Text: Xi Xihuan
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I have heard a saying that explains marriage, a really good marriage is mutual achievement, is to be able to learn more from each other, to allow yourself to grow, rather than dragging each other down.
Some people feel that their marriage is very unhappy, and it comes down to the fact that what they give is not getting what they want in return, and their emotional needs are not being met.
Some people may wonder, isn't love a reward for giving? People's hearts are hot, especially when they are in love with a person, if they are willing to join hands with that person into marriage, it naturally means that he loves this person deeply, but if he is always his own one-way contribution in marriage, then the hottest heart will slowly become cold until he is completely disappointed in that person.
There are always some people who like to use marriage as a springboard, want to change their fate through marriage, eat less hardship, get more benefits, and even take their own original family to seek benefits from each other.
However, although marriage pays attention to the right door, it is not a transaction, if you really want to say a transaction, it is also an emotional transaction, not a monetary and material transaction.
Many people do not understand this truth, obviously a very good marriage, but in the end they were worn out by their own life, and they also lost the heart that the other party loved themselves.
Friend Xiao Yaqing is a very independent woman, her parents in the early years of business, left her a rich family foundation, from a young age, so that Xiao Yaqing is particularly interested in business, her father saw that she has talent, but also after she graduated from college intentionally exercised her.
Within a few years, Xiao Yaqing had accepted her father's company and became a veritable strong woman.
The daughter is so excellent, the parents are also pleased, the only thing to worry about is the daughter's marriage event, Xu is too good, the vision is also high, Xiao Yaqing talked about a love failure after never tried love again.
So when she was with the man who really couldn't pick out a little advantage, many people especially didn't understand, obviously there can be better and more choices, why did Xiao Yaqing choose him?
The man is mediocre, from a rural background, and dropped out of school halfway through college because his old father was sick, his mother was bedridden for many years, and his sister, who was in high school, really had no money to continue to provide him with college, and most importantly, he needed to go out immediately to earn money to treat his father's illness and study for his sister.
Xiao Yaqing is sad about his past, but also appreciates his talent, she feels that as long as there is a suitable platform, men will definitely show their talents and will be able to succeed, so she is willing to give men such an opportunity.
After the two people established a romantic relationship, the man was in a hurry to get married, but Xiao Yaqing was not in a hurry, she felt that if the two people really loved each other, even without the constraints of the marriage book, they would be happy together.
Because men have no academic qualifications, so it is difficult to find a job, most of them are jobs that require coolies, Xiao Yaqing is not willing to let him bury, so he found a position in the company, although the position is not high, but at least there is no need to work hard, there are opportunities to learn.
People in the company are talking about the love between men and Xiao Yaqing, some people say that men want to climb high through Xiao Yaqing, men don't care, people go to high places, this is human instinct, he does not feel that he is wrong.
Just when Xiao Yaqing was waiting to see the results made by the man, the man made a big mistake, he used his relationship with Xiao Yaqing to say that he could help other companies get orders, and the result was a big loss to the company.
Xiao Yaqing's father was furious when he learned about it, saying that Xiao Yaqing had lost her mind and correct judgment, and although Xiao Yaqing was also disappointed in men, she still chose to believe in men and decided to give her another chance.
In this way, the man continued to stay in the company, but the work was not careful, always three days of fishing and two days of drying nets, either taking leave or absenteeism.
The colleague in charge of attendance was embarrassed to deduct his salary directly, and could only find Xiao Yaqing, when she asked the man what he was going to do when he did not go to work, the man directly began to complain, saying that the father at home needed money to see a doctor, and the sister needed to find a relationship to find a job.
Seeing that it was so difficult for a man, Xiao Yaqing did not care to accuse him of being loose at work, but gave him a sum of money to let him handle the affairs at home first, and then come back to concentrate on work.
In Xiao Yaqing's plan, when the man made the achievements, she took the man to see her parents and proposed marriage, because she trusted the man, so she never thought about the unbearable side of the man.
However, the man finally disappointed her very much, and after returning to the countryside with her money, the man did not treat his father, because he felt that his father's illness had dragged on for so long, even if he really went to the hospital, he could not be cured, plus he had been despised by the villagers, so he used the money to renovate the old house and raise his eyebrows.
Xiao Yaqing was very surprised when he learned all this, but his own father actually watched his father suffer and not be punished? The man looked at ease, but instead called himself wise.
Seeing that Xiao Yaqing did not speak, the man thought that she also recognized herself, so he took this opportunity to continue: "My sister is not easy to work hard in society, and now although you help her arrange the work, but the house she rents is too far from the place where she works, so she wants to buy a house, and now there is still half a million, anyway, you also have money, it is better to lend it to her!" In the future, we will all be one family. ”
The man's words finally made Xiao Yaqing see her naivety, she smiled and said: "I am not a philanthropist, I will not give you a penny again, what I once gave you is the lesson I bought for myself, and it is over between us." ”
The man was dismissed by Xiao Yaqing until he was kicked out, and he was not reconciled.
It is not difficult to imagine that the man who left Xiao Yaqing will not achieve too good results, because he uses his feelings as a springboard and regards the woman's sincerity towards him as a shortcut that can be used, and even if such a man is really satisfied, it is only temporary.
Whether it is love or finally into marriage, between two people you chase me is not to please each other, nor do you need to grievance yourself to cater to each other, but to let the hearts of two people be together, let two people in the same frequency, two-way pay, you give me love, I will make you feel very worthwhile, this is the most meaningful love.
If a person is always thinking about how much he can get in this relationship, then he tends to lose more in the end.
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