Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: marriage, divorce, remarriage
Article length: 4100 words
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If the marriage is not happy, is it necessary to stick to it? If you have to get a divorce, are you already planning for the future in advance?
If you still have to find someone to remarry, can you guarantee that the second marriage will be better than the first marriage...
It is quite hard to think about these questions, which is a reality that many people have faced in the past.
A lady once recounted this feeling:
I didn't want to spend time with my ex-husband, and after a big fight, I got divorced.
After remarrying, I slowly found that life did not have much improvement, and the second marriage seemed to be the same as before. There is no real thing in love, marriage is full of tribulations, and there is always sorrow in people's hearts.
Maybe I was wrong, divorced from my ex-husband at the beginning, and then married a friend and married the wrong one.
The second marriage was like a joke, it made me full of distress and bitter words. I often reminisce about the past and miss my last marriage. Obviously, it is very painful, but that pain can always intoxicate yourself.
Life is short, how many dreams will be crushed by marriage little by little? Looking back at the impermanence of love and hate, how much expectation is there in the feelings, waiting to be disappointed by the rest of the time?
I don't dare think about these questions anymore.
The second marriage made me understand the complexity of marriage, although the ex-husband was not a good fit for me, but he was the man who cared about me the most. Now I understand that only my ex-husband was really good to me, but unfortunately we couldn't go back.
This is the sentiment of a woman in a marriage case, and she regretted it after only 1 year of remarriage. In tears, she recounted her past...
First, I fell in love with my ex-husband again, and I was very upset
Next, I will tell you about this lady's marriage case. In her tone, I will only tell the truth, and I will sort it out a little to improve readability.
Some of the words in their hearts want to say, but they just can't find the right occasion. No one around wants to listen to my nagging, and no one understands my grievances...
I've been divorced for over a year and I'm lucky that my ex-husband hasn't forgotten me and still loves me as much as he did back then.
Although we never saw each other again after the divorce, my ex-husband often messaged me. Sometimes apologize to me, sometimes beg me to go home to see my children, sometimes say that they still love me and want to remarry me early...
Initially, I didn't want to reply to his crap at all, and even tried to black him out at one point.
Now that you're divorced, there's no need to contact again. I don't want to have anything to do with my ex-husband anymore, after all, we are not related, just forget each other for the rest of our lives. But my ex-husband has always insisted on sending me messages, using words to pin love and blessings...
I am not a person with a hard heart, and I have slowly let go of the stubbornness in my heart. When there was nothing to do, he chatted with his ex-husband for a few words, and gradually restored contact.
Whenever we reminisce about our past together, my heart is heavy. Unconsciously, I seemed to fall in love with him again, but I was less and less afraid to say this love.
Every time my husband says he loves me and says that his child misses his mother, I will have an inexplicable feeling, and occasionally I will cry.
I would love to go back and meet them both, and I am very eager to remarry him. But I couldn't help myself and didn't have the courage to go back to them.
I feel ashamed, some things are difficult to say, maybe this will become my life's guilt.
Less than a month after the divorce, I quietly got a marriage license with my husband (current) and married as a formal couple. In the past 1 year, my ex-husband did not know that I had already married.
Maybe the ex thought I was still single and kept trying to get me back. For more than half a year, I was very scared and didn't know whether to tell the truth.
The feeling of falling in love with my ex-husband again was very distressing, and I had a lot of inner words that I couldn't say. If I told my ex-husband that I was married, would he still care about me that way?
No one can understand this tangled mood, all the troubles are only understood by myself...
Second, do not dare to face the reality in the relationship
I said in my heart that I was very grateful that my ex-husband still loved me. The more gratitude, the more regret there is in the heart.
In the past six months of restoring contact, my ex-husband and I have gradually regained the feeling of being in love. I was particularly eager to receive news from him, and I especially wanted to see the words "I love you".
However, in the face of the choice of remarriage, I was very embarrassed and did not dare to easily agree to him.
Whenever my ex-husband asks me when I can go back to meet and when I can reconcile, I feel heartache. I had to change the subject and never dared to respond positively to him.
Maybe my ex-husband thought I was testing him, but in fact I also wanted to go back to the same place, I wanted to remarry more than he did!
I didn't dare to easily agree to remarry not to test him, nor because I didn't love him, but because I couldn't get past myself. After all, I have already received a marriage license with my current husband, and it is difficult to withdraw from the whole body...
I was very helpless these days, especially at night, and I often cried alone until dawn.
I thought over and over again about the question that made me more and more anxious: If my ex-husband knew I was married, would he continue to love me, and would he be willing to remarry me? Will he hate me, will he hate me, will he abandon me...
If I hadn't married so quickly, I think I would have been back with my ex-husband by this time. If that were the case, maybe we could get back to the stable life we once had.
Unfortunately, it was almost impossible, and we were already separated by several mountains.
Although my ex-husband has vowed many times that he still loves me, what is the use of deep love? Later, after all, I have to face some heartfelt reality, and I am afraid that he will not be able to accept it.
Regret that he was too naïve and accidentally gave up the marriage. After remarrying, my mood was terrible, and my life was miserable.
If divorce is the wrong choice, then remarriage is a mistake added to the wrong.
Even if I can get rid of this marriage and bravely say goodbye to my current husband, even if I handle this place cleanly, this kind of thing cannot hide from my ex-husband for a lifetime, and one day I will not be able to hide it.
At that point, I didn't know what to do. What about even remarriage? Maybe we'll divorce again.
For me, this relationship is not in, nor is it retreating. I've been undecided, I can only hold on for the time being...
Third, I once thought that divorce was an escape from the sea of suffering
My ex-husband and I have been concerned about each other for half a year and have found love again. It's just about remarriage, and there is no follow-up. Every day, we chat and pass the time, and each of them tells the pain of lovesickness in their hearts.
Regarding the divorce that year, I still have a lot of grievances in my heart that I want to say...
In the beginning, if it were not for the ex-husband being too ignorant, I would not have been disappointed in the marriage. If he had understood his responsibilities as a man earlier, he wouldn't have made me feel the loneliness of life.
A year and a half ago, I had my birthday, and many friends came to my house to celebrate my birthday. As a husband, he was supposed to accompany me to entertain friends, but he ignored me, deliberately went out to work, and snubbed my friends.
He had been busy outside for an afternoon that day, and he didn't come back until the end of the birthday party. No cake in hand, no flowers, and no willingness to clean up the table.
2 sisters joked that my husband didn't have me in his heart. Such a grand scene, he actually refused to show his face, it was too uninteresting, it was clear that he wanted me to make trouble in front of my friends...
I knew that they had deliberately told my husband, but I was very aggrieved in my heart, and I was told that it hurt.
What has he given me in 5 years of marrying him? On the right track, he never cared about my feelings!
He was very ignorant, but he was self-righteous all day and worked endlessly. No one can understand the loneliness in my heart, but I can't tell anyone.
That loneliness is like a grievance that goes deep into the soul, and suddenly feels that you have married the wrong person.
Once, the marriage I longed for was a happy and sweet life for a lifetime, but what he did chilled my heart. I was only 31 years old, and he shattered my vision of love.
After my friends left, I had a big fight with him. Maybe I was a bit pretentious, but he forced it. He should have coaxed me and let me go, but he didn't do it, which further broke my heart.
I gambled and told him: I don't want to live with you, and you two will live in the future. Live with you, I don't see the future.
He said: You are in your 30s, and you still fantasize about the sense of ceremony all day, you just don't grow up. If you want a divorce, I promise you, and I'll see how long you can stick to it.
I gambled and separated from him and moved outside for more than 1 month. My mother-in-law came to me several times and patiently advised me to go home and not to get angry with her son.
Originally, I was almost discouraged, but he actually stopped my mother-in-law and did not let her mother-in-law say kind words to me. He threatened not to be afraid of divorce and to see who regretted it in the end.
In the face of such a soft and hard husband who does not eat, oil and salt can not enter, how can I not be sad? This marriage has already become my bitter sea, maybe divorce is a relief...
Fourth, the awakening in the feelings is heart-wrenching
Although later for the sake of the children, I still went home. Since then, the relationship between husband and wife has come to an end, and there is no room for relaxation.
In order not to affect each other's families, my husband and I continued to gamble secretly. We often talk about divorce, and no one wants to be soft.
It didn't take long for us to quietly divorce, and I was willing to get out of the house. Only a few friends knew, and even the parents on both sides didn't know we were divorced.
He once said: Since you call for divorce every day, I will give you a chance, and we quietly leave. Don't try to make me beg you, I'll see when you regret it!
I didn't want to say anything more and laughed it off. I finally stepped out of the sea of suffering and went to a better future.
On the 2nd day of my divorce, I went to another city.
The ex-husband was ridiculous, and he didn't know the regret until he found out I left. He sent messages every day, apologized to me, hoped I would go home, and said that the divorce was a joke and not taken seriously. Sometimes he would send a crying voice begging me to forgive him...
Regret is too late, why did you go earlier? I don't want to forgive because I've met a new lover.
Just 1 month after the divorce, under the bitter pursuit of the current husband, we quietly got a marriage license. For the rest of my life, I would like to defend this hard-won love with him.
I longed for this marriage to bring me happiness, but unfortunately we were only married twice.
What is a second marriage?
Less than half a year after remarrying, I understand that the second marriage is an unspeakable grievance, and I give my husband (current) a nanny every day. The second marriage is an endless pain, no different from the first marriage.
My life hasn't improved because of remarriage, and the love I longed for has never come. The current husband will only use rhetoric, and the family strength is not as good as that of the ex-husband...
Half a year ago, I had my birthday, and my ex-husband took the initiative to send me a birthday red envelope, and I was very touched. On the other hand, the current husband, he ignores me, is reluctant to spend money...
The awakening in the feelings is profound and sometimes heart-wrenching. I suddenly regretted it and didn't know what to do later.
I had never thought about remarriage before, and now this marriage has made me miserable. Maybe the current husband didn't fit me at all, he just lied to me.
My ex-husband is the one who truly loves me, and perhaps the person I should love the most in my life...
Fifth, there can be no love, and love cannot be blasphemed
The marriage case ended here, as told by a woman a few months ago. Divorced or remarried, she has been hesitant. Obviously thinking about her ex-husband, but I didn't dare to confess truthfully.
So far, although the second marriage has made her very distressed, she still lives with her current husband. Although she is still talking to her ex-husband across the phone screen, her ex-husband still does not know that she is married.
This is a very cruel emotional reality, and she has been trapped in it and cannot extricate herself.
The marriage case has not yet been too clear a follow-up, and it seems that how it will develop in the future seems to be possible. Even if it develops into a tragedy of feelings, it is possible, and I hope this is not the case.
Before writing this article, I heard a colleague's sister say this: This lady is very distressed, and she has planned to divorce her current husband several times and return to her ex-husband. But now that she is pregnant with the baby, unconsciously, she missed the best opportunity to remarry...
I don't express much of a point about the marriage case. The whole text can be truthfully described, and everyone who comes over has their own opinion.
There is no end to the truth in feelings, and many times, similar emotional experiences do not necessarily bring about similar experiences. After all, people are different from each other, simple things, can not tell complex truths.
There is a saying that a person can have no love, but can never blaspheme love, and sometimes divorce is indeed a matter of character.
In the eyes of different people, love has different meanings. Some love is the heartache of the past, some are the tests of the future, and some are just character and personality that have long been destroyed.
Just like this lady, she regretted it after remarrying. I wanted to go back to my ex-husband, but I couldn't go back. In fact, even if she can remarry, most of it will be in vain, superfluous.
When it comes to things in marriage, once they are seriously communicated, many people have something on their minds. Love and hate are impermanent, and looking back is always sad. No matter how good the feelings are, there are setbacks, and even the best fate has ups and downs, just accept the reality, don't say regrets.
Life is flashy, suffering is self-aware. Regarding marriage, there can't be too many unrealistic desires in this life. There are many things in the relationship, even if you can deceive others, you can't deceive life after all, and you can't deceive yourself.
In the end, all the costs in the relationship can only be borne by themselves.
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