In today's society, there are more and more people who don't get married.
Many parents have worked hard to raise their children, always hoping that they can have a career and start a family as soon as possible.
It seems that as long as the children get married and buy a house, their life tasks will be handed in.
But where is it so simple in reality, sometimes I desperately push my children into marriage, and in the end, it is an empty joy.
01
Relatively many loans.
In reality, many people have an account in their hearts when they go on a blind date.
If the other party has a lot of mortgages and car loans, and the monthly salary is deducted from the loan, there is not much left, this situation is indeed a little frightening.
The daily expenses and raising children may have to be pressed on another person, but the property rights of the house have nothing to do with themselves.
Who wants to take their own life to be a "backstabber" regardless of returns?
Everyone is not stupid and will settle accounts, so it is natural to think twice about these situations.
Those who do not have the pressure of borrowing money are more competitive in the blind date market, because life will be much easier without that layer of financial burden.
In contrast, people with large loans, even if they can afford them, are often excluded.
The days are tired enough, and who doesn't want to find someone to live with easily?
Because of this, families with a lot of loans often suffer losses in the blind date market.
02
There is a "problem" with the family structure.
In the game of blind date, everyone has a small calculation in their hearts, not only to see how the other party looks and how much they earn, but also to examine the family background.
For example, if the other party is from a family with many children and has a younger brother at home, in this case, some people begin to wonder in their hearts: Will this younger brother divide the family property in the future? Will it affect the economy of our small family?
If the other party's family is not in good financial conditions, this concern is even greater.
There are also some families that have been reorganized, or have many children in the family, and these situations are also worrying.
After all, after two people get married, the burden in life is not light, and when they encounter these complicated family relationships, there will be many problems.
To put it bluntly, everyone wants to find a family without "hard injuries" to marry, after all, people are realistic, and it is instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
The blind date market is such a realistic selection process, which considers not only the feelings of two people, but also the potential burden behind the families of both parties.
These realistic considerations cannot be avoided, and no one wants to gamble on their future with uncertain risks.
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The elderly at home have the burden of providing for the elderly.
In this society that is too realistic to be realistic, falling in love and getting married have long become a naked transaction.
Think about it, how high the cost of living is right now.
No matter how frugal the two old men are, they have to spend 2,000 yuan a month in the city.
Not to mention those who often go to the hospital and buy medicines, and the medical expenses are piled out.
Young people earn thousands of dollars a month, and they have to rent a house, eat, and save some money, and their lives are tight.
If you add the pension expenses of the two old people, just thinking about it makes people's scalps tingle.
Such a family really has no advantage in entering the blind date market.
As soon as the other party heard that there are two elderly people in your family to support, no pension and no medical insurance, it is estimated that they will not even have the opportunity to meet for the second time.
Because there are few people who are willing to bear the extra expenses for the two elderly people in their future lives.
What's more, who can guarantee that the elderly will not get sick in the future? The cost of a serious illness is enough to empty a family.
The reality is so cruel.
Those old people who do not have a pension at home are like a disadvantage card, forcing young people to hit a wall everywhere in the marriage market.
Talking about marriage is no longer just about feelings, but about calculating the bills first to see if you can afford the future.
Let my words come into your heart
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