I never thought that in this era, there are still people who let their daughters who study take leave in order to urge marriage.
The girl who lives in Xuzhou received a text message from her mother, asking her to take a leave of absence to go back to the blind date, which means that the aunt introduced a boy, the man's conditions are very good, miss this village, there is no shop.
The girl said that she was only 20 years old and did not want to go on a blind date so early, and as a result, her mother opened the spit mode: people's conditions are so good, why can't you look at each other? You look at what virtue you have, day by day, the normal girl is married at the age of 23, you have to go, and if you don't come back, you will break off the mother-daughter relationship.
It is really speechless, full of kneeling and licking the man, I can't understand, what prejudice does this mother have against her daughter, the girl is in her prime, with higher education, she can pursue a better future, is it because the man has some money, he can not do his studies?
In the video, the girl confessed that her mother's marriage was not the first time, she also told her mother that for everyone's safety, the school would not let her go out, but her mother also insisted on calling the class teacher, leaving her speechless, the girl thought that this matter was too outrageous, and she did not expect it to happen to herself so quickly.
After watching the girl's experience, netizens also talked about it.
Some people said: "The mother is also too much, why do you manipulate your daughter's life, do you marry a rich family, your daughter will be happy, the thinking is too narrow." ”
Some people also said: "It is understandable that the mother wants to let her daughter have a home, but such persecution is too much, marriage freedom, in the end who to marry, the daughter decides, you do not thoroughly understand each other, how do you know that the other party is the right person for the daughter?" ”
Some people also said: "Such a mother should be educated, if it is really good for her daughter, she should not interfere too much, and cultivate her daughter to be excellent, so that she has the opportunity to meet more excellent people. ”
Everyone makes a lot of sense, so we have to ask why mothers are so anxious that they have to force their daughters to go on blind dates?
In life, it is not an isolated case for mothers to urge their daughters to go on a blind date, and the methods used are also prominent.
For example, this mother is a conformist type.
The following one is the accompanying type.
There are also hints of side knocking.
The reason why they urge their daughters to go on a blind date is mostly related to their own sense of crisis in their hearts.
Some mothers themselves read less, there is no stable job after marriage, will feel that reading is good and not marrying a good family strong, their definition of a good family is to have a house and money, if they encounter each other's economic conditions are much better than their own family, they will urge their daughters to go on a blind date, whether there is feelings does not matter, as long as the daughter can marry into the other family.
There are also mothers who are worried that their daughters miss a good age, in the hearts of such mothers, youth is capital, there can be a lot of room for choice, they will let their daughters kiss many people, from which to compare which man's family is more generous, who is willing to give more bride price, will let the daughter marry whom.
As for whether the daughter is willing or not, the mother does not care, will use her own power to influence, in their hearts, their own face, more important than the daughter's feelings.
In the "Confess Now" program, a mother confessed that she had taken her daughter on blind dates 122 times.
Where has this mother gone?
She will let all her relatives and friends introduce the object to her daughter, rush to take her daughter on a blind date, and see a good boy on the road will also take the initiative to talk to each other and ask for a phone number.
The first condition for examining the man is that the economy is good, her theory is that the figure man is good to you, if the other party changes his heart after marriage, you have nothing, the man has money, at least you will not suffer too much.
In order to let her daughter find the most suitable partner for herself, she let her daughter take a leave of absence to go home, telling her that feelings can be slowly cultivated, and meeting a good boy cannot be easily missed, which makes her daughter very broken.
If she refuses her mother's request, she will cry and make trouble for the whole family, but from the heart of the day, the girl does not want to get married prematurely.
On the stage, an emotional teacher pointed out to the point: "The mother says that she loves her daughter, but in fact, she has built a cage with love." ”
The mother thinks that she is good for her daughter, but in fact, she wants to plan her daughter's life and change her daughter's fate with her own thinking, the problem is that her thinking is wrong, and it also carries the brand of the times and is not suitable for her daughter.
As a woman in the new era, she should rationally look at her mother's behavior and bravely make decisions for her own life.
I admire a girl in Taizhou, Jiangsu Province, who grew up in a patriarchal family environment, whose parents attach great importance to her brother and are completely free-range for her.
After graduating from junior high school, her parents let her drop out of school to work, if there is no accident, when she turns 18, she will be arranged by her parents to go on a blind date, and then find a man who is willing to pay a high bride price, and she will revolve around the child's pot in the second half of her life.
This girl is not willing to admit her fate, she herself strives to save money, in order to earn more money to take the initiative to work overtime, will work more than 12 hours a day, in addition to the living expenses of her parents, she does not spend a penny.
At the age of 19, she saw the opportunity to open a flower shop, in order to sell flowers, she ran to restaurants, night markets, where more people go, but also encountered various grievances, but when she thought of financial independence, she did not care about anything.
Finally saved nearly 300,000, the girl decided to buy a house, was scolded by her parents, meaning that the girl buying a house is a waste, after marriage the man will naturally buy a house, and it is better to give money to his brother to buy a house, so that his brother can start a family as soon as possible.
In the hearts of parents, no matter how hard a girl tries, it is better to find a mother-in-law with good conditions, you are too strong, it is not easy to marry.
Fortunately, the girl did not listen to her parents, she took out all her savings of 280,000, bought a rough house in her hometown, but could no longer come up with a penny to decorate, she simply lived in a rough house, sat on the ground to eat, although the house was empty, but at least it was her own home.
Although the girl did not read much, she rewrote her fate with her own efforts, took the second half of her life in the palm of her hand, and would no longer listen to her parents' arrangements.
It is really excellent, the girl wants to live well, must be hard work, want to rely on marriage to attach to the man, but also doomed to be despised.
If you are also urged to marry by your parents, then it is recommended that you do the following three points.
First, financial independence, even if you are in college, you can also make yourself self-sufficient through work-study, maybe it will be harder, but it is better than being controlled by your mother.
Second, make your attitude clear with your parents, do not hesitate when communicating, but stand firm, say what you think in your heart, and tell them that you have a plan for life, and if your parents know that you think clearly, you may not be so anxious.
Third, explain your attitude to your relatives and friends, so that they don't bother to introduce each other to themselves, because you will not go, as long as you are determined, everyone will naturally understand your thoughts.
Finally, I also want to tell my parents that the daughter's life is her own, marriage does not represent happiness, if you meet the wrong person, your urging will become the source of regret in the future, rather than urging the daughter to get married, it is better to work hard and give the daughter a warm home, which is the best sense of security for the daughter.
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