He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
What is attraction?
In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, a person's attraction can often guide the direction of the relationship and the next mode of getting along between two people.
Why do some girls, good looking, but no suitors, while a woman with average looks, but many suitors?
To some extent, the appearance of girls is important, but it is not so important.
In the eyes of boys, the attractiveness of girls is not limited to appearance, but also includes some internal advantages.
Saw a set of data on the Internet: what are the characteristics of girls that are more attractive to boys?
Among them, the top few are:
Good personality, good looks, knowledgeable, ability to do things, girlish sense.
To sum up:
Positive personality, advantageous appearance, certain connotations, outstanding ability.
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Highly attractive girls with positive personalities
Positive personality, which includes?
Kind, optimistic and cheerful, sunny and confident, empathetic, etc.
These personalities are all positive personalities.
Like what:
You come into contact with different girls, a girl is always smiling, polite when talking to you, cultivated, and unrestrained.
The other girl, with a evasive look, showed all her emotions on her face; disgust, impatience, irritability, etc.
At this time, which girl would you prefer to associate with?
There is no doubt that most boys will choose the first girl.
In people's subconscious, they all want to get along with positive, positive people.
Because people have so much energy every day, if they are consumed by others, then they will use less on themselves.
For example:
There are only 10 bad news you can tolerate today, but this girl poured all the bad emotions and negative energy on you.
Your energy is consumed by this girl.
Next, whether it's work or socializing, you're acting poorly and absent-mindedly.
On the contrary, if you are with a girl with a positive personality, you will feel that life is so beautiful and life is full of sunshine.
Get along with confident people, and you'll become confident too;
With optimistic people, you can also find ways to comfort yourself.
What if you're always with people who are dark on the inside and have negative emotions? The answer is understandable.
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Three points of looks, 7 points of temperament and appearance
A girl is not so good-looking, but she still has many suitors and many friends around her, what is the reason?
In fact, in the opposite sex, looks are really not as important as you think.
We cannot deny that:
Good-looking people have advantages in many ways and can have more opportunities.
However, girls with good temperament, unique appearance, good figure, and tasteful dress are far more attractive than just good-looking girls.
Good looks + good temperament = 8 points or more.
Good looking + poor temperament + poor appearance = passing.
That's the gap.
What is temperament?
Temperament is the road that a person has traveled, the books he has read, the things he has experienced, and the life he has crossed, and he can see the conditions and upbringing of the original family behind a person.
I often hear many girls say that they have "appearance anxiety".
In fact, excessive attention to one's own appearance is essentially a lack of confidence in one's own connotation and temperament.
If you are confident enough, have a good temperament, and have a unique connotation, no matter what traces the years leave on your face, you are still rich in your heart, still full of confidence and courage.
Just like the opening paragraph of the book "Lover":
"Everyone thinks you were beautiful when you were young, but I think you are more beautiful now than when you were young." Compared with you when I was young, I love your face now that has been through vicissitudes. ”
The years make people old, but the temperament and the confidence that melts in the bones cannot be changed.
Smart, confident, good temperament girls, always able to bring inexplicable attraction to boys.
Because boys can get a powerful "energy magnetic field" from such a girl.
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High emotional intelligence and strong social skills
These two points are actually one point.
Girls with high emotional intelligence must have strong social skills.
As in the data above, boys actually like a girl who knows how to praise and appreciates him.
in other words:
In the bones of boys, they all long to be worshipped by the opposite sex.
There is a "opposite sex effect" in psychology that explains this very well.
After the opposite sex cooperates, doing one thing will often yield better results and completion.
Why are girls with high emotional intelligence more attractive?
Because boys will feel relaxed, comfortable, and not so tired when they get along with such girls.
What is a girl with high emotional intelligence?
Independent, have a sense of proportion, move in and out freely, and observe the color.
She is independent enough to be financially and spiritually undependent to anyone;
She has a sense of proportion and knows how far she should handle it when getting along with boys;
She is free to move forward, never miss an opportunity, and there is no ambiguity when it is time to retreat;
She knows how to observe the color of words, and when boys need it, she does not skimp on her own praise, and gives boys enough respect and face.
How can such a girl not gain the favor of men?
Today's Topic:
What kind of girls do you think are more attractive?
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