Modern society pays more and more attention to emotional intelligence, and to some extent, emotional intelligence determines the future of children.
6 manifestations of low emotional intelligence
Do you have any children?
Children with low emotional intelligence
It's hard to grow up
"Although low emotional intelligence cannot be seen or touched, it is like an invisible knife, invisibly cutting off the daily life of others, hurting others, and even destroying their own lives."
Children with low emotional intelligence have difficulty in living in harmony with others and the world, and it is difficult to accept themselves.
Such a child, the future is really difficult to have a career.
How to raise children with high emotional intelligence?
2. Cultivate an optimistic attitude in children
There is a child in the community who is particularly likable, fell down and climbed up clumsily, and did not forget to wave a fist and shout "Ori give";
When he encounters children who are reluctant to share toys with him, he will also comfort himself: "It doesn't matter, I will ask him again later." ”
Is a very optimistic kid.
In fact, optimism is the key to children's high emotional intelligence, because optimistic children can face problems more positively, have stronger resistance to setbacks, and are not easily affected by the environment and have a spirit of self-encouragement.
How to cultivate children's optimism, emotional intelligence expert Zhang Yijun gave advice:
Incorporate a sense of humor and imagination into the discipline process.
For example, to help your child pack up your toys, you can say: "The car misses its home", "The baby building blocks are sleepy, it's time to go home and sleep", "Pencils and pencil caps are good friends, let them hug each other"...
On weekdays, you can develop a "it's okay" mantra with your children, so that children can face a better tomorrow with a cheerful attitude.
3. Create opportunities for children to interact
Many parents are worried that their children are small and easy to be injured, and they always keep their children at home, hold them in their arms, and overprotect their children.
However, the authoritative American Parenting Encyclopedia clearly states:
"The best way for a child to learn to get along with others is to get a lot of learning opportunities, and although his current behavior is not conducive to interacting with people, parents should actively create opportunities for him to play with other children."
Children may be noisy, but they can also learn the ability to deal with contradictions, unity and cooperation, communication and coordination in "actual combat".
Of course, parents should also pay attention to observing their children's performance and guiding them afterwards, such as:
Teach children to be polite:
"Mom heard you say the word 'please, and I'm so proud you were so polite."
Teach kids to share:
"If you're ready, your mother thinks it's a pleasure for you to share toys with your children, and of course, you can also exchange toys with your children to play, what do you think?"
Teach kids to line up:
"Slides are public toys, and if you want to play, you need to queue up, and whoever comes first will be in front, and orderly people can have fun more."
Parents are the best emotional intelligence coaches for children, as long as they are patiently educated and carefully guided, their emotional intelligence can become higher and higher.
Writer Ke Yunlu once said:
"Emotional intelligence determines a person's love, marriage, study, work, relationships, and entire career more than IQ."
While paying attention to their children's IQ, parents must also remember the cultivation of emotional intelligence.
Children with high emotional intelligence are more acceptable to themselves internally;
Externally, we know how to respect others and live in harmony with society.
On the road to growth, let high emotional intelligence help children open the door to the world.
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