He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
What kind of person can be considered a true soul mate?
When it comes to soul mates, some people subconsciously think: the three views are the same, the opinions are the same, and the interests are similar.
In fact, the real meaning of soul mate is that even if two people can't achieve unity of ideas in some things, they can sit together and communicate deeply, respect each other, listen carefully or try to accept each other.
Soul mate is a state of "harmony and difference".
Souls can mingle, but they are independent individuals; although they are far apart, they are like being with each other.
So, what are the conditions for people to be considered your soul mate?
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There is a constant "attraction" between each other
The birth of love lies in attraction.
In other words: whether two people can develop feelings depends on whether the attraction to each other is strong.
Just like when we like a person, if the other person doesn't like you, then no matter how much you pay, it is difficult to get the other person's favor.
Conversely, if you have certain qualities that attract each other, then you don't need to say more, and it is natural for you to be together.
Attraction is like a compass for two people in the middle of the desert, which will give you directions and walk in front of each other.
Like what:
Your hobbies and interests also happen to be his hobbies.
Here's an interesting story.
A female reader left a message saying that she fell in love with her boyfriend at first sight in the library; both went to the library to read books and then got the same book.
She was on one side of the bookcase, the boy on the other, and coincidentally both men were clutching the same book.
The four eyes were facing each other, the air was still, and only two people were stunned, shy, and smiling.
Just this one contact, the two people quickly established a relationship.
More coincidentally, it was probably a secret fate, and the attraction pulled each other in front of each other; after being together, they found that there were too many similarities with each other.
Attraction is like this, people with high similarity are also more likely to be attracted.
This is a bit like "love the house and the U, hate the house and the U" principle.
The person or thing you like, the other person just happens to like; the thing you are tired of, the other party just happens to hate.
When we are together, we don't need to say too much to understand each other's intentions.
This is the soul mate – spiritually attractive, habits and preferences with a high degree of similarity.
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Being able to bring each other lasting happiness
Psychologically, it is believed that:
People are more likely to be with people who like us and show kindness to us.
Being with these people not only puts us in a relaxed state, but also brings us positive emotions.
This has to mention a word: "emotional value".
People with higher emotional value are more likely to be liked; conversely, people with low emotional value will only keep people away from him.
For soul mates, the other party must have high emotional value.
Life is short, life will not always be sweet, but will experience a variety of setbacks and tests.
When you are with each other, you can all harvest happiness and happy mood.
For example:
When you confide in him about your negative emotions and complain about the stress you are experiencing, he can always quickly bring you solutions and let you sweep away the gloom in your heart.
Just like two children playing, even if they don't say a word, each playing a game, you can get great happiness from each other.
This happiness is called "the comfort of companionship."
How much physical happiness and satisfaction can a person attain?
Nothing more than:
After eating my favorite food, I physically enjoyed some comfort and was relaxed.
Take a hot shower and you're relaxed; press a rub and you feel tired.
But these are all short-lived, unsustainable pleasures.
Only spiritual happiness never stops.
Just like some people like to read books, they are always able to understand, feel, talk to the characters in the book, and empathize with the people in the book.
For soul mates, they have this ability to "make happiness always exist."
What does it feel like to be a soul mate?
It's roughly:
The first time you walk into a certain room, you have a feeling of déjà vu; whether it is the decoration, the style of the furniture, the feeling it brings to you.
Today's Topic:
Have you met your own "soul mate"?
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