"Daughter-in-law, your child brings it by herself", the mother-in-law only thinks about leisure, and when she is old, she regrets it

The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart

Since ancient times, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been one of the puzzles that are difficult to solve, and in most families, it is very common for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be very unhappy because of various trivial matters, some because of children's problems, some because of the problem of dealing with habits for people, and they are not used to looking at each other.

However, for all the mother-in-law contradictions, the most difficult to solve is the problem that arises because of the child.

01 Married for many years, the mother-in-law has not asked anything

Chen Hui has settled in the city since marrying her husband Chen Qi, and her mother-in-law is far away in the countryside, so Chen Hui has seen her mother-in-law a few times.

However, in Chen Hui's impression, the mother-in-law has always been not very satisfied with her, in the final analysis, the living conditions of the mother-in-law's family are much better than her own family, and when she and Chen Qi meet their parents, Chen Qi can obviously feel that the mother-in-law has some contempt for herself, and she is always tempted by her family situation.

But for Chen Hui, the person she marries is her husband, and as long as Chen Qi is good to herself, she is already very satisfied.

Although the mother-in-law was unhappy, she could not stop her son's determination to marry Chen Hui.

But on the wedding day, the mother-in-law looked listless, and the day after the wedding, the mother-in-law went to her sister's house alone on the grounds that she had something to do.

When Chen Hui's mother-in-law went out, she and Chen Qi discussed the two of them returning to their homes in the city together.

Because Chen Hui and her husband were still young at that time, they had no plans to have children for the time being, and the two thought of living a happy and sweet world of two people.

The world of the two is indeed very sweet, 2 years have passed in a flash, and during these two years, the mother-in-law has not cared about their affairs, and Chen Hui and her husband are also happy and idle.

02 The arrival of the child, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law appeared

After two years, Chen Hui had the plan to have children, before this, her husband Chen Qi had considered this matter, once Chen Hui had a child, then there must be someone around to take care of, and his work is usually very busy, and he is afraid of slacking Chen Hui.

So Chen Qi made a phone call with her mother, who lived in the countryside, and said hello in advance, hoping that she could help her take care of the children. However, unexpectedly, Chen Hui's mother-in-law resigned for various reasons, and the meaning of the words was that she did not want to take care of Chen Hui, and the child herself did not want to interfere too much.

After hanging up the phone, Chen Qi smiled awkwardly at his wife, and Chen Hui also heard clearly on the side, Chen Qi still wanted to defend: Maybe our mother will try to be idle.

Chen Hui did not make a sound.

Since Chen Hui was pregnant, her mother-in-law came back by chance, bringing some supplements by the way, most of the time she was in her own home, not knowing what she was busy with.

Chen Hui looked at the girlfriends around her when she was pregnant, and she had her mother-in-law on the side to take care of her wholeheartedly, but she did everything herself, and she did not feel some loss in her heart.

Sometimes the husband works late, Chen Hui is alone at home all day, there is no one to talk to, and over time, Chen Hui's mood is getting worse and worse. Although Chen Hui did not want to, whenever her husband returned home, Chen Hui still couldn't stop complaining to him, and her husband could only try his best to comfort him.

03 "You don't care about the children, I don't ask you about it"

Although the process is very arduous, the result is good after all, and after the persistence of the husband and wife, the child is finally born smoothly.

However, as a new mother, taking care of the child is not an easy task, and sometimes the husband and wife will have some differences because of the child's problems, but from beginning to end, the mother-in-law has never asked a question about the child, nor has she provided some help in taking care of the child.

It is precisely because of this that in Chen Hui's heart, she has always complained about her mother-in-law.

Over the years, Chen Hui has not had much contact with her mother-in-law, so there has been no contradiction between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and of course, the relationship between the two is not as cordial as that of the general mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Slowly, Chen Hui gradually became clear that her mother-in-law was a person who liked to be idle. But there is nothing wrong with liking leisure, but it is also necessary to divide the time, if even your daughter-in-law and grandchildren do not ask, then how to talk about family affection.

Soon, the mother-in-law was old and still unable to move, and she planned to let Chen Hui go home for a few days to take care of herself.

When Chen Hui heard her mother-in-law's request, she directly refused her mother-in-law: You didn't care about me and the child at the beginning, and now you don't expect me to take care of you.

After the mother-in-law heard Chen Hui's words, she couldn't help but regret it a little, because she was happy and idle and looked down on Chen Hui's family situation, she had not paid anything to her family for so many years, she thought that this would be peaceful, but she did not expect that when she was old, she would fall to the point of being old and helpless.

Conclusion: In fact, for many mothers-in-law, even if they are disliked by their daughters-in-law, they are also dedicated to their grandchildren, although this will increase the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but this is what a normal family should look like.

Even if there are many misunderstandings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in the final analysis, the purpose of the two is the same, both are for the good of this family, time will eventually wash away everything, and when they are old, the daughter-in-law will also do her own filial piety to her mother-in-law.

However, for those mother-in-law who do not care about things and like to be the treasurer, although there has not necessarily been a contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for many years, the feelings between the two are too weak after all, the mother-in-law does not care about the daughter-in-law, and when the mother-in-law is old, it is difficult for the daughter-in-law to take care of the mother-in-law.