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Is the mother-in-law relationship so difficult to get along with?
It is really difficult for a strong mother-in-law, for a mother-in-law who does not know how to let go, and for a mother-in-law who has always regarded her daughter-in-law as an outsider.
The mother-in-law always believes that the daughter-in-law should unconditionally listen to her own arrangements. What she asked her daughter-in-law to do, what her daughter-in-law should do. If the daughter-in-law does not obey or compromise, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law will become a great rebel.
Perhaps when the mother-in-law was a daughter-in-law a few years ago, she was also angry with her mother-in-law. So one day, after the mother-in-law becomes a mother-in-law, she will be so cruel to her daughter-in-law.
For men, the tense mother-in-law relationship can also make them feel uneasy. Some men choose to be filial piety, they think they are very filial, they think that they have requirements for their wives, blind obedience to their mothers, this is the real filial piety.
This part of the men's approach may make the mother very satisfied, but for their wives, it is a disaster.
Tu Lei said, "Don't always try to tell your wife how difficult your mother is, your mother is not easy, that is your father's cause, that is your father's responsibility, but what about your daughter-in-law?" Your daughter-in-law's hardship is caused by you, and she is alone except for you. "If men can understand this truth, everything is not difficult.
On the wedding day of fan Li Shuang, her mother-in-law taught her to "be a person" at the wedding scene, and the next second, her mother-in-law panicked.
You love me and I love you.
Li Shuang has a good girlfriend. Two years ago, the girlfriend did not choose to marry love, but chose to marry money. At that time, the girlfriend said to her, "Women should be practical." How practical it is to marry money, to buy whatever you want, and to have another child of your own. Even if men don't love themselves one day, at least they have enough money to live on, and there are children to be used as a goal in life. ”
Li Shuang has not known whether her girlfriend's idea is right or wrong, she was still single at that time, she had not talked much about love, and she did not know what marriage meant.
Two years later, her girlfriend divorced, and she said to Li Shuang, "I think my choice at that time was wrong, and women should still marry love." What I love is my ex's money, but his money can be spent for me as well as for other women. Moreover, I don't have so much freedom financially, it's okay to spend eighteen thousand a month, and if you have more, it depends on his face. After my ex-husband cheated, even if I didn't want to get a divorce, I was willing to endure for the sake of my children, but he was already tired of it. Now that we're divorced, almost all the houses and cars are his pre-marital possessions, and I don't get anything. ”
Li Shuang lamented the bad luck of his girlfriend and failed to meet a man who knew how to cherish her. Later, she thought that her girlfriend had married for money at the beginning, not for love, and that she would have today's results, which was also expected and reasonable.
With the precedent of girlfriends, Li Shuang told himself that he must marry love in the future. Find a man you really love, you can be poor and rich, happy, happy.
When he met Liu Xuan, Li Shuang felt that his world had light up. He brought her a different world, his vision, his conversation, his humor, all fascinated Li Shuang.
The kind, considerate, and gentle Li Shuang is also the other half that Liu Xuan is looking for. The two people belong to mutual attraction, and Liu Xuan should be more active, whether it is dating or chatting. When he confessed to her, she burst into tears.
It's really not easy to meet someone who loves each other deeply. Li Shuang and Liu Xuan both understood this truth, so they cherished each other extra. After a year and a half of love, they already knew each other well and decided to get married.
Bride price, marriage room or anything is not a problem. Liu Xuan's family is not bad, and Li Shuang's family is also a wealthy well-off family. After the parents of both parties met, they had no objection to the marriage.
When Li Shuang looked at Liu Xuan, his eyes were full of love. When Liu Xuan looked at Li Shuang, he was also full of love.
One of the happiest things in the world is that the person you love just happens to love you. This is a sentence that Zhang Ailing said, but she is not so lucky. However, Li Shuang and Liu Xuan have this envy and jealous luck.
The mother-in-law taught her daughter-in-law to be a person, but she failed.
Regarding the relevant details of the wedding, Li Shuang and Liu Xuan have the same idea, they both believe that the wedding is their own business, and they have the final decision in their own hands. However, the mother-in-law does not think so.
The mother-in-law said to Li Shuang, "Daughter-in-law, the wedding is not your own business, you must discuss with me." Also, our family is more traditional, you can't wear a wedding dress on the wedding day, it's too revealing. ”
Li Shuang looked at Liu Xuan, and Liu Xuan said to his mother, "Mom, how did the wedding dress get exposed?" Now who gets married and doesn't wear a wedding dress? ”
The reply that the prospective couple got was, "I don't care what the situation is in other people's homes, my daughter-in-law, she must listen to me." ”
In addition, Li Shuang also has many things that are inconsistent with his mother-in-law's thinking. Li Shuang gave in once and compromised once, and his mother-in-law did not become content and happy, but intensified. Li Shuang felt that he was forced into a corner, and there was really no way back.
Li Shuang could only complain to Liu Xuan, she thought that the mother-in-law really managed too much. Liu Xuan said good things for Li Shuang, once or twice, after three or five times, the mother-in-law thought that everything was instigated by the daughter-in-law behind her back. Otherwise, why did his son listen to her so much before, and now he is so rebellious?
The mother-in-law wrote all the accounts on Li Shuang's head, and she had already thought about how to give her daughter-in-law a way out of the horse, and how to teach her daughter-in-law to be a person. She must let her daughter-in-law understand that she is the only hostess in this family. At this time, Li Shuang was still immersed in her vision of the wedding. Completely unaware, the mother-in-law already had other plans in mind, a plan to suppress her.
At the wedding scene, the mother-in-law repeatedly embarrassed Li Shuang in the process of changing her mouth. When Li Shuang called her "Mom", she pretended not to hear her, or she said, "Daughter-in-law, your voice is too small, like the sound of mosquitoes." I can't hear you, you're louder. ”
Li Shuang raised a few decibels, but her mother-in-law still said that she could not hear. After repeating it five times, the mother-in-law said to Li Shuang, "If you marry my son, you have to be a man with your tail between your legs." After you get married, you must be filial to me and serve me, I am the boss of the family. ”
Li Shuang did not expect that her mother-in-law taught her to be a person at the wedding scene, and there were so many guests on the scene, Li Shuang felt that he was a bit unable to get off the stage.
After Li Shuang was silent for a few seconds, she said to her mother-in-law, "Auntie, your requirements are too high, the standards are too high, I don't think I deserve your son." Why don't we end this wedding, you look for it again, find a daughter-in-law you like. I don't deserve your family. ”
The mother-in-law panicked this second, she did not expect that Li Shuang would make such a decision. The celebrant came out and played the round, and the wedding could continue. The mother-in-law now understood that Li Shuang was not a good daughter-in-law. Li Shuang and his mother-in-law's liangzi were thus concluded.
Li Shuang chose to marry Liu Xuan only because she loved him. Their marriage could have been calm, and if it were not for the intervention and participation of the mother-in-law, the wedding would not have had an emergency. From her mother-in-law's point of view, she just wanted Li Shuang to listen to her own words in the future.
From Li Shuang's point of view, if she let her mother-in-law succeed for the first time, her life would not be able to pass in the future.
Liu Xuan's attitude was quite passable, at least he had fought for and worked hard for Li Shuang. As for how long his state will last in the future, it is difficult to say.
The relationship between Li Shuang and his mother-in-law will definitely not be easy to get along with in the future. If the mother-in-law still thinks that she is right and has no problems at all, Liu Xuan's married life is not good. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been pointing to Mai Mang, it is estimated that the family has not had a good life.
It is difficult to say who is right and who is wrong. It is difficult for the Qing officials to judge the housework, the matter between Li Shuang and his mother-in-law, the wedding day has just begun, and the days to come are still long.
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