Márquez said in Love in the Time of Cholera that the trivial troubles of everyday life are more difficult to avoid than the great catastrophes in marriage.
"Who should do the housework?"
Housework is a trivial part of life, why some men always take "women doing housework" as the right thing to do, which has led to the contradiction of many families "cutting continuously, rationalizing and messing up".
A "letter of apology" from my father
In an Indian short film "Housework", the old father went to visit his young daughter who was married and had children, and he did not expect to see such a scene:
The daughter answered the phone while handling the work, sorting out the scattered toys on the floor, washing and cooking, while the son-in-law sat leisurely on the sofa and waited for his wife to bring tea and pour water.
The old father was deeply touched and left a letter for his daughter before leaving:
I'm sorry I never helped your mom to make you look in the eye and learn.
Your husband must have learned from his father as well, and I apologize for his father and sorry for every father who did the wrong demonstration.
After the old father returned home, he took the initiative to help his wife dry his clothes, and although his wife was slightly surprised, she still could not hide the smile on her face.
In China, there are also many families who have had the idea of "male outside, female inside" for generations, believing that men should stand on the outside, housework should not be interfered with, and even boys should not be allowed to enter the kitchen from an early age.
And the daughter, when she was a child, was asked to learn to do housework, do housework when she grew up, and teach her husband and children, otherwise she would not be able to marry out in the future.
As everyone knows, in this "equality between men and women" society, women have long been able to stand up to half the sky, in the society, the wind and fire have done a career that is not inferior to men, how can you still ask women to be busy with work and take on all the housework, housework instead of being jointly undertaken by both husband and wife?
This is actually a mistake that dissects the man from this family life. Making men unaware of the responsibilities of the family is often learned from the behavior of the fathers in the family and the education of the mother.
His father was like this, returning home from work and doing nothing, and his mother told him:
"You work so hard outside, you get married and marry your daughter-in-law, and you just let her do all these chores."
In such an environment, men also have the same thinking as the previous generation, thinking that women should do housework.
Men are not uncles
Lin Yunyun in the TV series "Growing Up with You" is a mother who does housework every day and takes care of her children. Her husband counts her down every day, does not earn money, will not do anything, and does not respect her.
But when she wanted to get rid of the housework and walk out of the house, her husband said that she could take care of the housework at home.
Does he really want his wife to go out and work?
No, he just enjoyed the feeling of being treated like a grandpa by his wife.
Men who think this way are extremely selfish and immature. They often determine family status on the basis of economic status. Ignoring the wife's efforts to clean up in the home and take care of the children is not worth a few dollars.
The husband's monthly salary is 20,000 yuan, the wife's monthly income is 5,000 or the housewife has no income, he will feel that the wife earns less, has no income, and it is appropriate to do more housework, he thinks that he is running around to pay more for the family, then the wife should do more housework for corresponding compensation.
In fact, the family is not a woman's alone, how much income, the size of the work ability, and the payment in this family do not have much to do.
It is unfair for the husband to bring the work into the family.
What women need is not a glittering elite in the office building, but a responsible boyfriend, a husband who knows how to care for his family.
Housework makes the family more harmonious
Men who do not do housework do not know how to take on the responsibility of the family, and are accustomed to throwing housework and responsibilities to their wives, and the burden of the wife in the marriage will become heavier and heavier, and moving forward will only make the relationship between husband and wife lose heat.
Men who do not do housework are often macho and do not know how to feel sorry for their wives, which will make their wives feel the happiness of marriage.
Marriage is a trivial life, and it is indispensable to do housework.
Doing housework is like a big stage for cultivating the feelings of a wife, and in the process of doing housework, men can experience the difficulty of women and cherish the fruits of her labor.
Only in this way can the feeling of home be more harmonious, the feelings of the wife and father-in-law more happy, and the warmth of the family be more appreciated.