serious attitude, Xinya agreed to his proposal and became a full-time wife at home with peace of mind.
Although the mother-in-law did not come to help, but occasionally will come to visit the little grandson, until that day, she saw her daughter-in-law return with a large bag of fruit, her face immediately changed, especially when she saw the receipt of more than 50 yuan, directly accused: Fruit is so expensive you are willing to buy, do not know how to save some money for this family, my son is working hard to earn money outside to support the family, are you spending money like this?
Seeing the mother-in-law angry, Xinya's anger suddenly came up, and she quarreled twice, Yang Hao came back to see this face, and quickly pulled his mother back to the house, and the mother loudly accused her daughter-in-law of disregarding the family and waste.
After listening to his mother's words, Yang Hao said: Mom, you don't say it, I let you buy it, I let you help take down the child you are not willing, now my wife resigns, a person at home hard with the baby, but also to take care of the housework, it is hard enough, I let her be nice to herself What is wrong, you don't want to mix with our business, I don't ask you to help me take the child, but you don't make it difficult for me.
After listening to the son's words, the mother was still angry in her heart, and then left, half a month later, the mother came with a change of clothes, saying that she wanted to help take care of the little grandson, and also apologized to the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law served soft Andia naturally it was not good to hold on to it, but she also consulted with her husband, the mother-in-law was willing to help give money every month, after all, the mother-in-law was also older, she really did not have the obligation to help with the child, since she had that heart, naturally she also knew how to be grateful.
In marriage, when the wife is wronged, the husband can become her most solid backing, give her enough security, understand her hard work and dedication, in order to make the wife feel warm and happy, and can also jointly run the family well.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be tolerant and understanding, but in addition, men's attitude is also particularly important, on the one hand, to filial piety to parents, on the other hand, to be responsible for their wives, sandwiched between the two, to know how to deal with the contradictions and estrangement of both sides, in order to maintain stability in marriage, so that family members can live in harmony.