Getting married is a big thing in life, and everyone is in awe of marriage.
When it comes to getting married, I have to think of buying a house.
Some couples are very compatible when they fall in love, but when they are about to get married, the two families may argue endlessly over the issue of buying a house.
There are many problems with buying a house, and both parties often make trouble over where to buy the house, how big it is to buy, and whose name should be written on the property deed.
If the house problem is solved, then both sides are smiling, and if there is no negotiation, the two families will only be upset.
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Li Yu and Wang Yang are college classmates and a couple, but both are academic bullies and are excellent.
After graduation, Li Yu went to work in a foreign company in Beijing, and Wang Yang, in order to have an iron rice bowl, directly passed the civil service in his hometown after graduation.
In the blink of an eye, the two people reached the age of marriage and began to talk about marriage.
Wang Yang is a rural person, his father died in a car accident when he was very young, his mother was not in good health, his brother had a leg disability, the year before he had a hard time talking about his daughter-in-law, and the family lived on farming in their hometown.
Li Yu is a Beijinger, his father is a lawyer, his mother is a doctor, and Li Yu is the only daughter in the family, who has been treated as a little princess by her parents since she was a child, holding it in the palm of her hand.
In fact, there is still a big difference between love and marriage, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is related to two families.
When Li Yu's parents learned that their precious daughter was going to marry such a man, it was natural that ten thousand disagreed.
But Li Yu made up her mind, and she used many methods to force her parents to agree to this marriage, even to death.
Li Yu's parents felt that their daughter was not angry, and insisted on marrying a poor boy, so that they lost face in front of their relatives, and they no longer paid attention to their daughters in a fit of anger.
Even if Li Yu got into a stalemate with his parents, he still wanted to marry Wang Yang, so Li Yu gave up his job in Beijing and returned to his hometown with Wang Yang.
When it comes to getting married, we have to consider the problem of the house.
When Wang Yang told his family that he was going to marry Li Yu, a city girl, the whole family was very happy, and his mother felt that his son had a career, not only was he admitted to the civil service, but also married back to a city wife.
However, when Wang Yang mentioned the matter of getting married and buying a house, the family members all raised their faces and did not agree with Wang Yang's purchase of a house.
In fact, Wang Yang also felt that there was no necessary connection between getting married and buying a house, and he thought: Can't you get married without a house?
And Li Yu feels that only with a house can he feel safe and can get married.
In such a situation, the two finally came up with a countermeasure.
The two men took out all their savings, borrowed some money from friends, and finally bought a small house of seventy square meters in a small county town.
In this way, the two finally had a house, in order to save money, they did a simple wedding in the countryside, but Li Yu did not expect that life after marriage was not as happy as imagined.
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After getting married, the two lived in a small house, and soon after, Li Yu had a child.
Wang Yang took his mother over and asked her to take care of Li Yu and the child. And when the mother-in-law comes, this contradiction also comes.
The mother-in-law brought a hen from the village and raised it on the balcony, saying that the hen could lay eggs, so as to save money for eggs.
Li Yu said at that time: Mom, we are upstairs now, the air is not circulating, this house is small, and the is full of land, we are not short of money to buy eggs, don't raise chickens on the balcony. ”
When the mother-in-law heard this, she immediately said unhappily: "I don't need you to feed the chickens, and it's not so dirty, I see that you have been in the city for a long time, and you are a bit pretentious." ”
The mother-in-law's words angered Li Yu, so she and her husband complained about this matter, but who knew that her husband said: "Mom is willing to raise it, she is not in good health, you don't make her angry." ”
The mother-in-law bullied herself, and even her husband did not say a word for herself, and Li Yu regretted this marriage for the first time.
Later, Li Yu came out of the confinement and slowly resumed work. On this day, Li Yu came home from work and saw his brother and sister-in-law when he pushed the door.
It turned out that the children of the brother's family were going to primary school, and they planned to let their children go to school in the county, but if the children wanted to go to school in the county, they had to have a house in the county.
This made the brother and sister-in-law sad, they could not afford to buy a house, so they started the idea of their brother's house.
The mother-in-law said: "This house will be transferred to your brother, and it is important for the children to go to school." ”
The brother also said, "Yes, just change the name, the house is still for you to live in." ”
Of course, Li Yu was a hundred unwilling, and finally Wang Yang said: "We still live in this house, let's change the name to my brother's, first let the children have school." ”
Later, under the continuous persuasion of the in-laws, Li Yu agreed, and the house was eventually transferred to his brother-in-law.
But since the house was transferred to the brother-in-law, the brother-in-law's family also moved to this house, the house was originally small, and the family made a floor at home, saying that it was convenient for children to go to school in the city.
As a result, it is conceivable that such a large family of people is crowded in this seventy-square-meter house, and life is miserable.
Li Yu could bear such a grievance, she called her parents to complain, what parents do not love their children?
Although Li Yu's parents were angry before, li Yu was also his own daughter anyway.
They learned of Li Yu's current situation, and they were very distressed about their daughter, how could their daughter who held it in the palm of their hand suffer such grievances, so they bought a house of one hundred and twenty square meters for their daughter in the county town, so that her daughter could live with a family of three.
The house was bought by Li Yu's parents with full payment, and they spent money to decorate the house for their daughter, and the new house was in hand, and they planned to write their daughter's name on the house book.
When the mother-in-law heard that Li Yuniang's family had bought a big house for her daughter-in-law, she was very happy and made a lot of meals to celebrate.
At the dinner table, Li Yu thought that he had a new house, so he said: "This small house will be left for my brother and sister-in-law to live in, and we will move to the new house for the two of us." ”
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When my brother and sister-in-law heard that they had a white house, they smiled and closed their mouths.
The mother-in-law also felt that she had a big house in white, and while she was happy, she asked Li Yu: "Yu Yu, whose name is written in this new house?" ”
Li Yu replied bluntly: "Mom, this house will write my own name." ”
When the mother-in-law heard that the new house only wrote Li Yu's name, she was instantly unhappy, so she said: "How can the house only write your name, I don't agree, we are a family, why is this property deed not written as my son's name!" ”
The sister-in-law then said: "Yes, which house buyer does not have to write the name of their own man?" ”
The brother also said: "My mother is right, this real estate certificate must add my brother's name." ”
Li Yu had been angry in her heart before, and as soon as she heard them say such a thing, she angrily said, "Why don't you write your name?" You are too dissatisfied, this house was bought by my parents in full, did your family spend a penny, why can't you just write my name? ”
Hearing this, the mother-in-law was angry and said: "Your family has money, and the house is also bought by your family, but Wang Yang and you are a family, he is a man, and this family must be taken by him, so you should write his name, otherwise you should go out to the house where you live, but there is no husband's name, which will make people laugh."
Li Yu was completely annoyed by her mother-in-law's unreasonable request, and her face was not put on the ground, and she directly said angrily: "Okay, you want to add your son's name, but your family must take out half of the money to buy a house, otherwise you will add a name if you don't want to get a penny."
Li Yu's words made her mother-in-law instantly suffer, she knew that her family could not come up with so much money, and also put forward such an unreasonable request.
She didn't even have a chance to refute it, and finally she scolded in exasperation: "You don't know what to do, you daughter-in-law don't want it." ”
The mother-in-law dropped the bowl and chopsticks, and then went back to the room angrily, the brother-in-law saw that the situation was not good, did not make a sound again, and Wang Yang also went to the balcony to smoke.
Li Yu shed tears at that time, she felt that since she married into this family, she had not felt happiness, and her in-laws had also let her suffer all the grievances.
At this time, Li Yu regretted it very much, she regretted that she did not listen to her parents' advice, married into such a family, the mother-in-law did not hurt, the husband did not love, but also by the brother and sister-in-law squeezed.
Li Yu no longer wanted to be wronged, and at her insistence, the new house eventually wrote her own name, and with the support of her parents, she also divorced Wang Yang and left the family that made her sad.
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In fact, it is not difficult for us to see that the Wang Yang family belongs to the insatiable type of people, and there are many such people in life, who do not know how to be grateful, and take the kindness and dedication of others as a matter of course.
Such people will certainly get the punishment they deserve.
The basis of marriage is love, but it is undeniable that the stability of marriage also requires a certain amount of financial support.
For some people, there is no need to buy a house when getting married, because the two people have the same view, and both families also support it, even if they rent a house after marriage, they can have a happy life.
But for others, there must be a house before marriage, so that there will be security after marriage and the family will be stable.
Then again, the most important thing is that the family works together and unites and loves each other, so that even if they encounter difficulties, they can spend it together.