Tiger father education is not a "household affair", and the Anti-Domestic Violence Law must be managed

Author: Shen Bin

Recently, a tiger father in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, forced his children who were still in primary school and kindergarten to learn high numbers, during which he even insulted and beat his children, and his wife Zheng Applied to the Nanjing Jianye District People's Court for a personal safety protection order. The court ruled that the respondent Mao was prohibited from committing domestic violence against his wife, two children and their relevant close relatives, and the validity period of the protection order was limited to three months.

As we all know, judicial rulings not only have the effect of disposing of and punishing the parties, but also have the role of publicity and warning in the whole society. This time, the "Tiger Father and Tiger Mother Education" was identified by the judicial organs as domestic violence, and it was also a wake-up call for all parents who hoped to become a dragon and pulled up seedlings: be careful of bumping into the red line of the "Anti-Domestic Violence Law", and then Man said that he could not educate his children, that is, meeting with his children may be prohibited.

Nowadays, academic competition is becoming more and more fierce, some parents, especially parents with high academic qualifications, there are serious educational anxieties, and some also have unrealistic expectations for their children, especially worry that their children will not be able to enter their own universities of the year, forming the so-called "class slippage" worry, the result is that many parents with higher education, in their children's education showed incredible paranoia, grabbing the runway, playing chicken blood, requiring children to know thousands of Chinese characters before going to primary school, mathematical and physical and chemical various rushes, a spoonful of stew.

In this process, many parents have lost the original intention of education and forced their children into the "fast-forward life", which seems to be "learning fast" and "memorizing more", but it is likely to dampen their children's interest in learning and their curiosity to explore the world. Rough behavior in the teaching process may also destroy the parent-child relationship.

Just like this tiger father in Nanjing, forcing 5-year-old and 7-year-old children to learn advanced mathematics and recite the words and phrases of Tuo QuYi, which is completely contrary to the children's learning and cognitive laws. Ostensibly "good for the child," it is inherently selfish —violent education in the name of love.

Violence education is not education, but domestic violence, and the law should be in charge. The Anti-Domestic Violence Law clearly stipulates that domestic violence not only includes physical violations such as beatings, binding, maiming, and restrictions on personal freedom, but also includes mental abuses such as regular verbal abuse and intimidation. If parents' chicken blood education develops to the point of insults, intimidation, and personality insults, although it is not directly used, but sufficient to infringe on the physical and mental health of minors, it will enter the protective range of the Anti-Domestic Violence Law.

The Anti-Domestic Violence Law, adopted in 2015, has set up a "personal protection order" system for the recurrent, concealed and minor characteristics of domestic violence, so that parties can apply to the people's court for a personal safety protection order because they have suffered domestic violence or face the actual danger of domestic violence. This is both to protect the victim and to punish the perpetrator through a "cut-off" approach, so that they understand the seriousness of the domestic violence committed.

According to reports, before issuing the habeas corpus, in the face of the coordination of functional agencies, Mao has not been able to recognize the problem of improper education methods, but instead believes that his discipline of children is only "family affairs", and finally his wife has to apply to the court for a habeas corpus order. Tiger Father Mao Mou faced the 3-month personal safety protection order deadline, should be calm and calm, and reflect on where he is wrong.

Other tiger fathers and mothers should also learn from this, understanding that although the child is born by themselves, the child is not their own "private property" of the common sense. Children have independent personality rights protected by law, and once the crammed and chicken-blood education crosses the line, it is a domestic violence prohibited by law. (Shen Bin)

Source: Guangming Network - Commentary Channel