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As the saying goes: this world is ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law.
However, many daughters-in-law still have no peace at home after they become mothers-in-law.
In the next case, the mother-in-law imposed her youth misfortune on the daughter-in-law, and finally forced the daughter-in-law to abandon her son and leave home.
Feng Ying has been living with her mother-in-law since she got married.
Originally, before getting married, the mother-in-law promised to buy a new house, but who wanted to get married pretended to be stupid and insisted that he did not agree to this matter.
Feng Ying, who is a good character, has just gotten married, and who dares to turn her face and talk back with her mother-in-law.
So he silently confessed and prepared to live a solid life with her husband.
But the tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and Fengying's mother-in-law is not a fuel-saving lamp.
Listening to the old neighbors, Feng Ying's mother-in-law was simply a nanny at home when she was young.
Not only did her husband not care, but even her mother-in-law bullied her all day. It wasn't until the old lady died that Feng Ying's mother-in-law's life was better.
Not only did the neighbors know about this, Fengying's husband often asked her to respect the elderly more, and said that his mother's life was not a happy life.
Hearing this, Feng Ying felt some sympathy for her mother-in-law and began to think of being good to her mother-in-law.
Sometimes she would ask her mother-in-law what she liked to eat, but all she got was a silent response from her mother-in-law.
Sometimes I also think of calling my mother-in-law for a walk after dinner, but my mother-in-law bluntly refuses.
A few times down Feng Ying was a little unhappy in her heart, after all, the hot face was attached to the cold ass who was not in a better mood.
And the mother-in-law knows that Fengying can't eat spicy, and always puts peppers in the dish, resulting in Fengying having to order a takeaway by herself.
But as soon as she took the takeaway, the mother-in-law walked out of the room with a stare and looked at Fengying with a look of disgust.
After a year of lukewarm behavior, Feng Ying finally conceived a child.
Ordinary people are going to add ding to the family, and it is natural to be happy. Feng Ying's family, on the other hand, was talking peacefully.
Whether it is a maternity examination or diet, Feng Ying almost relies on herself.
She endured the reaction of pregnancy while going to work, and when she returned home, she had to see her mother-in-law's unsalty and unsalty face.
Seeing other female colleagues pregnant is someone who hurts and loves, not to mention snacks and fruits, and changes patterns at both ends for three days.
Part of Feng Ying's salary is to be handed over to her mother-in-law and used as food expenses.
Sometimes other colleagues would give her an imported snack so she could taste it.
Once a female colleague hugged and said unevenly: "Ying Zi, you can't treat yourself badly when you are pregnant, I feel that you are thin." I tell you, you can eat hard, don't be afraid to spend your in-laws' money. ”
Feng Ying knew that her colleagues were kind, and could only smile bitterly and perfunctory.
Soon the imminent pot period was coming, and Feng Ying's heart was getting more and more nervous.
On the day of her delivery, both the mother-in-law and her husband were waiting at the door of the delivery room.
A few hours later, the doctor brought out a baby boy, and the mother-in-law's face had a hint of relief.
Feng Ying observed in the hospital for a few days, and then went home to recuperate.
But when Na Cheng wanted to sit next in confinement, the mother-in-law began to pretend to be stupid again.
The baby's diapers are not wet, she does not change, just sit in the room to listen to the play.
Seeing that the baby has been crying, Feng Ying can only sit on the bed to change the baby, and it is a little uncomfortable to come down several times.
She had complained to her husband about the problem in private, but he was also perfunctory.
Feng Ying didn't have much money on hand, and she was also powerless to ask for a sister-in-law.
There was no way but for her to quit her job and concentrate on staying home with her children.
Now that there is no income, the mother-in-law's face is even more ugly.
Not to mention cooking, not even the housework. Seeing that the family was getting more and more chaotic, Feng Ying's husband found the old lady and asked what was going on.
Only to see the old lady yin and yang said strangely: "Doesn't she have her in this family, the income after quitting the job is gone, what a great skill." I'm old and blessed!"
After her husband was reprimanded, he came out with a gray face and vented his depression and dissatisfaction on Feng Ying's body.
The next day, as if deliberately, the old lady said solemnly during the meal: "I made it clear today, I can't cook with waist pain, and I can't do housework with foot pain." You who are juniors must know to honor the elderly and not expect anything from others!"
Feng Ying's face was ugly, and the baby was also frightened and cried.
She picked up the child and went to the bedroom, closing the door.
"Mom, you are making such an ugly scene on your face, what should Feng Ying do if you divorce me?"
The mother-in-law took a sip of porridge and said while picking vegetables: "Her personality is like a soft egg, dare to talk back to me?" They are all married and have children, and they can't make any waves, so you don't care. ”
The mother-in-law thought that her daughter-in-law had become a mother-in-law for many years, and naturally she also had to play a trick on the prestige of being a mother-in-law and balance the deformed psychology.
And Feng Ying was holding the child sitting on the bed and shedding tears, looking at the baby she was both distressed and aggrieved.
She had thought about divorce before, but since she had given birth to a child, she had been even softer and couldn't do it.
If her mother-in-law doesn't help her, she can't work to make money, and now she's coming to a dead end.
Remembering her former well-meaning colleague, she hesitated and called.
With six gods and no master, she only hoped that someone who understood could show her the way.
Colleagues used to be good friends with Fengying, after listening to Fengying's predicament, colleague Xiao Ai said: "Yingzi, you are too soft in your heart, your mother-in-law is now eating and bullying you." ”
Without waiting for Fengying to answer, she continued: "You listen to me, and the next time you throw the child down, you pack up your things and leave." If they still want this home, they will naturally coax you back. If you don't come to you, you'll divorce your children in a few days. ”
The words of her friend made her suddenly enlightened, this trick can be won, and if she loses, she can get rid of the entanglement of the family and start over.
Soon the opportunity came, the mother-in-law did not sleep well at night because the child was crying, and the next day she went to bed in the living room and scolded and grinned.
One moment he said that the daughter-in-law was incompetent and would not take the child, and the next he said that the child cried every day and it was like a quarrel to death.
As the child's grandmother said such a thing, Feng Ying really couldn't stand it at this moment.
She looked at the child reluctantly and said to the outside world with determination: "Mom! Since I came to this house you have been dissatisfied everywhere, so I am leaving!"
Saying that, he picked up the bag and snatched the door out, and the baby seemed to know something and cried loudly.
The mother-in-law stood there for more than a minute without reacting, and finally the child kept crying before she panicked.
She quickly called her son to explain the situation, and asked him to coax Feng Ying back, otherwise this unanheated child would not be fatal.
But for several days in a row, the daughter-in-law Fengying did not come back, and the child's throat was going to cry and dumb.
The mother-in-law knew that the daughter-in-law was really moving, and she thought about it and took the child to Fengying's house in person to intercede.
Not only did she admit her mistake, but she also promised that she would fulfill her duty as a mother-in-law in the future, and she would go to work when she should go to work in the future, and she would do things at home.
Hearing these words, Feng Ying was relieved in his heart. In fact, she can't sleep at night these days, and she always feels that the child is crying and looking for her.
When the steps came, she came down and carried the child home.
If it really goes through this uproar, I am afraid that the mother-in-law who is not chaotic in the world is honestly much, and what waist pain and foot pain are all good.
Not long after, Fengying also successfully found a job and had a new income...
The woman in the case finally cured her arrogant mother-in-law after leaving her child and running away from home.
This tells us that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not only pay attention to wisdom when getting along, but also remember the following two truths.
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One: "Fierce" women are more likely to achieve happiness.
There is a saying: women are not fierce, and their status is unstable.
This is a summary and experience of the weak position of women in modern society.
It should be known that women are inherently emotional and sentimental, so they are prone to indecisiveness in the face of decision-making problems.
As everyone knows, in family life, if you are not strong, others will be strong, and if you do not be cruel to others, you will be fierce.
Therefore, if you want to take the initiative in life in your own hands, you must be fierce.
The fierceness here is not to say that it is vicious, but that it has the fierceness to get out of the predicament and the fierceness to grasp life.
If Feng Ying in the case had not been taught by her friends to be cruel and broken, she would have just continued to suffer with her children in the predicament.
Therefore, women with fierce strength are more likely to achieve happiness.
Because happiness does not come out of thin air, nor is it sent to you by others.
On the contrary, the road to happiness is full of twists and turns, thorns, and more human-made destruction.
Only by taking up sharp weapons and being a fierce warrior can you break the obstacles and difficulties on the road to happiness
Women should be soft and rigid, fierce and hard, in order to grasp their own wonderful life.
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Second: The "silly" mother-in-law is more likely to achieve happiness.
In Chinese-style families, the status of mother-in-law is always very important.
Even if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot come together, out of the tradition of filial piety, they must also pay respect to the mother-in-law.
As the parent of a large family, the mother-in-law's responsibilities and burdens are not easy.
As the old saying goes: don't be stupid, don't be deaf, don't be a family man.
As the elderly in the family, he can naturally be called the head of the family.
Then the treatment of juniors should also be tolerant and generous, and relaxed.
As a mother-in-law, we must lead by example and convince people with reason.
It is better to treat the matter of small couples than to turn a blind eye, and it is the practice of smart people to pretend to be stupid in this regard.
Do less about children's affairs, and treat things at home with how much. Such a management method is the rare point of a mother-in-law.
Mother-in-law do a good job in the duties of elders, naturally win the respect of future generations.
So why worry about nurturing the years and enjoying the joys of the world?
So the happiness of the old man is actually very simple, all depends on whether he has that heart.
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The harmony and peace of a family is hard-won and unattainable.
Therefore, everyone should cherish their family and be kind to their family.
Don't wait until you lose it to find out that everything was once so close to you.
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